In this day and age, it seems like gentlemen are becoming hard to find.
Luckily, there are still a few good guys out there!
If you’re wondering whether the guy you’ve got your eye on is the real deal, then read on!
With the help of this article, you will be able to determine if he’s a perfect gentleman or not.
These 25 signs will help you identify if that special one is a kind and thoughtful man who treats everyone with respect and consideration.
1) He holds the door for you and your friends.
It’s not that he’s trying to be nice, or polite, or any of those other things.
Men are often expected to open doors for women, particularly in the workplace.
But, it doesn’t matter if you’re the one who requested entrance; he should always hold it open for you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re in a rush or have your arms full; he should hold the door open for you.
He should also hold doors open for men and women who are behind him, even though they may not be next in line.
It’s just basic manners and respect – but it’s also something that sets him apart.
2) He pulls the chair out for you.
A nice gesture, no matter how small it is, goes a long way.
It shows that you respect your partner.
A gentleman always pulls out a chair for a lady.
The way he holds the chair and the way he invites you to sit are signs to other people that this guy is not only a gentleman but also a man of style and class.
Men should never take seats without first offering their seat to a woman.
I remember when I first started dating my husband, he would always pull out the chair for me when we were in a restaurant.
But what surprised me was how he would also pull out the chair for the person sitting right next to me.
It’s little things like that that really make a difference – as a woman, I never had to wonder if my date was trying to be nice by offering his seat.
But the important thing is I’ve never feel like he was doing that to impress me at all.
All that action was from his true desire to make sure I had a comfortable experience.
That is when I know for you he is a true gentleman.
3) He gives you his seat.
If someone is offering to give up their seat for you on a crowded bus or train, or at the cinema or in a restaurant, they are usually being polite.
They show their appreciation for you and help you out.
It’s true not only with you but also with other women, the elder or children.
Once he gives his seat to them, he can make all the difference.
4) He is honest.
Honesty is the highest quality in any person.
It is one of the most important values we can learn but is usually lacking in many people.
Honesty leads to better relationships, greater trust, and less resentment.
When a man is honest with others, he is showing them that he is trustworthy and open with his intentions.
If you want to develop a deeper connection with someone, then you should find an honest man and always be honest with them.
Honesty will allow you to build a strong foundation for future relationships.
5) He’s always polite to everyone.
That’s right, “everyone”, from women, co-workers, superiors, subordinates, waiters, service people,…
A gentleman treats everyone with politeness, no matter what their social status or background may be.
This reflects his view of a just society, and he knows that has no more or less rights than those around him.
He is never rude to anyone no matter what happens.
He’s always polite and very respectful of people who are older or different than him.
This doesn’t mean doing what he’s asked – it means keeping his emotions in check so he doesn’t upset people around him.
At the same time, a gentleman always says no to lowering others in order to elevate himself.
6) He is punctual.
Punctuality shows that you respect others and are committed to showing up on time.
Showing up on time for any meetings is a great way to start off with a strong first impression as a gentleman.
He knows punctuality is important because it makes people feel valued and respected.
If you want someone who is reliable, look for someone who is prepared for any situation.
On the other hand, people who are consistently late are ones that don’t plan ahead or prioritize their schedule well enough to guarantee that they will be on time.
7) He keeps a promise.
A man who keeps his promises is a man of honor.
Most of all, he’s someone you can rely on.
You know that he will always do what he says he will do.
And that makes him trustworthy.
Because you know that if you need something done, there’s a good chance he will be able to help you do it.
And if you need a favor done, there’s a good chance he can do that too!
He is a man who by all means won’t break his word.
To be fair, maybe sometimes he can ‘t do it all, or sometimes he can’t do it at that special time, or maybe he can’t do it right away, but if by any chance he promised you to do something, he’ll make sure to follow through.
8) He has an open mind.
He never thinks that his knowledge is sufficient or is his opinion completely correct.
He can see things from other people’s perspective.
A gentleman is always eager to learn, is open to new ideas or constructive criticism.
He also sees failure as an inevitable part of his journey of growth and self-awareness.
He doesn’t want to judge other people or concepts before he’s had a chance to fully consider them.
A gentleman will not argue just to win for himself, he focuses more on understanding and accepting other people’s points of view.
However, this doesn’t mean that he should blindly accept everything that he hears or sees.
9) He doesn’t judge you based on your interests.
When you share interests, it’s a good sign that there is probably a real connection between you.
