Do you have a hunch that a guy might be secretly obsessed with you?
I have some good news for you sister – there are some very clear signs that a guy likes you more than just a little bit!
Keep reading to find out 17 signs a guy is obsessed with you (in a good way):
1) He stares at you (in a non-creepy way)
If he’s staring at you, he most likely likes you!
This is a bit of an obvious one but it can definitely be overlooked sometimes.
If he’s staring at you with a smile on his face and some interest in your conversation, it means that he likes you.
And if you continuously catch him staring at you? Girl, he is obsessed with you!
He might not say anything to you, but if he keeps looking back at you and smiling then there’s definitely something there!
Look out for this sign when you’re talking to him. You’ll know for sure if he is obsessed with you or not!
2) You bring out his inner hero
One huge sign of a guy being obsessed with you is when you bring out his inner hero.
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.
Do you want to know how to trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
3) He wants to spend time with you
If he’s always wanting to hang out with you, then there is definitely something there!
You’ll notice that he keeps asking you out on dates or asks you to hang out more often – chances are he really likes you!
The more time you spend together the more likely it is that he will fall in love with you.
You see, a guy who is obsessed with you will want to spend time with you above anything else.
He’ll even cancel plans with friends in order to free up time for you!
For example, if you’re going to the movies, he’ll want to go with you even if he has other plans.
He will always want to be around you because he is obsessed with you!
4) He wants to be better for you (in a good way)
If a guy is obsessed with you, then it’s likely that he wants to be better for you!
This means that he’ll make himself more attractive and more appealing for your eyes.
He wants to look his best and impress you in whatever way possible.
I’m saying “in a good way” because obviously, you wouldn’t want someone to change their entire being just to be attractive to you.
But that’s not the case here. Instead, he wants to be better because you inspire him to show up as the best version of himself!
- he gets a haircut
- he takes good care of his hygiene
- he might join a gym
- he starts reading more
- he goes back to school
- he puts more effort in at work
- he has more aspirations
You see, all of these changes are affecting his own life in an incredibly positive way.
I always say: if you can find any motivation to change your life for the better, take it!
Of course, you shouldn’t be the only reason he works on himself, that should be something he does for himself, after all, but still, being the spark for change can be something positive!
So, if a guy tries to be a better version of himself, it could mean that he is obsessed with you!
5) He’s constantly around you
If you’re always bumping into him, he’s probably obsessed with you.
You see, it might feel a bit stalker-ish, but in reality, he is just trying to be in the places where you often visit to catch a chance of seeing you!
This could be:
- your favorite bar
- your go-to restaurant
- the park you like to visit
You see, chances are he’s not trying to stalk you, he just wants to give you a feeling of “randomly bumping into each other”.
Trust me, he’s obsessed!
6) He’s always there for you!
If a guy is obsessed with you, then he’ll be there for you no matter what.
This means that he will make an effort to always be available when it comes to your needs.
- If your car breaks down in the middle of the night, he’ll come and pick you up.
- If your dog gets sick, he’ll come by to help out.
- If your family member passes away, he’ll be one of the first ones at your doorstep.
This may sound like a lot of responsibility for him but if a guy is obsessed with you, then he won’t think twice about doing something like this!
He wants to make sure that everything is fine in your life because you are that important to him.
He might be a little too overprotective sometimes, but that’s because he doesn’t want anything bad to happen to you.
He’ll do whatever it takes because he really cares about making sure that things are okay with you.
This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to be there for you through thick and thin.
And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.
All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.
7) He likes to text you a lot
He’s obsessed with you if he likes to text you.
It might sound weird, but a guy who really likes you will text you all the time.
No matter what time of day it is or how busy they are, they’ll find time to shoot off a few texts to see what you’re up to.
That can be surprising, as we are often used to guys getting back to us when it’s convenient for them.
You’ll know a guy is really obsessed when he makes you a priority to the point where he replies even while he’s busy.
When he texts, he’ll make sure the messages are meaningful and long (this will show that he really cares).
Guys like this aren’t looking for someone to just fill up their text inbox – they’re looking for someone they can have a real conversation with.
So: if he’s always texting or calling to see what your plans are, he probably likes spending time with you and wants to do it more often.
8) He compliments you a lot
One sign that a guy might be obsessed with you is if he compliments you all the time.
If he’s constantly telling you how beautiful you are or how great your outfit looks, it’s a pretty good indication.
So if he compliments your outfit for no reason or tells everyone how beautiful/smart/funny/whatever else about you, then that means he adores everything about you and not just some random part of your looks or personality.
Sometimes, his compliments can seem almost ingenuine because he gives you so many of them, but trust me if he’s obsessed, he means every single one of them!
Think about it: when you are really into a guy, there are a thousand things you notice that you like about him, right?
So he’ll probably compliment you on a lot of those things that he likes about you.
He’ll give you compliments about how smart you are, how funny and outgoing you are, or how kind and caring.
It doesn’t matter what it is – if he’s obsessed with you, he’s going to find something good about everything and tell you (and everyone else) all the time!
9) He remembers significant details about you
Does he remember the things you say about your favorite colors, foods, and TV shows?
