Do you wonder if you’re blocking your feminine energy?
Chances are, if you’re reading this, either you think you or someone else around you has blockages to work through.
I’ll explain what these are and how they can be overcome.
15 signs of blocked feminine energy
1) Femininity is a weakness in your opinion
First things first, let’s define what’s meant by feminine energy.
It doesn’t mean being girly and liking pink – let’s leave this idea at the door.
Feminine energy is about being in a state of flow, compassionate and intuitive. It’s about being creative and leaving logic behind for feeling.
It’s about heart-centered knowing rather than head-centered knowing.
However, often being feminine is portrayed as being weaker than masculine in our patriarchal societies.
If you believe this idea then it’s a sign your feminine energy is blocked.
Why? Because we all have feminine and masculine energies, which are to be equally balanced.
Being in your feminine flow is being in a truly empowered state, as much as being in your masculine is.
They both serve different purposes in our lives.
But I get it, dropping into the feminine can be hard, especially if you’ve been living under the impression that it’s weaker to be in this state.
If that’s the case, I highly recommend watching this free breathwork video, created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê.
Rudá isn’t another self-professed life coach. Through shamanism and his own life journey, he’s created a modern-day twist to ancient healing techniques.
The exercises in his invigorating video combine years of breathwork experience and ancient shamanic beliefs, designed to help you relax and check in with your body and soul.
After many years of suppressing my emotions, Rudá’s dynamic breathwork flow quite literally revived that connection.
And that’s what you need:
A spark to reconnect you with your feelings so that you can begin focusing on the most important relationship of all – the one you have with yourself.
So if you’re ready to say goodbye to anxiety and stress, check out his genuine advice below.
2) You won’t ask for help
In my own experience, I’m guilty of this.
Why? Because I saw it as a weakness. This goes back to what I said earlier.
I can think of a recent example on a hike with my boyfriend, my laces kept coming undone as we hiked a difficult terrain and he offered to do them up for me after the third time they came undone.
Even though my hands were freezing and I was tired, I snapped and said I would do it.
I really could’ve done with the help but I didn’t want to appear weak.
Truth is, there’s nothing wrong with asking for and accepting help – especially when it’s from someone you love.
There was no evidence that said he would’ve thought I was weak for needing the help, but it was in my mind.
If you’ve experienced something similar, it might be a sign that your feminine energy is blocked.
To work through this, take to your journal and ask yourself a couple of questions:
- How have you been rejecting your feminine energy?
- Are you forcing life instead of flowing with it?
3) You’re always ‘on’
By this, I mean you’re always in a doing state.
Do you always feel like you have to be doing something and achieving? If so, it’s a sign your feminine energy might be blocked.
Do you feel best when you’re plugging away and getting work done? Are you trying to race others to an imaginary finish line?
The masculine is governed by getting sh*t done. It feels harsh and it’s that energy of dog-eat-dog, I must win and beat others.
If this sounds like you, it’s a sign you need to work on unblocking your feminine energy so you can truly attract what you want in life.
Feminine energy is all about women rising together and supporting one another – truly wanting the best for the next person and never thinking there’s too little room for another to succeed.
In my own experience, I’ve fallen into the trap of thinking there’s not enough space for everyone to succeed and I must work harder to beat others.
But I now realize I’m never going to get what I want from my life until I understand that empowering others is what empowers oneself.
4) You have a greater sense of empowerment when feeling more masculine
Now: this is a bitter pill to swallow for me because it’s very true in my case, as I’ve explained.
I often feel much more empowered when I’m in my masculine state of getting things done.
In this state of structure and logic, I feel like I’m achieving things and more successful, and almost like I’ve got a greater handle on life.
I’ve struggled to see the power in being slow at times.
I’ve almost dismissed an entire part of myself and forgotten that we’re all made up of masculine and feminine energies: the yin and yang.
If this sounds like you, you might also have been blocking your feminine energy.
You can change this and see the importance of giving both of these aspects the time to show up in your life.
5) Self-care is neglected
What I mean by self-care is looking after your mind, body and spirit.
It means filling your mind with new information that encourages your growth, eating nourishing foods, and spending time with people you love and in nature.
It’s all the simple and good things really.
If you’re not doing things that are good for you and it’s, in turn, making you feel bad about yourself, it’s a sure tell-tell sign that your feminine energy is blocked.
But let me tell you something…
You can get right back on track with some simple self-care practices. These include:
- Move your body through dance or exercise
- Cook a nourishing meal and drink enough water
- Listen to an uplifting podcast or audio book
- Journal your thoughts
- Spend time catching up with friends
6) You’re going off logic not intuition
By now, you should have a good grasp about feminine energy.
To recap: it’s intuition not logic.
If you find yourself navigating life from a place of linear thinking, where you’re overly logical, it might be a sign that your feminine energy is blocked.
For example, do you often find yourself asking ‘how am I going to do that?’ and then talking yourself out of things? I definitely do.
This is being in the masculine.
The feminine is having an intuitive pull to do something and trusting in the Universe to make it happen.
Simply put: it’s a more spiritual approach.
7) You have lost your sensuality
Sensuality is defined as the “enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleaure.”
To me, it means being slow and in the flow, which are the core feminine energies.
Do you struggle with slowing down and finding pleasure with your partner intimately? You might have blocked feminine energy.
