If you meet these men and they’re not single, it’s so obvious and you may want to keep your distance.
But what if you meet someone that is crazy attractive and you have no idea if this guy is a married player or not.
I mean, he can be not wearing a wedding ring and say he is not married but the reality is that he’s married.
There are so many cases like that in real life and how to identify that kind of player?
Here are 15 common warning signs that a married player is eyeing you and trying to win your heart away from his spouse.
1) He is secretive about his life
If he is secretive about his life and does not like discussing his personal life, he may be married to someone else.
I know it is hard to be open and discuss your life in real time with someone who you’ve just met, but when it comes to dating, this is a very important question.
Well, it may be more appropriate to ask your date what he wants to talk about, but the truth is if a married player wants to hide his married status to you, he has already said that he does not want to talk about his personal life.
And this is the big sign that you should notice.
2) He disappears for long periods of time without a word
When you start dating a guy, he uses all the flirting techniques and he’s constantly making eye contact with you.
He will call and text you all day long, but if he starts disappearing for long periods of time without a word, that’s not good!
This is one of the most common signs that this man can probably be marrying to some other woman.
3) He refuses to introduce you to his friends and family… ever
If he avoids meeting your friends and family, it is for a reason
He may mention that he has a lot of people in his life, but if he refuses to introduce you to anyone, that’s already a weird sign.
If a guy is married, he will rarely introduce you to someone else because he will know that the person may spill too much information about him when you ask about him.
And he also worries that his friends or relatives will tell his wife about you.
4) He’ll only hangout at your place
I mean, for some guys, it’s okay to go to your place and watch a movie, but if he always suggests that you meet him at your place instead of going to his place or other public place like parks or restaurants, he may be married.
Maybe he will take you to places like movies or coffee, but he always looks around before walking in, then there must be something wrong.
5) He makes excuses for why they can’t see you regularly
If a guy starts making excuses for why he cannot cram, this is not a good sign.
It may be that he’s already married, but it could also be that something is wrong with him physically or mentally.
Perhaps he just does not have time for you and would rather work on his marriage.
Whatever the case may be, if he starts making excuses for why he’s so busy or can’t hang out with you regularly, get away from him as soon as possible.
6) He is overly attentive, but only in person
If a guy is overly attentive when you’re out together, but he’s not as attentive when you are apart, be aware of this.
He will call and text you all day long and be very interested in what you are doing. But if he starts making excuses for why he cannot hang out with you regularly, then there’s something going on.
He only wants to have a little fun, and if that is the case, you will have to stop seeing him in person so that you do not fall in love with a married man.
7) He’s very secretive about his past relationships
If a guy refuses to tell you anything about his exes, there’s probably a reason for it!
A married guy will rarely tell you about his past relationships with girls because he does not want to open up too much.
I know this because I have been to a lot of married guys’ parties and, in reality, they do not even talk about their past relationships, let alone their wives.
8) You don’t know where his work
Yeah, it’s true!
If you don’t know where your partner works, what he does for a living, if he is in school, or if he has a job and his income is fluctuating from month to month., then he may be married to someone else.
I mean, if he has been playing with you for a few months, but suddenly, his work is so busy that he has no time to communicate with you, he is most likely married.
So at least, you can check his phone or ask him directly where his work goes. I mean, why does a single man have to hide his job? There must be something suspicious here.
9) He avoids social media
One way to get to know someone is through the social media sites, but if your date is avoiding social media, it can be a sign that he is married.
You see, men who are married will avoid sharing anything about themselves on social media because they do not want their wife or other family members to see what they are doing.
In this case, you better contact his family members and ask them about his marital status.
10) He talks about being lonely or having no one to care for him
If you have ever heard a guy say: “I’m lonely and no one to take care of me, so I have to take care of myself.”
You should be paying attention and realize that he is really trying to tell you that he has a wife who is supposed to be taking care of him at home, but she doesn’t.
When a man says that he is lonely and has no one to take care of him, it means he wants someone else to do those things for him, not his current wife.
11) He will try to get you drunk before taking things further
There’s something fishy if he tries to get you drunk before taking things further.
