14 signs of an uncaring husband (and what to do about it)

Has your husband ever said these things to you?

  • “You’re too sensitive.”
  • “It’s not a big deal.”
  • “Don’t worry about it.”

Yes,  an uncaring husband can be tough to deal with. But if you’re married, there’s a good chance that at some point in your relationship, your husband will start acting like this.

The good news is that there are some signs of an uncaring husband, which can give you insight into his behavior and help you determine whether or not you need to take action.

So, let’s take a look at these 14 different signs of an uncaring husband and what you should do about it below.

14 signs that your husband doesn’t care about you

1) He doesn’t take the time to ask about your day

Do you remember the last time your husband asked you how your day was?

Think about this for a moment. If you’re married, you probably understand the importance of communication in a relationship.

And what’s more, you know that taking time to ask about each other’s days is a great way to strengthen your bond.

In fact, that’s what makes the husband and wife relationship so special. And he used to ask you about your day when you got married, didn’t you?

If so, I bet you felt like he really cared about you.

But let me guess. Now things have changed and he doesn’t seem interested in your life anymore.

And it’s easy to understand why – it could be a sign that he’s starting to lose interest in your relationship.

However, you may be surprised to find out that not all husbands are good at communicating with their wives. In fact, some men don’t even seem to care about how their wives are feeling or how their day went.

So what should you do about it?

It’s simple: you’ll need to talk about it with him and let him know that his behavior is affecting your relationship.

Just make sure to ask him how his day was at least a few times a week and really listen to what he says in response. This small action can go a long way toward reconnecting with your husband and bringing love back into your marriage.

2) He doesn’t want to spend time with you

You know, when you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship and you feel like your husband doesn’t want to be around you?

Well, if that’s happening, there’s a chance that he isn’t as interested in spending time with you as he used to be.

You see, when a man is in love with his wife, he wants to be with her. He can’t wait to spend time with her. And if you’re married, you probably remember the first few months of your relationship, when everything was so exciting and fun.

But what about now? Are you and your husband having fun together? Or do you feel like he’s not interested in spending time with you anymore?

If that’s the case, it could be a sign that your relationship is taking a turn for the worse and that he’s starting to lose interest in you.

Let me explain what I mean by this. If your husband spends every night at the office or on the couch watching TV instead of spending time with you, then this is definitely a sign of an uncaring husband.

It means that he’s not interested in doing things with you anymore and that spending time together is not important to him anymore.

And yes, the truth is that it can be devastating for any wife who feels like her husband no longer cares about her. And it can also make her question whether or not she still wants to be married anymore.

But guess what?

There is still hope for your marriage!

All you’ll need to do is talk about it with him and see if he feels the same way as well. If so, then both of you will need to take action right away!

3) He ignores your emotional needs

Did you notice that your husband doesn’t seem to care about your feelings anymore?

Well, if you’re feeling like he’s not interested in listening to you or that he’s no longer interested in trying to understand how you feel, then this could be a sign that your relationship is on the rocks.

Let me explain what I mean by this. If your husband is ignoring your emotional needs, then he’s not showing you that he cares about how you feel.

And if this goes on long enough and gets worse, then there’s a chance that it could threaten the security of your marriage.

The truth is that this sign of an uncaring husband is especially painful for any wife.

And it can be especially frustrating if you’ve been trying to work on your marriage and improve the connection between the two of you but nothing seems to be working.

Why? Because if he’s ignoring your emotional needs, then this means that he’s not really interested in helping you feel better after a long day of work or by listening to your problems.

And when this happens, it can make you feel like there’s something wrong with your relationship and that he may not even love you anymore.

But here’s the thing: it’s normal for any couple to go through a rough patch every now and then. And trust me, I know how frustrating it is when you want to improve your marriage but nothing seems to be working out!

Is there anything you could do about it?

Actually, there is! And if you notice that your husband ignores your emotions, the best possible solution could be to reach out to a professional relationship coach for advice.

Okay, I know that you might be skeptical about life coaches for one simple reason — it’s hard to find a reliable relationship coach who can actually provide practical solutions.

This is exactly what I was thinking before I spoke with a professional coach from Relationship Hero. They gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and guided me to determine my further actions.

That’s how I saved my relationship. So, if you’re also trying to save your marriage, maybe you should do the same.

Click here to get started.

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4) He doesn’t compliment you anymore

How often does your husband say something nice about you?

Every day? Once a week? Once a month?

If it’s not every day, then it could be a sign that he’s not as in love with you as he used to be.

But why did he stop complimenting you? Is it because he doesn’t love you anymore?

Not necessarily.

It could be because he’s not confident enough to tell you how wonderful you are. However, it can also be a sign of an uncaring husband.

What do I mean? Well, if he stopped caring about your feelings, chances are that he wouldn’t bother to compliment you anymore.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But I compliment him all the time!” And you’re probably right.

But you know what?

Men are different from women, and they don’t always understand what we mean when we try to compliment them.

