20 signs you’re an unapologetic introvert who doesn’t care what people think

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Once upon a time, you tried to be outgoing and gregarious and fun. That didn’t go so well. It only left you feeling a bit pathetic—as if you’re a total fake.

Good thing you realized that it’s pointless to try to change yourself. You stopped “fixing” your introvertedness and embraced it fully instead, as you should.

To find out if you’re now a truly a self-actualized introvert, check out if you exhibit these traits.

1) Being alone never makes you feel lonely

Some people feel unloved and lonely when they’re alone. They’d then plunge themselves to the deep end as they wonder why no one wants to be with them.

Welp, not you! You truly enjoy your own company. And you’d really rather be alone than to be with someone you don’t enjoy being around with anyways.

 2) You don’t have any fear of missing out

You scroll through Instagram and you see your friends partying on a Friday night. Your inner voice would NOT say “I wish I went”. Instead, it would say “oh thank god you didn’t go!”

You’d really rather snuggle in bed with your cat and a good book. And you’d do it again next Friday.

3) You talk to yourself—aloud

You talk to yourself while you’re cooking, washing clothes, and even while you’re out doing some errands. Yep, even when there are other people around.

When you were younger, you only talked to yourself when you’re 100% sure you’re alone. You don’t want people to think you’re crazy.

But now, you really don’t give a damn anymore. If someone hears you talking to yourself and they find you weird, so what?

4) You talk to your pets and plants as if they can really understand you

You’ve created a unique world of your own, and in this world, things can talk. You’re Alice in Wonderland.

You don’t try to stop yourself anymore because… WHY?!

Besides, a part of you believes they can really understand you.

5) You don’t get self-conscious if you eat alone

You know those cafeteria scenes in movies where kids get scared to sit alone? Yeah, you don’t get it. Or you used to feel that way but you’re now so over that.

You enjoy going to restaurants alone. You like to savor your food while you observe people around you.

6) You’re not shy to excuse yourself when you want to leave

You do respect yourself enough to leave something or someone that doesn’t interest you anymore. Of course, you’ve mastered how to do this so people don’t get offended.

You know the right moment to exit and the right things to say. It’s a life skill that you find truly useful.

7) You’re confident you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of

Part of the reason people feel compelled to get very close to others is fear.

We fear that our life would suck and so we have to nurture our relationships with other people in case we need them someday.

You hate this kind of transactional approach in relationships. You removed the fear of the future to remove this need to cling to people.

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In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of so you can be your authentic self, and it’s easier than you might think.

8) You’re not sorry if you don’t reply to messages fast

So what if they sent you 50 messages in an hour? You have a life and it’s not your duty to answer messages the moment you receive them!

You don’t even say “sorry for the late reply” or any of that. For you, they’re the ones that need to respect the fact that you’re not available 24/7.

9) You respect people’s privacy and expect them to respect yours

As an introvert, you know the importance of privacy more than the regular guy. It’s sacred and therefore should be respected.

They have something they don’t want to share with you? You don’t get offended!

They prefer to stay in their room instead of chatting with you? No problem!

10) You have no problem setting boundaries

Setting boundaries used to be difficult while you’re still growing up. But now, it’s easy as pie.

And once you say “No” to something, you don’t change your mind even if they kiss your feet. You respect people’s boundaries and you expect them to respect yours.

11) You don’t pity yourself when you stay home on weekends

Why do some people think you’re a loser when you’re just at home all weekend?

You really don’t get this because it’s actually NECESSARY to stay home in your PJs after socializing all week at work.

You order pizza, play some good music, and enjoy your precious me-time.

12) You don’t say YES to an invitation unless you really want to go

You’ve learned long ago that saying Yes just to be nice could lead you to trouble. They’d hate you if you say no later on, of course. So you have no choice but to go and be miserable.

So now, you’ve learned to not commit too fast. You give yourself a day or two and say yes only if you want to, which is what everyone should do.

13) You don’t feel guilty for doing things to save your sanity

When you’re around people who are noisy—say you’re sitting quietly in a restaurant then all of a sudden a group of noisy people sit near you–you ask the waiter if you can move to another table.

You want to protect yourself from anything that can affect your mood, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

14) You don’t say something just to fill the silence

You don’t understand why people have to talk just to feel comfortable. Silence is perfectly okay!

You’d rather save your energy when it’s absolutely necessary for you to talk.

But of course you’re not rude. You answer when someone makes small talk, but you don’t engage because again, WHY?!

15) You don’t replay conversations in your head anymore

You’re awkward and you know it.

However, you don’t torture yourself by trying to replay your cringe-inducing interactions with people anymore.

Besides, you have plenty of them already so that they don’t haunt you anymore. You laugh when you remember them but you don’t beat yourself up and try to change your ways anymore.

16) You “feel” for other introverts who are still struggling to fit in

You can easily spot an introvert even if they’re pretending to be the most extrovert person in the room.

And because you know how tough it can be when you’re trying too hard to fit in and be liked, you show them it’s perfectly ok to be an introvert.

You encourage them to feel at home and make them feel it’s perfectly fine to not be too social.

17) You go for quality over quantity—always

You prefer to have fewer intimate friendships than a hundred acquaintances. You prefer to have one quality night out a month than several so-so ones.

For you, less is definitely more when it comes to friendship and most things in life.

18) You’re looking for the one who you can share comfortable silence with

You’re not too crazy to find someone who you can banter with all day long, although that’s nice because that means you’re compatible.

But what you really want is someone who you can enjoy silence with. You want to live your life without the pressure to share and interact all the time. You simply can’t be with someone who feels unloved if you don’t talk.

19) You don’t feel the need to explain why you are the way you are

If you don’t want to hang out, you tell them you can’t. You save yourself the time to compose a long explanation of your decision to decline an invite. You do not owe them anything.

And if they’re really close friends, you give them your usual explanation “I want to recharge”, which is probably the truth anyway.

For everyone else, you’re done with feeling guilty for saying no.

20) You’re proud that you honor who you truly are

You know you’re an unapologetic introvert if you’re happy and proud of being one.

You know who you are and you want everyone to know that you respect what makes you happy…and that they should do the same, too.

Anyone who says you’re “antisocial”, “killjoy”, or “selfish” when you honor your introverted self are people you avoid like the plague.

You love yourself and the people in your life love you enough to respect your introvertedness.

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Last words

Being born an introvert is not easy.

Even the most well-meaning folks like our teachers and family would push us to become more social…as if being an introvert is a personality flaw. That’s rubbish!

I’m glad you’re finally standing up for who you are and showing the world that it’s totally fine to embrace who you are.

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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