Imagine this: you’re talking to her, and she laughs at all your jokes, makes extended eye contact, and often finds ways to be close to you.
But there’s a catch—she has a boyfriend.
Does this mean she’s interested in you? Or are you reading too much into it?
The line between friendly and flirty can be blurry, but there are subtle behaviors that give away romantic interest.
In this guide, we’ll walk you through 14 surefire signs that she’s into you, even if she’s already taken.
1) She will compare you to her boyfriend
She may not flat out say that you are better than him, but if she has to start comparing the two of you to each other, then it’s a sign she’s into you.
She may mention how the two of you do the same thing in different ways or how similar interests make you more compatible with each other.
Or she might say how her boyfriend lacks something that you have.
You might be wondering:
“Should I feel flattered by this comparison?”
Yes, you should.
She’s saying that you are a better match for her than her boyfriend and that something about you is more exciting or interesting.
But be careful not to get ahead of yourself and start thinking that you’re the center of her world.
2) She replies to any of your posts with a compliment
Another sign that shows she’s into you is that she replies to any of your posts with a compliment.
This might be in the form of a “like” or a comment left on your Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook page.
She might say something like, “I love that shirt,” or “I like your new haircut.”
These little compliments are a nice way of saying to you that she thinks you look good and that she’s interested.
Although she already has a boyfriend, most girls are still open to the idea of a relationship and will seek role models for their future partners.
If she does this with you, then this could be an indication that you’re going places in her mind.
3) You catch her staring at your lips or quick glances away when caught doing so
When she catches you looking at her, does she get flustered and look away quickly?
Or when you catch her staring at you, does she dab at her lips with a napkin to make sure there’s no food on them?
This is definitely a sign that she’s into you.
She doesn’t know what to do because she has a boyfriend, so when the two of you are around each other it becomes an awkwardness that none of you really understand.
So what should you do from here?
Well, if you are open to the idea of exploring a relationship with her, then you could ask her why she has been acting shy around you lately.
You might say something like: “Something feels weird between the two of us lately. Is everything okay?”
If you bring this up, she’ll be flattered that you noticed and also relieved that she won’t have to worry about being sneaky anymore.
4) She shares personal details with you
When a girl has a boyfriend, she usually keeps certain boundaries, especially when it comes to sharing personal or intimate information.
However, if she opens up to you more than she does with others, this could be a sign that she feels a special connection with you.
If she starts confiding in you about things she might not tell just anyone, such as personal stories, challenges, or emotions, it indicates she trusts you on a deeper level.
This special treatment—where she shares thoughts, feelings, or details she wouldn’t normally disclose—signals that she values your connection differently than the average acquaintance.
5) She always says she’s just looking for “the right guy”
Even though she has a boyfriend, she still might talk to you as if she’s still looking for the right guy.
This means that she might act like her boyfriend isn’t “the one” and that there are better men out there.
She may say things like, “I’m just waiting for Mr. Right,” or “I still haven’t found the perfect guy for me.”
Or maybe she’ll complain about her boyfriend and say that the two of them have nothing in common anymore and that they’re growing apart.
This is the most obvious sign that she’s into you.
If she says any of these things, it means that she’s at least somewhat interested in you and she wants to get to know you better.
Forget what everyone else around you says and focus on listening to her words. You can’t go wrong following her cues.
6) She chooses to spend time with you over her boyfriend
Trust me, there’s no way to misinterpret this sign.
Most girls don’t like to spend time with their boyfriends when their feelings are so intense for another guy.
So if she is spending time with you over her boyfriend, it shows that she’s not okay with being in this relationship and wants out.
She’ll show this by saying things like: “I just can’t stand my boyfriend anymore,” or “I have to get away from him for a while.”
She might also say that she wants to spend less time with him lately.
And if you’re wondering, “what’s the best way to respond to this?”
The answer is that you should be honest when necessary, but use your natural charm around her.
Let her know that you understand how she feels and that you want to be there for her.
Eventually, she knows that you are the kind of guy who only wants the best for her and who wouldn’t want to ruin her relationship with her boyfriend.
7) She likes to hear about your past relationship
If she talks about how much she wants to be with a guy like you, then she might also talk about how much she loves hearing stories from your past.
Most guys don’t like talking about their ex-girlfriends and they aren’t usually interested in spending time talking about their relationship.
But when a girl likes you it’s a totally different story.
Even though she has a boyfriend, she might ask you: “Why haven’t you found a girlfriend before?”
But keep in mind:
No matter what she says, the important thing is that you always keep things light and fun.
Don’t come on too strong, don’t make promises you can’t keep, and never act like you are more important than her boyfriend.
When you do this, you maintain the balance of being a trusted friend without crossing boundaries or making her feel pressured.
By keeping things light and respectful, you show her that you value her as a person and not just as a potential romantic interest.
8) She will ask for advice about her relationship
Even though she has a boyfriend, she might still want to talk about him when she’s with you.
I know that this sounds weird, but I’ve seen it happen again and again and it’s one of the easiest ways to spot a girl who wants you and is trying as hard as she can to get your attention.