I’m guessing it’s because guys are so terrible at remembering things in general (case-in-point: birthdays).
But if your guy seems like he never forgets anything about you, it’s likely because he admires your personality and values and wants to learn more about them!
If he’s obsessed with you, then he’ll remember everything about your life, from your favorite ice cream flavor to your favorite place to hang out.
He’ll remember these little details about you and use them in conversations so that you know he’s listening to what you have to say.
He remembers all of the things you’ve told him about yourself and uses them as a way to connect with you.
Remembering significant details about you is definitely a hallmark sign of a guy worshipping you.
10) He pays for everything
If he’s not asking you to pay for anything and doesn’t even offer when you offer to, it could be because he really likes you.
If he’s obsessed with you, then he probably wouldn’t even think twice about offering to pay for your dinner or movie tickets.
He might think you don’t like him, but he doesn’t care!
He might even try to pay for everything all the time, which can be a little annoying but it’s also just another sign of how much he likes you!
What should you do in that situation?
To be honest, it’s up to you!
Some girls prefer to keep things equal and offer to pay, while others don’t mind getting spoiled.
You see, there is no right or wrong answer here, go with whatever feels right to you.
However, even if you are letting him pay for everything, don’t forget to at least offer to pay yourself or express your gratitude for what he is doing!
11) He always wants to know what you’re up to
If you find that your guy is always asking you to tell him what you’re up to, he’s probably obsessed with you.
This is because the more he knows about your life, the more he can plan for future dates and make sure he’s on the same page as you.
Of course, he’s also waiting to find out when you’re free to hang out with him!
Sometimes, this sign can also indicate that he is protective: he wants to know what you’re up to so that he could help you in case you need it!
12) He is very active on your social media platforms
A super obvious sign that a guy is obsessed with you is when he is very active on your social media platforms.
This means he’s constantly checking your Instagram and Facebook, looking through all of your photos, and commenting on everything!
He might even tag you in a photo or leave a comment on one of your posts.
He’s also always on the lookout for new updates from you.
If you find that he checks up on you often, then it’s probably because he likes you very much!
Some guys are not that obvious with these things and won’t comment or like your pictures.
How can you tell if they are stalking your social media?
Well, you’ll probably notice that they are the first ones to watch all of your stories, so that will give you a little hint!
13) He showers you with attention
The best way to tell if a guy likes you is by the attention he gives you.
If he always wants to be around you and just can’t help but ask you about your day, then it’s clear that he likes you.
Think about it: when we like someone, we want to know everything about them – their lives, their goals, their hopes, and dreams – so that we can feel closer to them.
He might find any excuse to talk to you just because he likes being around you!
Showering you with attention in that way is a huge sign that he is obsessed with you in every way possible!
14) He sticks with you through thick and thin
A guy who’s obsessed with you will stick with you through thick and thin.
Even if you have a terrible day or a fight with each other, they’ll still be there for you.
They’ll do the little things to make sure that no matter what happens, they’re always by your side.
Take this as a sign that he’s not just into you when everything is going well – he’s also sticking around when it all goes wrong.
He is always there for you, ready to pick up the pieces and help you through thick and thin.
15) Even when you ignore him, he’s still around
The next sign that he’s obsessed with you can’t be overlooked:
He’ll still stick around even when you’re ignoring him.
He may also try to change your mind, but he’ll get over it if you don’t want to budge.
This shows that he’s not just obsessed with getting you back, but that he’s willing to wait forever if necessary.
Whether or not that’s a good sign is debatable, after all, it’s nice to have a man who respects himself and his time.
However, you can’t blame someone for their feelings, and if you think about it, being in love can do that to you!
16) He always agrees with you
When you’re dating, it’s normal to disagree at times – that’s the way that relationships work.
However, when you’re dating someone who is obsessed with you, they’ll always agree with everything that you say.
This can be a good or bad thing depending on how much of an opinionated person your boyfriend is!
But if he always agrees with you and never disagrees, then it’s pretty clear that he likes you.
He’s not just interested in your personality and your looks – he also wants to know what makes you tick and how to deal with difficult situations.
However, it’s okay to then nudge him a bit to finally tell you his own opinion.
After all, it’s quite unlikely that he agrees with absolutely every single thing!
17) He doesn’t try to change you
When you’re dating someone who is obsessed with you, they’ll never try to change you.
They’ll always be happy with the way you are, and will never try to change your personality or your habits.
This means that he’s not just into your looks and personality – he’s also into who you are at heart.
He likes how authentic and real you are and isn’t willing to try and make you be someone different than who you really are.
This can show a lot about how much he cares for the person that he’s dating – if he respects their individuality as well as their beauty, it’s safe to say that he’s in love!
And the best part?
That’s a surefire way to unconditional love!
Set your boundaries
Now that you know whether or not a guy is obsessed with you, don’t be afraid to set boundaries for yourself.
Tell him to back off a bit, if that’s what you want, or that you need some space, and will text him in a couple of days.
You see, although it’s normal to get a little obsessed with someone you like, you shouldn’t feel the need to entertain all of his obsessions!
Set your own personal boundaries and everything else will follow.
And if you want to make a guy completely and utterly obsessed with you?
Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.
You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.
And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.