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10 signs the twin flame separation stage is almost over

Okay, so you’ve tried reading up on what twin flame relationships are. You’ve also been learning about how you can find your twin flame.

But you still can’t seem to meet your destined partner. You try to be patient but it’s been extremely difficult.

If this sounds like you, we’re here to tell you something:

Maybe the answer is in first working on a different kind of relationship — your relationship with yourself.

In this article, we want to share the 10 signs the twin flame separation stage is almost over. These are the inner signs that show if you’re truly ready to meet your twin flame.

After reading this, we hope you’ll have more clarity on where you are at and how else you could work on yourself

1) You know that you are loved and complete just as you are

It’s no surprise that a lot of people are struggling to believe that this is true.

Just take a look at the movies and shows that we grew up in! A lot of these taught us to idealize what a relationship should look like.

Now, it’s not wrong to regard relationships highly (especially twin flame ones).

BUT it becomes toxic when we put all of our hopes on our Prince Charming or our damsel in distress to make us feel whole and complete.

If you’ve accepted this truth, you’ll know that the twin flame separation stage is almost over.

You know in your heart that it’s not another human being’s job to make you feel loved and fulfilled. You have a newfound appreciation for your independence and you see it in a whole different light.

In the past, maybe you were afraid to be seen in public alone. You’d always make sure you had someone with you at all times. You were scared of the judgment of other people because it used to define your self-worth.

But now, you know that being alone doesn’t mean that you’re lonely.

You can accept your singleness and you even celebrate it! You enjoy your own company.

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You refuse to listen to the toxic voices that say that you are not attractive or beautiful enough. You believe you are loved and complete as you are.

If you’re unhappy, you know the answer can’t be found in another person. You don’t rely on other people for joy because you are perfectly happy on your own.

The bottom line is: You know you are enough. You are so enough.

2) You’ve accepted that any potential partner will never be perfect

A lot of us are familiar with THE checklist.

Yup, it’s the list of things that you thought you absolutely NEEDED in a partner. It’s usually meticulously thought out and excruciating in detail.

Let me guess. You wanted your twin flame to:

  • Know all your favorite songs by heart
  • Always be at home even while juggling two full-time jobs
  • Be sensitive but not TOO sensitive

And the list goes on and on.

Clearly, these are all great things to have in a partner…

But it’s just terribly unrealistic.

Maybe at certain points in your relationship, your twin flame can be all these things at once. But I’m willing to bet that it’s not gonna be like this all the time.

If this false idea is something that you’ve overcome, you are one step closer to finding your twin flame.

Do the following sound familiar?

You’ve stopped romanticizing your twin flame as a perfect person that can do no wrong.

You also wouldn’t evaluate your partner based on impossible standards or unrealistic expectations. You know he/she will never check off all the items on your list, but you would accept your twin flame anyway.

Not to say that you would just ignore all red flags in your relationship. The crucial part here is that you are willing to work past these imperfections and grow together.

You are aware that, just like you, your future twin flame is also human. It is inevitable that he/she will also commit mistakes. Your partner will have flaws, scars, and weaknesses, just like any other human being.

Even then, you know that there is no one else that you’d rather go through life with. You are willing to be forgiving and patient because you know you’d love to be treated the same way.

3) You know how you can best love a future partner

Knowing how you can best love a future partner is an essential sign of an ending twin flame separation stage.

If you’ve matured enough, you’d know that this knowledge isn’t something that you just magically wake up with one day.

You know that it takes years and years of real-life experience.

You’ve been in countless relationships to know how you can best contribute to people’s lives. You are mindful of the many ways that you can build up another person.

But it hasn’t always been a bed of roses.

You’ve also had your fair share of life-draining relationships. But you appreciate them because this is where you learned the most from.

Even in the worst moments, you were able to find a way to fix and repair these broken relationships. And you’ll be taking the lessons you gained wherever you end up.

You’ve also learned that compromise is key. You know that this builds a solid foundation for any relationship. It’s always a give-and-take.

Another sign is that you are able to communicate effectively with your friends and family. Honesty and integrity are values that are of utmost importance to you.

You’ve also discovered the true meaning of empathy. You are able to put someone else’s interest before your own.

And when times get tough (and they will), you know when it’s the right time to give advice or when it’s more appropriate to listen.

All these taken into consideration, you know now how you can best love a future partner.

This takes a different kind of selfless and sacrificial love that perhaps wasn’t familiar to you before. But now, you’ve embraced it completely, knowing full well it is only if we love in this way that we can begin to thrive.

4) You’re ready to be vulnerable with another person

A lot of people are terrified just by the thought of vulnerability. But if you’re truly ready to meet your twin flame, this is something that you need to come to terms with.

Do the following experiences ring a bell? If they do, you’ll know that the twin flame separation stage is almost over.

You have overcome your fear of risks. You’re willing to dive headlong into a new relationship even if there’s a possibility of getting hurt.

