14 surprising signs of a married woman in love with another man

Do you have suspicions that your wife might be in love with another man?

This is never an easy situation to navigate, but to get to the bottom of the truth, here are 15 signs that a married woman is in love with another man.

14 signs a married woman in love with another man

1) She is always talking about another man

If you notice that your wife is always talking about another man and she doesn’t seem to be excited when talking to you, then it’s possible she is in love with that other man.

You see, when a woman talks about a man a lot, chances are pretty good that she has feelings for him.

Simply put, if she is talking about another man, it is likely that she is in love with him.

Here you need to watch out for context, of course.

Think about it: if she started a new job and this man is one of her only new colleagues, it’s likely that she mentions him a lot, that alone is not a cause for concern.

However, if she keeps talking about a certain guy way more than usual, that’s when things can get tricky.

You will need to listen to your intuition here.

2) She’s always on the phone

If you’re noticing that your wife is always on the phone, it may be because she’s talking to her new love interest.

If you think she’s talking to a guy, listen carefully for any references to him and see how long the conversations last.

You see, if she’s on the phone for a long time, then there is a good chance that she is in love with this other guy.

This doesn’t mean she is talking to him on the phone, she might also be texting him.

I’m not saying you should go snooping through her phone, that’s usually not a good idea.

But if you notice your wife acting suspicious, turning her phone away from you, etc. you might want to talk to her about it.

You see, in a healthy relationship, the partners usually have no reason to hide their phones from one another.

The only exception to that rule is when they’re planning a surprise for you, of course.

But I think you can gauge that yourself.

3) She has lost interest in you

A woman who is in love with another man will stop giving her husband the time of day.

She will ignore him and not make any effort to please him.

It’s common for a woman to go on a spending spree and buy new clothes, jewelry, and other luxury items when she falls in love with someone else.

Apart from that, you probably will not be able to engage her in many conversations anymore because her interest lies elsewhere.

This is a hard pill to swallow, and you probably feel neglected, abandoned, and betrayed as a result of it all.

There is a high chance that you will be very upset and confused as to what’s going on.

You might even feel like there is something wrong with you because you are the one who has been cheated on.

In this case, it’s best not to take things personally and to try and understand the situation that your wife has found herself in.

Before you spend months or even years neglected by your wife, you should take matters into your own hands and leave.

Don’t let yourself get disrespected like that!

If you truly love your wife and want to save your marriage, then it is best to take action immediately.

Talk to her and ask her outright if there is something going on.

You see, the reason she has lost interest in you could also have to do with her being stressed at work or having other things on her mind.

Communicating will be the best way to clear up any misunderstandings before they become bigger.

But what if she’s just having a hard time and hasn’t actually lost interest in you?

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4) She looks happy when she sees him

If your wife seems to have a permanent grin the moment she sees her lover, that’s one sign that she is in love with him.

She might even smile more when she sees him than she does when you are around.

If your wife smiles more at her new love interest than she ever did at you, it’s time to talk to her.

For women, when a man makes them happy that’s often a sign of feelings.

You should definitely talk to your wife about this because if you don’t there is a good chance that she will be cheating on you sooner or later (if she hasn’t already).

Similarly, if she is constantly talking about how much fun she has with this guy and how wonderful he makes her feel, it’s very likely that she is in love with him.

Of course, this can be hard for you to see as a sign because you might not see them together or hear your wife talk about him.

Perhaps mutual friends would give you some hints about this.

Ultimately, it’s best to talk to your wife directly, however.

5) She stops wearing her wedding ring

We always know when a guy is committed to his marriage when he still wears his wedding ring.

That’s also the case with some married women though.

Some stop wearing their wedding ring as a way to remove themselves from their marriage.

It is a clear indication that she isn’t interested in her current partner and has put all of her energy into someone else.

If you notice your wife no longer wearing her wedding ring, then it may be time to question what is going on in her life.

Maybe she has a new boyfriend and is happy, or maybe she’s in the process of divorcing you.

Talking is important because the reason she is not wearing her ring anymore can be something simple and innocent like having a rash or swollen fingers.

Jumping to conclusions in situations like this can do more harm than good, believe me!

6) Her body language towards you is more distanced

If your wife’s body language towards you becomes more withdrawn and distanced, she may be in love with another man.

Unintentionally, this would make her seem like she is harboring a guilty conscience or that she has something to hide.

You might notice her withdrawing whenever you get close to her or having her whole body turned away from you a lot.

Cuddling and kissing will probably cease, too.

These are common signs that someone is either cheating or in love with someone else.

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7) When she’s with friends she doesn’t mention you much at all

When she’s with friends, does she talk about you? If not, it might be a sign that your wife is in love with another man.

Another key sign that a married woman is in love with another man is when she doesn’t mention you much at all.

Maybe she’ll mention you occasionally (or not at all) while hanging out with friends.

If she’s not talking about you, it could be a sign she is in love with someone else.

