When you meet that special someone and things are going great, it’s easy to think this is the beginning of something amazing.
But what if that person isn’t who you think they are?
What if they have some pretty unbearable habits that could end up ruining your relationship?
If you’re not sure if she will ever change or if you should give her another chance, here are some signs she isn’t worth your time:
1) She’s overly negative
Negativity is one of the worst things to come out of a relationship.
In a healthy relationship, both parties are encouraging and motivate each other to be the best versions of themselves.
When one person is negative, it can start to bring the other person down, too.
If she’s putting you down, criticizing you, or not building you up, she’s not worth your time.
She may feel like she doesn’t have any control over her life, so she takes it out on you.
If you notice that she’s constantly complaining about her life, her exes, or anything else, it’s time to walk away.
She may not even realize that she’s doing it, so try to stay positive and show her that you want to help her out of her rut.
If she doesn’t respond positively to your efforts, then you know she’s not the one for you.
The thing is, yes, people can change and become more positive, but if you’ve tried for a while and still she brings almost nothing but negativity in to your life, this is a sign she isn’t worth your time.
Think about it: is this the person you would want to spend your life with?
Is this the mindset you would want your children to have?
When someone is so consumed by their own negativity, it’s important to either accept it, or leave.
2) She acts like a child
When you’re in a committed relationship, it’s expected that both partners move on from their single days.
If she still acts like she’s single and enjoys partying with her friends more than she enjoys spending time with you, she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
If you’re the one who always has to make the effort to see each other, she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
If you find that she’s immature and not ready to take the next step with you, leave her and find someone who is ready for a serious relationship.
The thing is, there is nothing wrong with having a child-like nature.
But in a serious relationship, it’s expected that both people take the next step and grow up.
If she’s not ready to stop being childish, it’s not a good sign for the relationship.
By being childish, I am not talking about being playful or silly, by the way.
I am talking about being immature, not being able to communicate, taking things personally, freezing you out after an argument, etc.
These habits die hard, and so if she still has these habits in place, it’s not a good sign for the relationship.
3) Her words and actions don’t match up
If she says she wants to be with you and she wants to spend all of her time with you, but she’s constantly blowing you off, it’s time to end it.
Even if you’ve been together for a while, it’s never too late to end the relationship if she’s not showing up.
Simply put, if you find yourself making excuses for her, it’s time to end the relationship.
If she constantly talks about how she wants to be more serious with you, but she doesn’t put in the work, she’s not worth your time.
It goes both ways – in a relationship, the actions have to match the words.
It doesn’t matter what she promises, if she never follows up those promises with actions, then they are worthless.
Is she in the habit of doing that? Then she will likely not change anytime soon and you are better off finding someone else.
4) A relationship coach tells you to leave
While the points in this article will help you deal with figuring out if your girlfriend will ever change, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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5) She constantly puts you down
If she’s putting you down and constantly making you feel like you aren’t good enough, she’s not worth your time.
When you’re with someone you love and care about, it’s normal to have disagreements and arguments.
But if she’s constantly putting you down and making you feel like you’re not worthy of her, it’s time to end the relationship.
If you’re in a relationship with a toxic person, it can be hard to figure out if you should end it or not.
If she is constantly putting you down and criticizing you, no matter how much you try to change or be better, you need to end the relationship and move on.
Toxicity is something people can move on from and change, but it’s difficult, and she would have to put in the work.
If she puts you down constantly and is just simply toxic, then your best bet is probably to move on from her, sorry.
6) She is constantly judging others
There’s a difference between having strong opinions and being judgmental.
If you find that she’s always criticizing other people and making rude comments, it could be that she’s upset with her own life and lashing out at other people.
If she constantly has something negative to say about other people, it could be that she’s not ready to commit to you.
The thing is, someone who is so judgmental of other people usually is deeply unhappy within themselves.
If she’s not ready to commit to you, she’s not ready to commit to anyone else, either.
If she’s constantly judging other people, especially if she’s judging them for things that don’t matter, like the way they look or their interests, it might be time to end the relationship.
The thing is, if she doesn’t do anything to better herself, she’s not worth your time.