Be in your empowered state and communicate your needs with your partner.
“The feminine sexual energy is like water: it’s slow to heat up, but once it’s boiling it will boil and boil and boil and boil…”
This is unlike the masculine that comes on and extinguishes quickly, so communicate your differences to truly embrace your sensuality.
8) You attract effeminate men
Take a long, hard look at your past relationships and ask yourself: do I attract effeminate men?
Do you find that you’re the one taking control and dominating, and there isn’t much balance in the relationship?
Don’t be harsh on yourself if that answer is yes – it just means you’ve probably got blocked feminine energy.
You see, men who aren’t fully embracing their masculine will gravitate to you if you have an overabundance of masculine energy.
But it’s not a healthy dynamic.
If you’re dealing with this dynamic, have you considered getting to the root of the issue?
You see, most of our shortcomings in love stem from our own complicated inner relationship with ourselves – how can you fix the external without seeing to the internal first?
I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy.
So, if you want to improve the relationships you have with others and solve ending up with feminine men, start with yourself.
You’ll find practical solutions and much more in Rudá’s powerful video, solutions that’ll stay with you for life.
9) You have more male friendships
Having friends of both genders is a really positive decision to make. You’ll get loads of different perspectives on life.
But do you find you have more male friendships than females? If you do, ask yourself why.
It could be that you find females more triggering, especially if they’re embodying their femininity. Here is your sign that your feminine energy is blocked.
However, the best way to awaken your Divine Feminine energy is to spend time with a tribe of empowered women.
I recommend seeking these women out – whether that’s through joining a workshop on femininity or taking up a new expressive hobby.
10) You feel adverse to motherhood and womanhood
There are many reasons women don’t want to have children and it’s not always because of blocked feminine energy.
However, this is one reason.
I’ve got a few friends who have expressed they definitely don’t want children and nothing will change that. They’re in their late twenties and kids don’t come into the plan at any point.
Their reasons? They don’t feel drawn to motherhood at all.
Interestingly, the friend that comes to mind also has always attracted effeminate men, never really had any proper self-care, and has always worked incredibly demanding and high-energy jobs.
What does this mean for you?
In my opinion, there’s some correlation there and it suggests her feminine energy is blocked.
If this sounds like you and you’re actively seeking to ignite your feminine energy, take a breathwork class before taking to your journal and pouring your thoughts out.
11) You think you need to suffer to feel worthy
My dad used to say: ‘no pain, no gain’.
It’s this sort of mentality of suffering that is problematic and causes blocked feminine energy.
It’s something I used to embody for a long time: you need to graft and struggle to find your worth, but I don’t believe in this anymore.
What do you think about this approach?
Simply put, I believe in balance these days. This includes balancing the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves.
Here’s why: when we’re balanced, we show up better for those around us.
12) You have a tendency to be aggressive
Do you have a short fuse and find yourself snapping at those around you? Do others call you aggressive?
These are signs that your feminine energy is blocked.
However, if you’re in your feminine flow, you won’t be quick to shout at people, even if they’re shouting at you.
Instead, you’ll take the time to listen and process what’s happened before you respond. You might find that this triggers people who want a response from you.
The power is in staying centered in your calm – your femininity – in those moments.
13) Beauty isn’t important to you
Taking care of your beauty and appearance isn’t shallow – it’s an act of self-care.
These acts of self-care could include incorporating daily rituals of skincare routines and bathing.
If you neglect your looks and leave your skin, hair and nails in a mess, it’s a sign that your feminine energy is blocked.
It’s a sign you’re disconnected from your body and don’t care for yourself, which sends a signal to the Universe.
Change this around by bringing in small acts of care, from first thing in the morning to night. This could be as simple as putting face oil on and brushing your hair.
Most importantly, enjoy the process of creating daily rituals for yourself.
14) You don’t see the value in rest
Rest is so important. It doesn’t have to be on the weekends or on a schedule society has set, but it’s on your body’s terms.
It could be ten minutes here and ten minutes there, or a lunchtime nap. It’s whatever your body needs from you.
In my experience, I have a friend who was really ill for over six months with inflammation in the body and she slept most days because that’s what her body needed.
Simply put: it’s essential to listen to your body. If you don’t, you’ll only be causing more harm.
But you might not see the value in rest.
Is this true?
If you find yourself powering on when you’re exhausted and even taking painkillers to mask the pain and continue to forge on, it’s a sure sign you need to work on unblocking your feminine energy.
Remember, the body sends us signs for a reason.
15) You compare yourself to men
Comparison is damn right bad for the soul.
There’s nothing positive in it at all, don’t you agree?
Yet there’s so much of it in the world – whether it’s with family members, friends or people on social media.
In my experience, I’ve compared myself with how successful I am in relation to my siblings, how attractive, funny and interesting I am in comparison to my friends, and where I rank on the world stage.
It sounds ridiculous writing these things down. It’s apparent how unhelpful these thoughts are and, well, they’re impossible to answer.
The worst bit? Comparison is not even limited to people of the same gender.
You might be comparing yourself professionally to men of the same age who haven’t had to give birth and raise a family.
If you find yourself comparing yourself to men, it’s a sign your feminine energy is blocked.
So how can you overcome this insecurity that’s been nagging you?
The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.
You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.
He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.
Because true empowerment needs to come from within.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.
So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.