7 signs people think you’re trustworthy (even if they don’t say it)

Trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, personal or professional.

And while it’s usually earned, some people have an honest aura about themselves.

So much so that others end up opening up to them without thinking twice about it.

Are you one of them?

Here are 7 signs people think you’re trustworthy (even if they don’t say it).

If the points below sound familiar, feel free to pat yourself on the back.

1) They open up about sensitive matters

Have you ever had someone you just met tell you a secret?

Reveal something private?

Share an anecdote that seemed reserved for close friends?

It happened to me more than once.

Maybe I have a trustworthy face or a chill vibe. I don’t know.

But there were a couple of times in the past when friends of friends shared personal matters with me just one or two hours after we were introduced.

It was even more baffling given that I take forever to warm up to others.

It’s not like they were reciprocating or trying to make me feel better about something inappropriate I’ve shared.

They simply needed to vent or wanted advice. And I was there, with my trustworthy face and my chill vibe.  

People opening up about sensitive matters is an obvious sign of trust, especially when you notice it happening more than once.

You have the skill to create a non-judgmental and safe space.

Don’t take this for granted, especially if they confess information that doesn’t put them in the best light.

Which brings me to my next point.

2) They own up to mistakes/failures

People telling you about their mistakes and failures indicates a level of trust that others spend months trying to cultivate.

Admitting mistakes requires acknowledging one’s vulnerabilities.

When someone is willing to be vulnerable in your presence, it suggests they trust you not to use the information against them.

When I was at a previous office job, my desk was next to another woman in charge of recruitment.

I vividly remember the moment when we crossed the line from co-workers to friends.

She owned up to a blunder she had made the previous day and shared her concerns about telling our manager about it.  

That’s when I knew she trusted me enough to be vulnerable and valued my opinion on how she should proceed.

It made me feel warm and fuzzy inside, and it made her realize that her suspicions were right.

I was, indeed, trustworthy.

Revealing mistakes is a way to build mutual understanding, which can quickly lead to more meaningful relationships.

When someone is comfortable enough in your presence to share a previous failure, you’ve made it clear that you’re a tolerant and understanding person who might be willing to provide a kind word or helping hand.

How cool is that?

3) They maintain eye contact

While the interpretation of eye contact varies across cultures and individual preferences, it’s frequently a sign of trust.

Think about it.

When you’re putting up a façade, lying, or omitting important information, you have the tendency to look away.

I hate lying, and I’m not particularly good at it.

But every time I do it, I force myself to look the other person in the eye, so my chances of getting away with it are higher.

(Stop judging me; we all lie from time to time.)

Following this logic, sustained eye contact during a conversation can convey openness and transparency.

Additionally, it suggests that the person you’re talking to is confident and secure in your interaction, as they don’t feel the need to avert their gaze.

That said, anxiety or shyness can influence a person’s ability to look you in the eye.

If they look away while sharing an anecdote, don’t immediately jump to the conclusion that they’re being shady.

A trustworthy person knows the importance of giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

If that’s you, you probably knew this already.

4) They have open body language

When you want to figure out whether others think you’re trustworthy, pay attention to their body language.

Suppose it’s closed off, not so much. But if it’s open, jackpot!

Open body language looks something like this:

  • Their arms and legs are uncrossed
  • They face toward you
  • They have a relaxed posture
  • They don’t fidget
  • They smile
  • They mirror your own body language

Open body language communicates receptiveness and a lack of defensiveness.

It’s a sign that people don’t need to keep their guard up when you’re around.

They trust you implicitly.  

5) They ask for favors

I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t reach out to people I don’t trust for help unless I had no other choice.

As I like to fancy myself an independent person, I only ask for favors from my immediate family and two close friends.

I trust that they will not only jump at the opportunity to come to my aid but also keep their word that the favor will be done in a timely manner.

When someone asks for favors, they trust you and feel comfortable relying on you for assistance.

It doesn’t matter if the favor is big or small.

Simply asking it suggests that they’re willing to be vulnerable in your presence.

6) They let you in

Someone new letting you in implies trust and openness.

They tell you about their personal life.

They start to share private thoughts and controversial opinions.

They chat about their emotions and feelings without worrying you’ll mock or criticize them.

The overall deepening of the connection and intimacy in the relationship is a broad but significant sign that someone is letting you into their life.

A few more ways to tell that you’ve made it to someone’s inner circle:

  • They talk about experiences they may not share with everyone
  • They discuss future plans or long-term goals
  • They invite you into their home or personal space
  • They seek your opinion on things that matter to them
  • They discuss familial or romantic relationships

Being let in means that the person is trusting you enough to reveal more of themselves and introduce you to the person they are behind closed doors.

It’s always nice when that happens.

7) They talk you up

Trust can be hard to come by these days.

As a result, meeting someone who seems trustworthy is reason enough to restore your faith in humanity.

So much so that you might be tempted to tell others about them every chance you get.

When someone talks you up to others, it generally means they have high trust and confidence in you.

You might notice that their friends already know all about you, and they offer a huge smile when you’re introduced.

Or, someone might tell you outright that one of their acquaintances keeps talking you up and praising your kindness and active listening skills.

That’s a great compliment.

Final thoughts

Subtle cues can speak louder than words.

While trust is often built through explicit communication, these signs play a significant role in how others perceive you.

Once you identify them correctly, you’ll experience a fabulous confidence boost.

After all, people feel at ease around you.

You must be doing something right.  

Alexandra Plesa

Alexandra Plesa

Alexandra Pleșa is a freelance writer obsessed with television, self-development, and thriller books. Former journalist, current pop culture junkie. Follow her on Twitter: @alexandraplesa

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