You’re ready to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Uncertainty doesn’t scare you as much as it did before. You know that it’s okay if you haven’t figured out everything yet.

Perhaps you used to think that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. But you know better now.

For you, vulnerability is a necessary first step to open up experiences of true love and happiness.

Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you’re weak or fragile.

On the contrary, it means that you are strong. You are bold and courageous enough to let someone else in your life.

You also wear your heart on your sleeve. You can completely open up to another person and let yourself be seen for who you truly are.

You are an open book. You are not only determined to show your strengths, but also all the imperfections that you used to hide.

You are willing to show the completely non-edited version of yourself. You know that even with all these flaws, you are still worthy of love.

5) You have a greater awareness of yourself

Before you start a relationship with your twin flame, it’s important that you can fully work on yourself first.

The key to this is in becoming more self-aware.

It may sound simple, but it’s not as easy as some may think.

People change so much throughout their lifetimes. You adapt your personality and outlook depending on so many internal and external factors. You have to constantly discover and rediscover yourself.

Knowing yourself requires plenty of self-reflection and introspection on your end. If this sounds like something you already do, you are definitely on the right track.

These are the signs that you are about to meet your twin flame:

You have a good idea of your strengths or the things that you are good at.

You have focus. You may have a lot of different interests, but you know that you can never be naturally good at everything. You invest more of your time and energy into your inborn talents.

You can identify each of your unique hard and soft skills that you contribute to various projects. You know how you can best serve teams with your knowledge and expertise.

Not only do you know your strengths, but you also know which hobbies you enjoy. You are conscious of which activities bring you great satisfaction and fulfillment. You know what makes you feel alive.

You are also mindful of how you can best deal with your natural tendencies and inclinations. You are aware that this is needed if you are to reach balance within yourself.

Some of these natural tendencies come in the form of weaknesses. And even if it may be difficult to admit at first, you can also identify all of your flaws. 

But you don’t just stop there.

You also want to continually grow and develop as a person. So you strive to improve on these weak points.

Yes, there may be times that you feel that it’s so hard to change. You may have entertained the thought that it’s pointless to keep trying to better yourself.

But you shut down these toxic voices. You know that if you work hard enough, you can definitely improve yourself over time.

And even if you can’t be 100% perfect all the time, at the end of the day, you accept who you are. You accept what you can give. You are kind to yourself because you are your own best friend.

This acceptance makes you truly comfortable in your own skin.

All of these traits will help you as you begin a relationship with your twin flame. You must never underestimate the power of self-awareness.

6) You have a clear purpose in life

Self-awareness will also lead you to have more clarity regarding your purpose in life.

Once you have a deeper understanding of this, you are now more ready to be with your twin flame.

This means that you can clearly identify the reasons why you do the things that you do.

Is it because you desire to serve the people around you? Is it for your own personal enjoyment? Is it because you feel that you owe it to the community to maximize your opportunities and resources?

Maybe you have a vision board that reminds you every day of your overall goal. Perhaps you have an accountability group that keeps you inspired and determined.

No matter what it is, you have a specific motivation for living. It is something that is meaningful and significant to you personally.

But for you, this purpose is concerned with so much more than just yourself. It focuses on a greater dream and idealization of how you want to change the world.

All of your efforts stem from this inner purpose. Every decision you make is to accomplish this goal and further your cause.

And perhaps your direction was unclear to you in the past.

Maybe you were in relationships that distracted you from figuring out what exactly you wanted to do with your life. Maybe you focused too much on other people to really see what you desired most.

You were young then. You didn’t have the same experiences that you do now.

But with each passing day, you found yourself more and more aligned with what you came here on earth to do. You know it in your soul. You feel it in your gut. You have a calling.

Once you have this clear purpose, it’s likely that you will find your twin flame soon. You attract what you put out into the world.

In doing this, you will find someone who shares the same goals. This person will strive to solve the same problems. He/she will fight for the same advocacies.

You will pursue your calling together, hand in hand.

7) You know what you want out of a relationship

When you’re young, it’s easy to think that you know absolutely everything you want from a relationship.

But this is almost never the case.

If you’ve had tons of experiences with different relationships, you know that this is true.

At this point in your life, you know which types of relationships are going to help you grow the most.

You are aware of the love language that makes you feel the most valued. You know how you want to feel and to be treated in a relationship.

You know yourself well enough. You are aware of your personality traits and ideals and how other people will receive this.

You are mindful of the boundaries that you want to set for your own mental health. And you are able to communicate all your needs effectively to a potential partner.

You also know what you want in a partner. And this goes beyond just the shallow.

You admire people who show trust, loyalty, and integrity. You want real commitment, like the kind that you are willing to give.

You want your twin flame to share the same lifelong dreams and goals. You are very specific with the person that you want to attract.

You’ve listened to other people’s stories and you’ve learned from their mistakes. Throughout the years, you’ve gained valuable insights from the narratives of the people around you. You strive to live by these lessons and standards every day.

