If you find yourself wondering:
“Is my partner thinking of leaving me?” or “Does my partner want to break up with me?”.
This article is for you.
Read on for a list of 15 signs that may answer your questions, as well as valuable tips on how to deal with each sign should they come true.
1) A sudden change in behavior.
A sudden change in behavior is one of the first things that a woman will notice, as it is usually very apparent.
At first, he may start off by seeming more distant or quiet and this could also occur when you are together on your own.
This may be caused by several different reasons such as stress at work or feeling that he is not getting his needs met at home.
When this occurs, there are several things you can do:
- Listen to him. Try not to interrupt if he is seeking to express himself and do not take things personally. It is important to let him speak his mind, otherwise he may feel like there is nowhere for him to turn should the problem persist.
- Find common ground. Emotional problems can be harder to tackle when there is no common ground between you. Find a way to bring the two of you closer, such as talking about your shared interests and hobbies.
- Be confident and appreciative when he does express himself, even if it is not what you want to hear or it goes against what he should be doing.
2) He starts to imagine himself being single again.
It is common for people to think about what life will be like when they are single again, and it is also common to imagine a life spent with another person.
However, if he starts imagining a future where he is not with you, this could be one of the signs that he wants to break it off.
He may begin planning for what it would be like to be single again.
It could be a fantasy that he is going to travel solo or something similar but this has the potential to ruin your relationship if he ever seriously considers it.
And you know what?
A woman will notice this if he starts to make plans and schedule activities that would be impossible or awkward with you.
There is a strong possibility that he is thinking of leaving you.
3) Lack of communication.
Communication is a crucial part of any relationship, as it allows you to openly discuss and resolve any issues that may arise between you.
If there is a sudden change in the way he communicates with you, it may be one of the signs that divorce is coming.
He may stop talking to you or become more defensive when certain topics come up, such as marital issues, lack of intimacy and even money.
If you feel like he is not communicating with you in a positive and healthy way or if there has been a sudden drop off in communication, try to figure out what is going on.
Listen carefully and ask him questions about his feelings – don’t interrupt or argue as this could worsen the situation.
4) He starts to withdraw from activities that were once enjoyable for the two of you.
If he was once an active part of your life, but now he seems to be less involved, this is a sign that a breakup could be coming soon.
You both used to enjoy going out together, but he starts to back out of activities or make excuses, he may be feeling uncomfortable in the relationship.
He may no longer want to take part in social gatherings or events that are important to you, such as family functions or religious ceremonies.
Ask him why he is withdrawing and try to find out if there is something troubling him.
5) He avoids talking about the future.
You may notice that he does not like to talk about the future or what you two could do, as a couple.
But one thing’s for sure, a man who is thinking of leaving you or breaking up with you will avoid talking about what the future may hold for the two of you.
He may also avoid making any plans and when asked, he will make a weak excuse as to why.
Your partner should be able to express himself without feeling like he is doing something wrong, so take his feelings into consideration and be understanding, rather than judgemental in this case.
6) He has been more secretive than usual.
It is only natural for a man to have his own interests that he likes to keep to himself, however, if he no longer shares these things with you, it could be one of the warning signs that he is thinking of leaving.
For a lot of people, secrets are one of the biggest reasons that they begin to consider breaking up with their partner.
However, if he starts becoming more secretive than he usually is, this could be something to seriously consider.
Needless to say, this can be caused by a number of different things such as his work schedules, things that have happened in his personal life or even the possibility that they are having an affair.
7) He gives up on trying to improve the relationship.
Sometimes, people just give up on the idea that they can make their current relationship work.
If this is what’s going on, it’s one of the signs that he is thinking of leaving you. And you may want to know why he has given up on trying to make it work.
Although this may be difficult, try to ask him what has happened in his life that led him to think about leaving you and whether or not there are other options he would rather pursue.
8) He starts blaming everything on you.
This could be a sign of anxiety if everything else has been going well for both of you since the beginning of your relationship and suddenly everything turns sour.
If all of a sudden he starts picking on you, if he is blaming everything on you and if there is any form of disturbance between the two of you, it could very well be one of the signs that he is considering leaving.
However, there may be plenty to talk about if you look at things logically.
Often, it is good to explore what is making your partner anxious when they start to blame everything on you.
By asking him what has happened since the beginning of the relationship and by finding out his explanation behind this new behavior in your relationship, you may be able to see that this problem may not derive from either of your actions.
