10 warning signs your partner is losing feelings for you (and what to do)

When I was going through a bad breakup, I couldn’t understand what was happening. 

I didn’t do anything wrong! 

Except maybe one thing, but it was small, and we were both stressed-out from work. But he still dumped me anyway.

That’s when I started to realize that he may have lost feelings for me. 

So here’s the deal: If you think your partner is losing feelings for you, first try to figure out warning signs. Because there are tons of reasons why a person could be losing feelings for you. 

Here are 10 warning signs that your partner is losing feelings for you and what you should do about it. 

1) They stop doing the things they did to get your attention and make you happy

That could mean fewer sweet texts, late-night FaceTime chats, flirty texts, nice dinners… The list goes on. 

I had a friend who got dumped by his girlfriend simply because she got tired of him. 

He told me, “I would bring her flowers and do extra things for her all the time. I would always text her when I was going to be late home from work. I even called her just to say hello.” And she broke up with him anyway. 

And this isn’t the only case like that. I’ve heard of other girls who broke up with guys they’ve been dating for 5 or 10 years just because he started to “get comfortable” in the relationship. 

But it’s not just women who will lose interest if you stop doing stuff for them. Guys can get bored, too! 

So if your partner is using old ploys to get your attention and make you happy, he/she may have lost feelings for you as well

2) They stop touching you in private and in public

This is the biggest sign of losing feelings for you. 

I want to stress that it’s not about flirting at all. If your partner stops touching you in private and in public, then he/she may be having romantic feelings for yourr relationship. 

For example, if your partner stops reaching out to hold hands when walking outside, or refuses to hug each other in front of other people… That could mean that he/she doesn’t want their dating status to be known in public. 

Or maybe he/she wants more privacy, and isn’t sure how others will take their relationship status. If so, they could have lost feelings for you.

3) They are constantly late or always have an excuse when scheduling things together

When was the last time your partner was actually on time for something? 

If it’s been months ago, then this could mean that he/she has lost interest in making things happen between you two. 

A person who still has feelings for you will make time for you. If your partner starts forgetting about your plans and makes constant excuses, this is a big sign of losing feelings for you. 

Your partner won’t show up at dates you already made, and he/she might even forget to call you when it’s time to meet. Or if he/she does remember, it may be last minute – like an hour or two before the event. 

He/she will also sit in front of their phone or PC the whole time during dates, because there’s someone else they want to text or talk to. 

Of course, we can’t always predict when an accident will happen, like getting stuck in traffic or being late for work. 

But if your partner has a pattern of being late or having reasons to cancel appointments, then this is another warning sign that he/she has lost feelings for you. 

4) They constantly make excuses to not have sex with you

It’s natural to have a separate bedroom if you’re in a serious relationship. 

I’ve already talked about the importance of sex in a relationship. But this is especially true for women. 

If your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore, even when you’re both free, it’s a huge sign that he/she is losing romantic feelings for you. 

Do they have an excuse to not make love because of back pain, a sore throat, or a stomach bug? 

Or maybe they’re always trying to make excuses for not having enough time, claiming that you don’t have enough privacy, or their schedule is too busy? 

If your partner is always making these kinds of excuses, it might mean that they’re just not interested in sex with you anymore. 

Make sure to put your detective cap on and be on the lookout for any excuses your partner makes

5) They’re rude, disrespectful or unsupportive of your aspirations

I’ve seen many couples who are dealing with different types of issues. 

For example, they’re dealing with kids, jobs, family problems, and many other things. 

But if your partner has lost feelings for you, he/she may not show any support or interest in your life. 

Your partner may be rude and disrespectful when you try to talk to them about something that’s important to you – like planning a future together. They may even want to change you or tell you what to do instead of supporting your choices. 

Sometimes, it might be the opposite: Your partner will support the things that interest them for a while and then stop. 

Your partner may even start to talk badly about your career and say things like, “This is not what you’re really passionate about.” 

In a healthy relationship, you can ask questions and have your partner support your decisions. But if they don’t support you anymore, that’s a big sign that they’re losing feelings for you. 