So, if he doesn’t compliment you, it may be because he doesn’t know how to respond to your compliments.

Here’s the solution: you have to find a way to compliment him in a way that he understands. If you do that, then he’ll be more likely to return the favor and start complimenting you again.

5) He doesn’t offer to help when he knows you’re stressed

If your husband is a “helping hand” type of guy, then he must be more than willing to help you out when you’re stressed.

And yes, he always tried to help back in those times when you were a newly married couple, but now he’s not offering to help you out anymore.

What does this mean? It means that something has changed in your relationship.

It could be that he’s simply not interested in helping you out.

Or it could mean that his feelings for you are fading away and he doesn’t care about you anymore.

The truth is that there are many reasons why your husband may not be as helpful and caring as he used to be.

He may feel like you don’t need him anymore, or maybe he’s just trying to avoid getting involved in your problems since they’ve become too much for him to handle.

In simple words, he may not want to help you because he doesn’t care about your problems anymore, or because he doesn’t want to deal with them.

Either way, this is a red flag that shows that something is wrong in your relationship.

And if this is the case, then it’s time for some serious soul-searching and reconciliation on both sides of the fence.

6) He avoids intimacy

You do know that sex is an important part of any relationship, right?

It’s a way for you and your partner to feel closer to each other, to show your love and affection, and to express yourselves sexually.

But now you notice that he doesn’t show you affection outside of the bedroom.

Has it been a while since he’s given you a hug or kiss?

Or maybe he hasn’t held your hand in public?

If so, then there’s a good chance that your husband has become emotionally distant from you.

And if there’s one thing that can tell you whether or not your man still loves you, it’s how he treats you in bed.

And guess what?

If he doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore, then it’s perfectly normal for him to avoid intimacy with you.

But what if he wants sex from you but isn’t interested in intimacy?

Well… this is even worse!

If he wants sex but doesn’t want intimacy, then that means that he just wants some physical pleasure from the relationship.

And what does this mean?

It means that he may be cheating on you without even knowing it!

After all, if he just wants sex from the relationship but nothing else (like intimacy), then it’s a clear sign that he’s become an uncaring husband and you need to do something about it before it’s too late.

7) He’s never home

You’re a woman. You have a lot of demands on your time.

Your husband knows this. He knows that you have to work hard to get where you are in life. And he respects that.

But when you two were dating and newly married, he made it his job to make sure that you were taken care of and had everything you needed.

This means that he was always there for you, no matter what the situation was, or how busy he was with work or other commitments.

He always found the time to make sure you were happy and content because he loved being around you so much!

But now, things have changed… and not in a good way.

Now, your husband is working all the time, even though his job isn’t as demanding as it used to be (or maybe even if it is). And this means that he’s never home anymore!

See the difference?

This can’t possibly be good for your relationship!

What can you do about it?

Well, you can’t force your husband to be there for you, but you can make it clear that he’s missing out on the most important things in life.

8) He’s not as romantic as he used to be

Can I be totally honest with you?

One of the biggest problems facing couples today is that men and women are more disconnected from each other than ever before.

This is happening because we’re living in a highly sexualized culture where men and women are encouraged to think about sex all the time (and even act out on these thoughts).

But what this means is that men and women don’t understand each other very well anymore… or they know how to put up a facade to fool themselves.

But for many of you, this problem is real, and it makes you sad.

Let me take a wild guess.

You notice that your husband isn’t as romantic as he once was.

You see him as a boring, unromantic guy. You see him as someone who is not sensitive to your needs or feelings.

And now you wonder why you even married this man in the first place!

But why did he stop being romantic around you?

You may be wondering if he’s cheating on you. But the problem is almost always much more complicated than that.

The truth is that your husband may not be romantically interested in you at all!

He might have lost that interest, and he might have lost his ability to make romantic gestures in the past few years. And that’s because he’s become an uncaring husband you’re not sure you can trust.

9) You feel unattractive around him

Have you noticed that your husband doesn’t seem to notice you anymore?

You used to be his number one girl. He would tell you how beautiful and amazing you were every single day.

But now, he barely ever mentions it, and when he does, it is more of a compliment than anything else.

It might be that he’s gotten used to your looks, or it might be that he’s just not in love with you anymore.

But either way, this can make you feel unattractive and unworthy of attention.

Want to know a secret?

Every woman deserves to feel beautiful and loved… and you do too!

So I’ll tell you what.

You don’t need him to say those words or compliment you in any way, shape, or form.

The fact that he doesn’t bother to do this anymore is proof that he doesn’t see the value of your beauty or attractiveness at all! That is a big problem!

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10)  He doesn’t listen to you anymore

It’s not just about feeling unattractive or unloved.

You may have noticed that your husband doesn’t listen to you anymore.

Or even worse – he interrupts you when you’re talking.

He seems to have become uninterested in what you have to say, and he doesn’t seem to care what you think or feel.

You may have also noticed that he is more interested in hanging out with his friends than spending time together as a couple.