When your wife doesn’t want to discuss you, it is a sign that she’s hiding something or is in love with another man.

You see, a married woman will feel guilty or embarrassed talking about her husband with friends when in reality, she loves someone else.

She may also try to avoid talking about you by turning the conversation away from her (or by avoiding eye contact).

Unless you are within hearing distance, this sign is another one of those you probably won’t know until you talk to mutual friends about it.

8) When you come home she doesn’t seem happy to see you

It’s always nice to be greeted by someone who looks genuinely pleased to see you.

And when your wife greets you with that same level of enthusiasm, it should make you feel good.

However, if she seems unhappy or even irritated that you’re home, it might be a sign that the two of you are not on the same page anymore.

Unless you were fighting recently, there is no reason for her to not seem thrilled at all when you come home.

If she’s unhappy, it could be a sign she’s in love with someone else.

Talking to her about this will really help you clear things up a bit. Perhaps there is another aspect to the story that you’re not looking at.

9) She is not seeing her friends anymore

If your wife is spending less time with her friends and not going out for drinks, that could be a sign that she is seeing someone else.

The reason she avoids her friends could be that they are mutual friends of you and her, so she’d have to lie to them, too, not just you.

And if she’s not spending time with her friends, that could be a sign that she’s in love with another man.

Think about it: if she can’t tell them about this big thing that’s going on in her life and would have to lie about it, she’d rather not spend time with her friends at all.

Makes sense, right?

If this is the sign you are seeing, try to ask your wife why she hasn’t seen her friends in so long and if she’d like to catch up with them.

Maybe there simply hasn’t been enough time to hang out with friends lately.

10) She leaves the house without telling you where she is going

If you have a wife and you notice that she leaves the house without telling you where she is going, it could be because she is meeting the man she is in love with.

This is one of the most reliable signs that a woman has a man on the side.

And if she does this when you are out of town, it could be a sign that she is seeing someone else on the side.

This is especially true when in the past, you used to keep each other up to date about who you were meeting and what you were doing.

Don’t be too pushy when you approach her about this, or she might accuse you of being controlling or overly jealous.

11) She acts very cold towards you

When your wife suddenly acts very cold towards you, this could be a sign that there is someone else she is in love with.

You see, when she fell head over heels for someone, she could be freezing you out.

Another reason she might be doing this is to cause you to lose feelings for her, too, to make the breakup easier.

You can of course ask her about this. In a good and healthy relationship, it should be no problem to ask the other person if something is going on because they’ve been acting cold.

If you want to know what’s going on, just ask. It doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

12) You notice that she is very preoccupied with her appearance

If you notice your wife is very preoccupied with her appearance, this could be a sign that she is seeing someone else.

Think about it: when you’re in love with someone and things are new and fresh, you want to look your best, right?

Well, your wife is probably doing the same, just that she is looking her best when she is going out without you.

Of course, she might just have a phase where her appearance is more important to her than usual (trust me, I have that, too, sometimes), but if she never makes any effort for you but spends 2 hours doing her makeup to go “run an errand”, that can be a cause for concern.

And if you ask her about it, she might say you are being paranoid.

13) She suddenly becomes very moody and emotional

If your wife suddenly becomes very moody and emotional, this could be a sign that she is seeing someone else.

The whole situation is probably just as confusing for her as it is for you (not that I’m making an excuse for her, but it’s definitely not just sunshine and rainbows on her part).

So, if your wife is suddenly emotional and moody that can be a sign of her loving someone else, but it doesn’t have to be.

You see, emotions can have infinite different causes, so it’s best to ask her about it!

14) She doesn’t pick up when you call her

Last but not least, when your wife is in love with someone else, she might not pick up when you call her.

It’s not that she doesn’t want to talk to you, but she might be with the guy she is in love with.

Now: don’t get too paranoid too quickly, your wife might just be busy and can’t talk.

However, if she always used to pick up and suddenly she picked up the habit of never answering the calls while she is out on her own, that’s a sign that there’s someone else.

As with the previous signs, you can talk to her about it and see if you’re just paranoid.

Communication is everything

You probably got the gist of this entire article: communication is everything.

Almost every single sign can be a simple misunderstanding, so try talking to your wife before jumping to any conclusions.

If these signs start piling up, that’s usually when there is something that needs to be looked up.

But, if you still love your wife, what you really need is a plan of attack to mend your marriage.

Many things can slowly infect a marriage – distance, lack of communication, and sexual issues. If not dealt with correctly, these problems can shift into infidelity and disconnectedness.

Fortunately, relationship expert and divorce coach Brad Browning knows exactly what it takes to save a failing marriage.

Brad is the real deal when it comes to saving marriages. He is a best-selling author and shares valuable marriage advice on his extremely popular YouTube channel.

The strategies Brad reveals are extremely powerful and might make the difference between a “happy marriage” and an “unhappy divorce”.

So, if you want to give your marriage another chance, watch his simple and genuine video here.

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Anna Scheucher

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