6) They become jealous of other people

When someone is jealous of another person, it means that he feels threatened. 

I’ve seen a lot of relationships where men are jealous of their girlfriend’s other friends. But I’ve seen girls be jealous of their boyfriend’s other friends or family members, too. 

There are many different reasons that men and women can be jealous. It could be about money, career, sex, looks, or anything else. 

But that’s not the point. The point is that jealousy is a sign of losing feelings for you. 

This is especially true if they’re jealous when they don’t even know another person – or when they’re positive their partner won’t ever see other people in their life, anyway. 

I always tell people that jealousy isn’t a sign of bad character – it’s a sign of weak confidence. 

If your partner is jealous of other people, then it could mean that he/she has lost the confidence of being the one that loves you the most.

7) They start to talk badly about your family and friends

When a relationship starts, couples often spend time together with their friends and family members. But there will be some point where this changes. 

When couples choose to spend time with only each other without others, it means they have true feelings for each other

But when couples start to talk badly about your friends and family, this could be a sign that they don’t care enough about your feelings when talking bad about the one who is also important to you.

They may also refuse to spend time with your family or friends, and change their plans at the last minute. 

It could also mean that they feel threatened because they love you, but don’t like the people you care about. 

If this happens to you, it’s important to find out what’s really bothering them. Or if they won’t tell you what’s wrong or change their behavior, it might be a sign that they are losing feelings for you.

8) They don’t respond to your affection and/or romantic gestures

I love touching my partner, and letting them know that I want to be with them. 

So, I always make sure to touch his shoulders, kiss him on the cheek, or even hug him. 

I know many people who don’t like this type of behavior for a variety of reasons. 

But if your partner isn’t touching you in these ways anymore, you have to sit down and talk about your relationship. 

I’m not saying that being affectionate is the only way to keep a relationship alive.

I’m just saying it’s the best way to keep a relationship alive. 

If you fail to do this, that’s a sign that your partner has lost feelings for you. 

9) They constantly negative talk about the relationship

I could go on and on about all the things that couples can do to keep their relationship alive. 

For example, a simple thing like saying “I love you” every day to keep things special every day. 

This positive talk between a couple is especially important when you’re tired, stressed, and angry at your job. It cannot solve the problem you are facing, but at least you know there is someone who loves and cares about you. And you will have the positive energy to deal with the situation. 

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On the other hand, when couples tend to start negatively talking to each other, it’s a clear sign that things are going off the road.

There are many different reasons why people start negatively talking about their partners. 

And there are many different ways people show it in their relationships, too. 

Some people just start talking negatively about their partner without any reason, and without explaining why they’re upset. 

Some people will talk negatively about their partner if they’ve had a bad day at work, or are being pressured by family members, friends, or other people.

On the other hand, if your partner starts to say bad things about you to others and talks badly behind your back, there’s a good chance that he/she has lost feelings for you

The thing is that those kinds of relationships never last because it’s impossible to keep living this way forever. 

If your partner is doing this to you, there could be many different reasons. 

But the one thing you have to remember is that this behavior shows that your partner doesn’t care about you anymore. 

10) They stop talking about their future together

When couples start a relationship, they typically talk about what’s going to happen in their future together. 

But when couples don’t talk about their future, then the relationship is over. 

The reason is that when people are in love, they naturally want to know what’s going to happen in their future together. They make plans and include each other because they never want to be separated.

But when he/she doesn’t talk about the future, it’s when they start losing feelings for you.

Instead of worrying about the future, they focus on what they have right now, what they actually have to themselves, if you are no longer together. 

I’ve seen this happen to so many couples that I couldn’t count them all. 

It’s the biggest sign that your relationship is over – and it’s a sign that your partner has lost feelings for you.

If your partner has lost feelings for you, what should you do? 

If you’re at this point, it’s going to be hard for you to do the things that need to be done. 

After all, if your partner has lost feelings for you, it means that they don’t care about what happens in your life. 

So, if you want to keep your relationship alive, you need to be able to focus on what’s important in your life right now. 