When a girl has a perfect guy she likes, then she usually doesn’t ask friends for advice about her relationship because she thinks that her boyfriend is perfect for her too.
But when she’s feeling insecure about her boyfriend or she likes a guy like you, that’s when she’ll ask for advice about her relationship.
This is also your chance to show her your maturity and attract her even more in case you’ve developed feelings for her.
9) She will show signs of jealousy when you talk about other girls
Girls who like you will want you to be focused on them and not have other girls come between the two of you.
When this happens, they might show jealousy by saying things like:
“Don’t talk to her anymore,” or “You shouldn’t be talking to her at all.”
This is another way that she’s trying to let you know that she doesn’t want any competition for your affection even though she already has a boyfriend.
But the bottom line is this:
No matter what she does, it’s important that you don’t let her make you feel like you’re second-rate.
When you show women your true self, they will see that you’re a man who is comfortable with himself and not someone who tries to fake anything.
That’s how to be the best guy for this girl. And that’s how to win her over and bring her feelings for you into the open.
10) She will often text first
Are you tired of girls who never text you first?
Are girls from your past always the ones who were always the ones to initiate a conversation?
Then you might be amazed when a girl who has a boyfriend texts you first.
You’ll also know that she wants your attention when her texts are long and she often asks questions.
And most of all, she doesn’t wait for you to answer right away before sending another text.
You will know that it’s a sign that she wants to talk to you and that she’s really into you.
When you see that she wants to talk to you – and not her boyfriend – then this means that you’re getting closer and that you have a chance of winning her heart.
11) People often ask if she’s dating you and she never says no
If a girl likes you, others might start to notice the connection between the two of you and ask if you’re dating.
If she doesn’t outright deny it or avoids giving a clear answer, it could be a subtle sign that you hold a special place in her life.
She might not openly say you’re part of her life, especially if she already has a boyfriend, but her reluctance to clarify the situation could suggest she values your relationship in a way that she’s not ready to define.
However, it’s important to recognize that this could also reflect insecurities from those around her, particularly about her current relationship.
When people start questioning the nature of your relationship, it’s crucial to handle these moments with care.
12) She will make excuses to hang out with you more often
One of the clearest signs that a girl wants to be with you is when she makes excuses to hang out with you, even though she has a boyfriend.
At first glance, it might seem like she’s just avoiding being alone with her boyfriend, but that’s usually not the case.
She genuinely wants to spend time with you, and even with a busy schedule, she finds ways to make it happen.
Pay attention to this sign, but also ensure you’re not pressuring her into anything.
If she feels overwhelmed by her relationship, that’s not necessarily a good sign. However, it’s often something else going on—maybe she’s just in a bad mood or dealing with personal issues.
13) You see signs of jealousy from her boyfriend when he sees the two of you together
If you notice her boyfriend getting jealous when the two of you are together, it’s a clear signal that he feels something is off.
He might seem irritated or uncomfortable, which suggests he’s aware that her behavior towards you is different from how she normally acts.
If you’re considering pursuing her, it’s essential to tread carefully.
Pay attention to the dynamics between them and avoid creating unnecessary tension.
Her boyfriend’s jealousy is a sign that he senses her feelings toward you may be more than just friendly, so it’s important to respect their relationship and assess the situation thoughtfully.
In short: when her boyfriend shows disapproval or discomfort around you, it’s a sign that he recognizes the unique connection she has with you.
14) She starts bringing you up in conversations with her friends
One last subtle yet telling sign that a girl might be interested in you, even if she has a boyfriend, is when she starts mentioning you to her friends.
If she talks about you often—whether it’s about something you said, did, or plans you’ve made together—it shows that you’re on her mind.
When a girl includes you in conversations with her close circle, it could be a way of testing the waters or gauging her friends’ reactions.
Her friends are likely aware of her current relationship, so the fact that she’s bringing you up may indicate that she sees you as more than just a casual friend.
However, it’s important to be mindful of the situation. If she has a boyfriend, you don’t want to read too much into this or assume her feelings are clear-cut.
It’s a sign that she values you, but how far that goes will depend on the boundaries she sets in her current relationship. Stay respectful and let things unfold naturally.
Final thoughts
We’ve covered all the signs to watch for if you’re wondering whether a girl with a boyfriend might be interested in you.
However, before you go, it’s important to clarify something.
These 14 signs don’t guarantee she’ll leave her boyfriend or start a new relationship with you.
So, what if you want to make her yours? The first step is always self-awareness.
Before acting on any signs, take the time to understand your own feelings and motivations. What are you truly seeking—love, companionship, or something else? It’s essential to be honest with yourself about what you want.
I know it can be difficult to explore your emotions, but one resource that has personally helped me is the Love and Intimacy Masterclass by Rudá Iandê.
This free masterclass includes simple questionnaires that helped me dive deep into my emotional landscape and gain clarity on what I truly want in a relationship.
So, before you make any decisions, take the time to understand yourself better. It might save you from unnecessary heartache in the long run.
Here’s the link to the free masterclass again.