You know the personal red flags that you want to avoid at all costs. You have made it your personal mission to not be taken advantage of anymore. You will not be swayed like before and you are determined to make a stand.

The more specific you are with what you want out of a relationship, the more likely it is that the twin flame separation stage is almost over.

8) You’ve accepted that there is purpose in all of your past experiences

At this point in your life, you’ve experienced and gone through so much already. There is no denying that.

Of course, there have been countless beautiful memories. These are the times where it seems like everything is going right.

All your dreams are coming true and all your efforts are fruitful.

Relationships are well and thriving. You feel as if you’re on top of the world.

But then there come the bad days.

These are the seasons where you feel the most hopeless and helpless. You feel trapped, alone, and empty.

This is when it gets so difficult to even remember what the good days feel like. The suffering never seems to end. It just goes on and on and on.

One sign that the twin flame separation stage is almost over is that you’ve accepted that there is purpose in all of your past experiences.

You know that there is a profound reason for everything that has happened to you. Even if you may never understand why, you have faith that this is true.

You trust the process and you feel at peace with the past and the present.

And you think that perhaps all these things had to happen so that you can become the person that you’re meant to be.

You know that you’re much stronger now. You have unmistakable confidence like you’ve never felt before. You can show greater empathy with those who struggle with similar challenges.

Not only have you accepted the events of the past, but you’ve also overcome them.

You’ve healed from your trauma. You are definitely no longer the same person.

You’ve removed your previous addictions. You know that these things can never truly fulfill you in the way that you want. You are free.

You no longer believe in toxic ideas and mindsets. You are strong enough to resist messages that do not align with your values and ideals. You have the bravery to go against what is popular for what is right.

These lessons from your past experiences have molded you to become the person that you are today.

With all of these, you can now better love your twin flame in the way that he/she deserves to be loved.

9) You trust the timing of all events in your life

This next sign is a little bit related to the last one. But it’s more focused on how you understand the timing of everything in your life.

You have learned the value of being patient.

You know it’s okay to make plans (even highly detailed ones). It’s understandable to want to follow a timeline and it’s even recommended in most instances.

But at the end of the day, you know that a lot of things are out of your control. You’ve surrendered the outcome of your plans. What’s important is that you did what you could at the moment.

You recognize that there is a reason why it’s taken this long for you to be with your twin flame. You know that it’s only for the best.

You are exactly where you need to be right now.

Trusting in the timing of everything also means taking advantage of whatever comes your way.

Maybe you’re presented with a big opportunity and you’re completely ecstatic at first. Despite this, you may think that you’re not yet ready to accept the opportunity with open arms.

Is it because you doubt your capabilities and talents? Or maybe you are uncertain of the strength of your resolve.

But when this happens, you make sure to think twice. You think that maybe this is a sign that you are actually ready even if you may not feel like it.

You know that there is a time for everything. And maybe this is it.

Once you’re able to trust the timing of all events in your life, you’ll know that your twin flame is just around the corner.

10) You regularly practice gratitude and contentment

You know you’re in a good place when you observe the world around you with a grateful heart.

In the past, maybe you used to constantly focus on the negative. But now, you reject the idea that your problems are the only things that matter.

It may have been difficult to change at first. But over time, you’re able to look at things that you didn’t seem to notice before with great appreciation.

You are grateful for the past. You regularly remember how you’ve overcome previous setbacks and adversities.

Though you may not have had the most ideal circumstances, you’ve found a way to heal from the bitterness and the pain. And that’s always something to be thankful for.

You are grateful for the present. You know that happiness could be found in the good and the not-so-good of the moment.

And you know that the key is finding joy in the little things and the most overlooked parts of life.

Maybe you keep a gratitude journal to make sure that you never take for granted any new blessing that comes into your life. You know that the secret to a grateful life is consistent reminders.

Every single day, you recognize how people contribute to your life. Like your neighbor who offers you a home-cooked meal every now and then. Or the stranger who opened the door for you at your favorite coffee shop.

You are truly happy with where you are in life. People can clearly see that you are content with your words and actions.

You are grateful for the future. Come what may, you know that you can handle all the challenges and everything is going to be okay.

But this doesn’t mean that you think your life is absolutely perfect. You recognize that bad things happen to you. You just don’t want to stay stuck in these bad moments forever. You want to keep moving forward.

These are all good signs that you’re about to be with your twin flame.

So is your twin flame separation stage almost over?

After reading up on all these potential signs, only you can say for sure if your twin flame separation stage is almost over.

A word of advice: make sure to be honest and open. Can you really see yourself as having overcome these internal battles? Or do you think that you still have a lot of inner work to do?

Maybe you see yourself in every single sign that we’ve mentioned. If this is the case, we want to give you a big congratulations! The wait is almost over.

But maybe this isn’t necessarily you.

To give yourself some peace of mind, it’s okay if you’re not at this stage yet. It’s perfectly understandable. There’s no need to pressure yourself.

No matter where you are on your journey, you are exactly where you need to be. You are complete and whole either way.

Written by Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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