If you feel that you and your partner are able to talk about almost everything, then there is probably a good chance that you will get along well together.
However, there are many different types of people in the world, and there is no one way to be.
He understands that everyone has different interests, beliefs, and values.
And he respects that about you and doesn’t judge you based on what he sees.
He respects your boundaries, so he doesn’t push you to do things that make you uncomfortable.
He doesn’t expect you to be interested in the same things he is.
He finds it’s OK if you don’t like what he likes, as long as you respect his preferences.
10) He doesn’t judge people based on their appearance.
He knows that people are more than just how they look.
And of course, your appearance doesn’t determine your worth as a person.
He’s attracted to your inner qualities, not just your looks.
He doesn’t see beauty standards as limitations to follow, but rather characteristics that can be incorporated into his life in order to make it a more enjoyable one.
And you know?
A man who doesn’t judge you based on your appearance is someone you can feel comfortable around.
That’s a perfect trait of a gentleman. You can feel confident with your natural beauty when you are with him, and if you don’t, he will be reassured how beautiful you are.
11) He doesn’t judge you for your past mistakes.
Someone who doesn’t judge you for your past mistakes is a good person.
When you share your past mistakes with him, he is not judging you.
He understands that you are trying a lot to change and that can be difficult.
To him, your past is irrelevant.
He doesn’t believe that your mistakes should have any impact on the way he interacts with you.
In other words, a nonjudgmental person will see the good in you and be willing to help you out when you need it.
12) He lets you be yourself.
He respects your boundaries and appreciates your personal space.
In other words, he lets you be yourself.
He doesn’t try to change you.
And that’s not a bad thing!
He will let you be the person you’re meant to be.
He’s accepting of your flaws and imperfections.
He sees your beauty even when you can’t see it yourself.
He never puts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself.
He’s willing to listen to what you have to say without judgment or criticism.
He encourages you to voice your concerns and make decisions without being pressured or judged.
13) He doesn’t show off.
When you see a man who is all over himself, it can be very distracting.
Some men will dress and behave in such a way that they seem to be putting themselves first, or placing themselves above others.
They might even go so far as to make grand statements about how great they are or how everyone else should look up to them.
These men may appear arrogant, self-centered, and even narcissistic.
In contrast, it’s also possible to see a man who is humble and modest.
He might be quiet and unassuming, with no need to show off his expertise or knowledge.
He would prefer to keep his head down and do his work quietly and without fuss.
He doesn’t feel the need to constantly talk about himself.
So what’s the difference between these two types of men?
The second type is a gentleman.
14) He dresses properly.
Men who dress properly send the message that they take care of themselves and their appearance.
He knows what to wear, and he wears it with confidence.
Dressing well can make a big difference in how others see you.
And that impression matters more than you might think.
Dresses well doesn’t have to mean that over-dresses.
You should be able to differentiate between the one that dresses well and the one that over-dresses.
Over-dresses men is probably a sign of a narcissist.
Cleanliness is important no matter what you’re doing.
So make sure his clothes are always clean and pressed.
15) He is responsible for what he’s done.
He is responsible for the choices that he has made, for the words that he has spoken and for the actions that he has taken.
He is aware of his actions and the consequences.
He should be able to admit when he is wrong and be willing to make amends when necessary.
This can build respect and trust between him and other people.
It also shows that he is someone who can be counted on when it’s needed the most.
16) He’s a good listener.
Having good listening skills is essential in building a relationship.
A man who listens well will be able to understand his partner better than one who doesn’t.
He can also keep an open dialogue in case there are any problems that require discussion or mediation.
Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
A woman can feel understood by her man when he listens to her carefully and shows that he cares by demonstrating his empathy, care, and compassion.
17) He is a gentleman when you are together and when you are apart.
He treats you with respect regardless of the situation.
He is a gentleman who strives to be polite and respectful at all times.
When he’s with you, he makes you as well as other people feel respected and appreciated.
And when you’re not around, he’s still a gentleman who doesn’t say bad words about you but keeps appreciating you.
Besides, the way he treats other people when you’re together is still the same.
If this sounds like someone you know, cherish him because he’s a real gem!
18) He respects your private space.
Respecting a partner’s private space means that we should not enter their personal space without asking first.
This includes prying into their personal life, such as by asking them questions about their past or their family.
He understands that sometimes we all need a little space.
He respects your boundaries and doesn’t invade your privacy.