1) You need to find out why your partner has lost feelings for you

I’ve never seen anyone in a relationship without many small problems. 

And the only reason that most people don’t talk about these problems is because they’re afraid of what will happen next. 

But if you’re at this point, it means that your relationship is breaking

So, there’s no other choice but to figure out what happened and take responsibility for the things you did wrong.

2) Talk to a friend who you trust and spend more time with them

If you want to keep your relationship alive, then the only option you have is to find a way to fix what’s wrong. 

And this is when it becomes important to talk to a friend who you trust and spend more time getting advice from them.  

I suggest doing this quite often. 

Nowadays, many people don’t talk to someone they trust – especially if they’re having problems in their relationships. 

They keep their true feelings inside until they cannot hold it anymore. This kind of behavior can easily lead us to depression. 

As my article showed, there are so many different things couples can do when they’re having problems in their relationships. 

And by talking to other people, you may get a lot of valuable advice, or at least understand that there are people that are facing the same problem as you. Then you wouldn’t feel so lonely and depressed.

3) Look for relationship advice on the internet

The Internet is a blessing to us all – and it’s an important resource that you should use to solve your problems. 

There are many different relationship websites that have a lot of useful information. 

My advice for everyone is that if you’re having problems in your relationship, get help from a professional as soon as possible.

Well, I reached out to a professional relationship coach and asked them if there’s a way to keep a relationship alive even when your partner has lost feelings for you. 

They answered by telling me that sometimes it’s possible to bring your partner back and make them fall in love with you again. 

Relationship Hero is a site that teaches you the right way to keep a relationship alive – even when your partner has lost feelings for you.

So, if you’re at this point, then what you have to do is look for advice from someone who really knows what they’re doing.

Click here to get started.

4) Use the 5 love languages

When you start using the 5 Love Languages, it will help you to communicate better and show appreciation to your partner. Learning the 5 Love Languages can be a good idea if you’re in this kind of situation. 

Giving gifts, spending time together, physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation are the five love languages. 

If your partner is finding it difficult to fall in love again with you, then it’s very likely that he/she has lost feelings for you because they aren’t receiving the right things from you. 

In other words, they’re probably not feeling connected to you like they used to – and this is what makes them feel distant from you.

5) The best way to get things back on track is to focus on what’s important

Some people say that it’s time for them to focus on other things in their life instead of focusing on the relationship. 

Because if you do this, then your relationship will be fine in the long run. 

But regardless of how much time you spend with a particular person, if they don’t care about what happens, then they’re not worth keeping around. 

Your relationship will be broken – and even if you try hard to fix it, you’ll still be hurting because this person is no longer worthy of being a part of your life. 

So, it’s important to take action and focus on the things that you need to do in order to fix the relationship

6) Change your mindset

You might think that you’ve tried everything else and the relationship is still broken. 

But the reality is that there’s one thing that you can do right away. 

It’s to change your mindset regarding your partner. 

This will make a huge difference when it comes to how much of an impact this person has on your life every day. 

My point is that if you want them back in your life, then focusing on what’s important will help you get over this problem in no time at all.

If you’ve read my article, then you know that this is something that I recommend. 

And if you want to change the things that are already happening in your relationship, that’s impossible. The only thing that you can do is to take responsibility for those things. 

7) Take some time and heal from your past relationship

When you realize that your relationship is ending and there’s no way to save it because your partner has already moved on, this is another thing that I recommend. 

The best way to get over a broken relationship is to spend time alone and then heal from it. 

When people spend a lot of time with their friends and family, they start feeling better about the things that are happening in their life. 

But when you can’t think straight, you might take the wrong steps that can hurt your relationships even more. 

So, don’t rush into anything until you’re thinking straight again. 


If you’ve been reading this article, then I’m assuming that you’re someone who wants to fix a relationship. 

My goal is to help people understand how they can change their lives in order to create the life they want.

So, I really hope that I’ve helped many people find out why their partners have lost feelings for them. 

And if you tried everything I suggested, then I’m really sure that whatever the result is, you will be proud to say that you’ve tried your best to save the relationship with the one you love

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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