7) She only cares about herself
If she’s only concerned about her own needs and not the needs of those around her, she’s a self-centered person who only cares about herself.
If she only focuses on her own needs and ignores your needs, she’s only in the relationship for herself and not for you.
You see, if she keeps putting her needs before yours, even when you’ve asked her to switch it up, it’s time to end the relationship.
No relationship can be healthy if she only cares about herself.
If she only cares about herself, it’s unlikely that she’ll ever care about you. If she only cares about herself, she’s not worth your time.
The thing is, someone who only cares about themselves usually doesn’t see any need to change who they are.
If she doesn’t show any willingness to change for you, she’s not worth your time.
Sure, it’s important to meet your own needs and have boundaries, but in a relationship, you need to respect your partner’s needs, as well, so if she can’t do that, then it’s time to end the relationship.
The thing is, if she won’t change for you, she probably won’t ever be any different.
8) She is not trustworthy
One big red flag is when she is always lying to you, especially if she’s doing it on a regular basis.
If she’s always lying to you, it could be that she doesn’t trust you.
If she doesn’t trust you, it’s likely that she won’t ever trust you.
In fact, if a woman only trusts others when it suits her own needs, then there’s no way that she’ll ever have the same level of trust for anyone else.
The thing is someone who doesn’t trust anyone is never going to feel secure in a relationship.
And of course, if she lies a lot, then you won’t be able to trust her, either.
If she can’t be trusted, then there’s no point in continuing the relationship.
It would be better to end things now than wait and wonder what will happen later on down the road. The sooner the better!
Trust is an important pillar of any relationship, so make sure that is there.
9) She is incapable of communicating honestly
Communication is essential in every relationship, whether you’re dating or married.
If she’s not able to be honest with you about her feelings or what she wants, it’s a sign that she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
If she gets defensive whenever you try to have a serious conversation with her, it may be because she’s not ready to be truthful.
If she can’t communicate with you honestly, it’s likely that she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
To tell you the truth, if she can’t be honest with you, it’s unlikely that she’s ready to commit to you.
The phrase “communication is key” is not there just for fun, there is a lot of reasoning behind it.
In a relationship, you need to be able to communicate openly and honestly about everything, without immediately getting angry or defensive.
If you can’t do that and are unwilling to learn, then there’s no point in continuing the relationship.
Communication is essential in any relationship, so make sure that you are able to communicate freely and effectively with your partner.
10) Her behaviors are destructive
If her behaviors are destructive, like drinking too much or gambling, it’s likely that she’s not ready for a serious relationship.
If her behaviors are causing her problems, like getting in trouble with the law or getting fired from her job, then that is obviously a huge problem.
You see, you might feel like you need to be there for her, even if her bad habits are influencing your life, I get it.
But in reality, you don’t have the responsibility for her life, it’s okay, if you have to cut her off, it’s for the best.
You see, if she wants to get better, then, by all means, stay and help her out, but if she has no incentive to change her behaviors, you might be better off leaving.
The sooner you cut her off, the better. It’s better than waiting and wondering what will happen later on down the road.
If she can’t be trusted, then there’s no point in continuing the relationship. It would be better to end things now than wait and wonder what will happen later on down the road. The sooner the better!
11) She has no interest in your future together
If you’re in a serious relationship and you’re already talking about your future together, but she doesn’t have any interest in the same things as you, she’s not worth your time.
If she doesn’t have any plans for the future and she’s not even interested in hearing about your plans, it may be a sign she’s not interested in committing to you.
You see, if she can’t talk about her future with you, you need to end the relationship.
If she doesn’t care enough to want to know what your life looks like and where it’s going, she’s not worth your time.
The thing is if it has been a while, and she still isn’t interested in talking about a future together, then there is a good chance that that won’t change.
So, if she still isn’t interested in a future together, it’s best to end the relationship now.
It can be difficult to move on from someone, but if she shows these behaviors, you know she won’t change and you are only wasting your time.
Think about it: do you want to spend your entire life with her if she never changed?
If the answer is no, then you are better off leaving, believe me.
We shouldn’t wait for people’s potential, we can’t make them change unless they want to change.