He is aware of what you are comfortable with.
It can be awkward for a couple to share private information with one another.
However, it is important that you don’t go into detail about things that are too personal or too intimate.
This can cause problems in your relationship if not handled correctly.
When in doubt, remember to stay polite and respectful when speaking to each other.
19) He is attentive without being nosy.
He asks the right questions at just the right time, and listens to what you say with a nonjudgmental attitude.
He’s not grasping for information, but is instead interested in hearing your story.
You can tell that he cares about what you have to say, and that he’s paying close attention to your body language and tone of voice.
He already has a head start on building good communication habits that makes you feel comfortable talking to him.
Some people call this “active listening.”
This is when he actively pays attention to what you are saying and how you are saying it.
He might also show interest by nodding or making eye contact.
By doing these things, he demonstrates that he is engaged in the conversation and wants to know more about what you have to say.
This shows that he is a good listener who will likely be a good partner in any relationship.
20) He respects your family and friends.
One way to gauge if he is a gentleman is by looking at how he treats your family and friends – particularly how he interacts with them.
If he has a tendency to be rude or disrespectful towards your loved ones, then it’s safe to assume that they don’t respect you.
On the other hand, if he’s respectful and kind to everyone in your life, then it’s likely that he respects you and he’s a perfect gentleman.
21) He’s thoughtful and considerate of the feelings of others.
He always has an eye out for other people.
This can be in the form of being helpful or by taking care of someone else’s needs.
He always thinks about how to make other people feel comfortable and appreciated.
He will also make sure to listen to others when they have something to say.
He is always looking out for others and making sure they have what they need.
He will go out of his way to do these things because he cares about the people around him.
This quality is very important in romantic relationships in case you want to find a partner who takes good care of you.
This means letting you know what you need and making sure you are comfortable.
It also means being there for you when you need them most.
22) He treats you with care and respect at all times.
He’ll show that he values you as an important person.
Respect and care aren’t just words, either.
They come from actions.
When you’re with someone who respects and cares for you, it shows in every way.
For example, he doesn’t constantly check his phone while talking to you, or he does things like carrying heavy things for you, paying for dinner, etc.
Moreover, he’ll be there for you when you need him most, and he’ll also stick by your side through thick and thin.
23) He is consistent and has a clear opinion.
This is a man who has a clear vision and knows what he wants.
He is not swayed by other people’s opinions, but he does listen to advice from people around him.
When he has an opinion, he will tell you what it is and why.
In relationships, this man will stick up for you, support you, and take care of you.
If you have an issue with one of your friends or family members, this man will be the one to step in and defend you.
As far as compatibility goes, this man is the best fit for a woman who wants someone who can be their best friend and someone they can rely on in times of trouble.
24) He respects the elderly, women and children.
To respect someone means to show a sincere appreciation for that person’s worth and worthiness.
Respect is shown by treating the elderly, women and children with dignity and not making them feel inferior.
Respect is demonstrated in many ways, such as through manners and behavior.
When a man shows respect, he treats another person with dignity and respect.
This can be expressed in many different ways, from simple actions like shaking hands to more formal gestures like bowing or curtseying.
When someone shows respect to another person, it shows that they have a lot of empathy for the other person’s feelings and needs.
25) He keeps calm in all situations.
Keeping calm is a strong and valuable trait.
It allows you to keep your cool and take control of the situation if necessary.
If a man is able to remain calm in stressful situations, it can help him stay focused and make good decisions.
If he is stressed out, it can be difficult to think clearly.
And if he is not thinking clearly, it can be difficult to make good decisions.
Being calm will help him avoid making bad decisions and follow the right course of action.
Even if something out of the ordinary happens or if he’s feeling excited or nervous, he remains calm.
He doesn’t get flustered or loses his cool when things get tough because he knows how to deal with difficult situations.
He knows how to stay composed and handle any situation calmly and he knows what’s important so he doesn’t let things get out of control.
By doing so, he’ll be considered as a gentleman in even a difficult situation.
In short, a gentleman is someone who treats women with dignity, respect and kindness.
It’s important to always be aware of the signals that indicate that a person might be a gentleman, and make sure that you never make the mistake of assuming that someone who acts a certain way is good.
Remember that while these are all important examples of a gentleman, they’re not the only ones!
The gentleman doesn’t just exist in the movies and books; he’s someone you can meet every day of your life.
I hope you’ll be able to find one at any time.
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