I know he may not want you to remember what happened the next day, but this is still one of the common signs that a married player has in his bag of tricks.
I’m sure this happens on some level.
Well, when a man invites you out and tells you that he wants to get drunk with you and see where things go from there, he is suggesting that he wants to take advantage.
So, try not to fall for it!
12) He won’t make plans more than a day in advance with you
If you are dating someone and he never makes plans more than a day in advance with you, this could be a sign that he is married and he does not want to be seen as cheating on his wife.
I know this is not fun to hear, but it’s true.
I have noticed that many good guys just want to take things slow, which is completely normal and understandable.
But if you’re dating someone for a long time and he never made plans with you more than a day in advance as well, this should raise red flags with you.
If a man is making plans in advance, it means he likes you and cares about your feelings.
If he refuses to make plans with you more than a day in advance, he does not care about you. In addition, he probably is trying to avoid the time overlap between two relationships.
13) His stories don’t add up
Think about it.
When you start dating someone, you ask them about their past relationships and future plans.
This is normal, and most people don’t even think twice about it.
However, if you ask him about their exes and he gives you stories that don’t add up or make sense, you should be suspicious.
One example of this could be if he says that their ex is a workaholic and rarely returns their calls or texts.
If you ask them if they have seen or met up with their ex recently, they come up with a completely different story.
If he is lying to you about simple stuff, it’s likely they are lying to you about more serious things as well.
14) He only communicates during late night hours
If you start dating and he constantly wants to communicate with you during late hours like 11 pm and 12 am, you should be alarmed.
You should be aware that he might be married and trying to hide their online communication because they don’t want their spouse to access their emails and texts.
He might have another partner or be a married individual. If you have a legitimate reason for communicating with this guy during late hours, like working a night shift or dealing with a sick family member, it’s okay.
Just be aware that if you are constantly receiving texts and calls from your guy during late hours, it could be a red flag.
15) He constantly changes the subject when discussing commitment
If your partner is constantly changing the subject when discussing commitment, it could be because he is married or just not looking for a serious relationship.
For example, if you discuss marriage and he always says that marriage is not his thing, he might be married.
Or if he constantly brings up how unhappy marriage is or how much he enjoys being with you without a married certificate, then most likely, this guy might be married.
Married men are not players, they are cheaters and thieves!
Married players are not only players, they are cheaters and thieves!
I know this may be hard to believe, but it’s true. There are so many married men who pretend to be single and prey on women because they know how desperate women get when they are trying to find someone.
Married players keep their marriages a secret and feed off of the emotions of women who cannot find anyone else because they have been with other men and have lost faith in finding a real relationship.
I know you’re probably wondering why I even bother writing this article about married men dating other women when it’s just one certain type of man: The married player.
It’s because of the fact that these men have a 94% divorce risk and they are looking to cheat on their spouses. When you’re dating a married man, he won’t be able to provide you with a ring.
You should be aware that if you go on a date with this type of person, he is only interested in his own ego and making himself feel good about himself.
He does not care about your needs or what is best for his wife and family.
What’s even worse is that many of these men are selfish and think that it’s okay to cheat on their wives because they are unhappy with them or do not love them anymore.
What should you do?
If you suspect that your date is being unfaithful, you should speak with him and discuss your concerns.
Being truthful and ending the relationship in a respectful way will set a solid foundation for the future of your life.
There’s no point in wasting time on someone if they are not going to be there for you. It is important to be patient and wait until the right one comes along!
If they do not change their ways, I recommend that you walk away from the situation.
If he isn’t willing to change his lifestyle, he is not worth your time and energy.
You can do so much better, and you deserve someone who will respect you for all of the amazing things that you are!
After all, who doesn’t want a nice guy?!
Good luck out there, ladies! You got this! You will find your prince charming soon.
Your date is hiding something from you, or has been lying all along. Once you can see past the lies and bullshit, you will see that the real person beneath is not worth your time.
In the end, these men will always bring you down and bring your self esteem into an all new low. It’s time to move on with your life, and find someone who can make you happy!
I hope this article has helped you understand men better.
Take care, love yourself and stay away from bullshit.
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