Seriously, how do you think your husband got to this point?

He wasn’t perfect before he met you, so he can’t possibly be perfect now. But listening to you isn’t something he needs so much effort to put in, right?

That’s why it’s just a sign of trouble in paradise.  And if your husband isn’t listening to you, then it’s up to him to fix this problem, not you!

This can cause you to feel like he doesn’t care about you, which can make you feel sad and alone… like your marriage is over.

But it’s not!

You have to make him feel like he’s making a difference in your marriage.

So how do you do this?

Simple.  You get him to listen to you!

All you have to do is ask him questions that help him understand what’s happening and where things are going. You can do this by asking questions like:

  • Why are things the way they are?
  • What needs to change in order for us to be happy again?
  • How can we fix the problems that we’re having?
  • What should we talk about next time we get together?

And that’s exactly what has happened to your marriage – it is no longer working for you.

That will help you save your relationship and put it back on track!

11) He doesn’t make an effort with your family and friends

You may have noticed that your husband doesn’t make an effort with your family and friends.

He doesn’t come to visit them, and he doesn’t call them to see how they are doing.

He avoids spending time with your family and friends, or he makes excuses about why he can’t go to events together with you.

You may even notice that he ignores you when you suggest that he spend time with your family or friends.

Isn’t it funny how this happens? How can a man who used to be so loving and caring suddenly change?  It’s almost like he has a different personality now… as someone else has taken over his body!

What happened?  What caused this change in personality?  And why is it happening now when things were fine before?  Is something wrong with him?  Could it be his fault?  Or is there something else going on here that we don’t know about yet?

I’m not sure what exactly happened, but I am sure of one thing – this type of behavior is not normal. And actually, it’s another sign of an uncaring husband you need to deal with.

12) You don’t think he respects your opinions

Let me take a guess.

Your husband doesn’t care about what you think anymore.

He doesn’t want to discuss anything with you. He doesn’t want to talk about your likes and dislikes or what you would like to do for a fun night out.

He only wants to discuss things that he wants to do for fun, and what he thinks is best for him. You don’t even get a chance to say anything because he talks over you and acts like he knows what’s best for you.

This is one of the most important signs of an uncaring husband, who will never listen to your opinions or ideas, instead of giving his own opinions and ideas on things.


Because considering each other’s opinions and ideas is a sign of trust and respect.

He doesn’t want to give you any of that because he doesn’t respect you as a person, and he thinks that you’re not smart enough to have an opinion about things

13) He isn’t affectionate with you anymore

You may have noticed that your husband isn’t affectionate with you anymore.

He never touches you, he never holds your hand, he never kisses you.  He doesn’t even look at you when he talks to you.

And since his touch is so important to your health and well-being, this can make you feel sad and alone… like something is wrong with your marriage. And it’s not!

Have you ever noticed that men often don’t want to show their love for a woman in public?

It’s because they don’t want a woman to see them talking about her behind her back or making fun of her in public.

That’s just the way men are – they don’t want women seeing them talking badly about them or making fun of them in public! So what do they do?

They act like they don’t care about their wives – they act like they don’t love them.

And even if he actually loves you, this kind of behavior is a sure sign that he’s an uncaring husband.

14) He uses insults instead of speaking to you in a calm manner

When you talk to your husband, he speaks to you in a rude or angry tone.

He says things like, “You don’t care about me” or “You don’t love me.”

He says things that hurt your feelings and make you feel bad.

It’s as if he wants to use anger instead of words to communicate with you.  He doesn’t want to talk calmly and express his thoughts and feelings with you.

He would rather say something nasty that will hurt you and make you feel bad than speak in a calm manner that will make your heart melt.

Does this sound familiar?

If so, then I’m going to warn you to stay away from this man.

You need to be with a husband who cares about you and will act like a gentleman in public

How to deal with an uncaring husband?

Saving your marriage and dealing with an uncaring husband when you’re the only one trying is tough, but it doesn’t always mean your relationship should be scrapped.

Because if you still love your husband, what you really need is a plan of attack to mend your marriage.

Many things can slowly infect a marriage – distance, lack of communication, and sexual issues. If not dealt with correctly, these problems can transform into infidelity and disconnectedness.

When someone asks me for advice to help save failing marriages, I always recommend relationship expert and divorce coach Brad Browning.

Brad is the real deal when it comes to saving marriages. He is a best-selling author and dispenses valuable advice on his extremely popular YouTube channel.

The strategies Brad reveals in it are extremely powerful and might be the difference between a “happy marriage” and an “unhappy divorce”.

Watch his simple and genuine video here.

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Nato Lagidze

Nato is a writer and a researcher with an academic background in psychology. She investigates self-compassion, emotional intelligence, psychological well-being, and the ways people make decisions. Writing about recent trends in the movie industry is her other hobby, alongside music, art, culture, and social influences. She dreams to create an uplifting documentary one day, inspired by her experiences with strangers.

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