9) He is more quiet than usual and avoids conflict.
Perhaps a change in personality is the way to go about it.
A man should be a strong and confident individual and not avoid confrontation like this if he truly wants to stay with you.
The problem here is that he may be trying to conceal his feelings of unhappiness in the hope of getting them under control, but is hoping that you will not notice such things as well.
This can be difficult to deal with, so it is best to try and talk things out with him and see if he will patch things up.
10) He has been spending an abnormal amount of time at work or traveling for work.
One of the most important things you must do when in a relationship is to spend time together at home.
However, if you start to notice that he is spending an abnormal amount of time at work or traveling for work, this could be one of the signs that he may be leaving you and has been considering this for some time.
If he does not have other engagements, it would be a good idea to ask him what he is doing when he is working or traveling.
You may be able to learn a lot about where his mind really is and what shadows his mind holds by asking him these questions.
11) He wants you to change.
If he starts to imply that you are not perfect or that you need to change and acts like he is waiting for you to do so, this could be a sign that he is thinking of leaving.
So what’s going on?
He maybe expresses a desire for you to change who you are or the way that you do things just to suit him, chances are that he is not happy in the relationship and wants it to end.
He should be willing to accept the person you are and all of your good qualities, as well as some of your flaws.
However, if he tells you that he wants these changes and they will be easy for you to make, then chances are that he is not considering leaving but rather wants a change.
Try your best not to express frustration in this situation as it only makes things more difficult.
Do your best to listen, ask your partner what he wants from you and try to find common ground that will lead to mutual satisfaction.
12) He begins staying out late without calling.
This is one of the most common signs that a man is cheating on his wife or girlfriend.
Yes! You read it right!
And if there are many times where he has been staying out late without calling, this could be one of the signs that you should end the relationship.
While you may not be able to prevent this from happening, it is crucial that you learn to know who he is hanging out with after all the late nights at work.
13) A change in sexual desire for you.
A sudden change in sexual activities and frequency is a sign that he is considering leaving the relationship.
If the two of you are not having sex as often as you once did, it could be a sign that he has lost interest or desire to pursue physical contact with you.
Take the time to talk about your desires and needs, let him know what turns you on, but do not pressure him into performing if he simply does not want to.
You need to make sure that if nothing changes with this issue, then you will have to make your decision about whether or not it is worth sticking around for this lack of communication and passion in your relationship.
14) He does not respect you.
Respect is one of the most important things in a relationship, as it sets you apart from the rest of the population.
However, there are some couples who do not respect each other and do not even seem to listen to each other.
If he does not respect you, then this could be a warning sign that he does not see you as an equal person and wants to break up with you.
He may even treat you in a way that makes you feel like a lower priority and not come through on promises made between the two of you.
He may even speak badly about things that are important to you, such as your friends or your career choices.
15) He has begun to criticize you truly.
Most of us have a bad day or week every now and again and will let out a negative thing here and there about us, our friends, family or even ourselves.
However, if he is constantly making negative comments about you in front of others, this could be an indication that he does not want to go on with the relationship anymore, especially if his criticisms are not justified and he is berating you for no apparent reason.
What to do about it?
Bear with me, because I’m going to show you how you can do to deal with these signs, such as:
If you have recently been having serious problems with your spouse, it may have been a result of all the other signs listed above.
However, if he is showing a variety of other signs consistently and he does not seem like he cares about your emotional well-being at all, it may be time to reassess the relationship and try counseling.
Spend more time together outside of work or school.
Make sure to spend more time together during your free time, whether it be during the week or on the weekends.
If you have been too busy focusing on other things, this could be a sign that he is not getting enough attention and affection from you.
Tell him how much you love him and why.
After spending some time together outside of work, tell him how much you love and appreciate him in a special way.
However, make sure to do this without pressuring or forcing him into doing anything because it will not end well.
Take a break from each other if needed.
If you have been having a lot of problems with your partner, the last thing you need to be doing is spending too much time with each other.
Even if your relationship is not at that point yet, taking a break from one another and focusing on yourself for a little while can help you take the time to make a good decision about what you want for your future.
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Hopefully, this article has helped you gain a more detailed understanding of the reasons why your boyfriend is considering leaving you and how to deal with these situations.
If you feel like these signs are just not cutting it for you anymore, do not feel bad about breaking up with him.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you unconditionally.
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