It can be hard enough to figure out if a random guy likes you but throw a whole marriage into the mix, and you’ll be left feeling even more confused!
Sure, it can be difficult to know whether a married man has deep feelings for you, but what if I tell you it’s not impossible?
Here are the 10 biggest signs that a married man loves you deeply regardless of his relationship status!
1) He always tries to be available for you
If a married man deeply loves you, he’ll always try to be available for you.
If you try to call him at a time when he normally wouldn’t be available due to family obligations, he’ll find a way to make it work for you.
If he’s too busy with other obligations to make time for you, then he would let you know and make it up to you so that you don’t ever feel abandoned.
Now: if he didn’t have deep feelings for you, he’d be doing the opposite.
He might be trying to avoid you so he doesn’t have to feel guilty or leave his family.
If he’s always trying to be available for you, though, he likely feels really strongly about you.
Trust me, a guy who puts effort into being available for you has deep feelings for you.
This is especially true if he even ditches work or certain obligations in his life from time to time just to make time for you.
Now, it’s not just about making time for you, though, he will also want to see you whenever possible:
2) He wants to spend as much time with you as possible
If a married man has strong feelings for you, he’ll want to spend as much time with you as possible.
If he’s constantly trying to see you, hanging out with you at every possible moment, and begging you to spend time with him, then he’s very serious about you.
He might want to be with you so much because he’s afraid of losing you.
We instinctively try to overcompensate for feelings of abandonment (or the fear thereof) by doing more. If you’re not yet so aware of this, it might worth reflecting on his behavior (and your own) and seeing what your current connection involves.
My personal recommendations for getting to grips with your current relationship situation is Rudá Iandê’s free Love and Intimacy Masterclass.
He’s a world famous shaman who has helped thousands to better navigate sticky situations such as loving a married man, and the potential implications.
And it is through his guided exercises, all of which really prompt you to think about your own emotions, that you’ll likely gain a clearer idea of what to do next.
Once you’ve completed the exercises, you’ll now whether it might also be the case that he feels guilty for not being able to be with you as often as he’d like since he’s married.
If he’s trying to spend as much time with you as possible, he likely feels strong feelings for you as well.
The thing is, men are pretty simple in this regard. If they like you, they will make an effort to see you.
If not, they won’t.
Of course, life can get in the way of seeing one another from time to time, but if he genuinely wants to see you as often as possible, then that’s a really good sign.
This man has deep feelings for you and he probably can’t hide them very well!
But hanging out with you will not be the only thing you notice:
3) He’s constantly doing sweet things for you
Another sign that a married man loves you deeply is that he’s constantly doing sweet things for you.
If he brings you flowers and gifts and constantly tries to make you happy, he’s definitely into you.
Married men who do these things don’t do them lightly.
They’re often trying to make up for the fact that they can’t be with you as much as they want due to their marriage.
If he’s constantly doing sweet things for you, he probably feels strongly for you.
But that isn’t just limited to material things, either.
He might be treating you to a massage or a spa day, or perhaps he is making you some food and cooking you a nice meal.
He might also be sending you texts or emails just to say hi and tell you he misses you.
These are all signs that he’s deeply into you.
In fact, if he is constantly doing sweet things for you, he probably can’t stop thinking about you!
Trust me with one thing: men won’t put this much effort into someone if they don’t genuinely care for that person.
They simply wouldn’t see the point!
I mean, if it was about sex for him, he really wouldn’t need to go through all of this trouble, would he?
Now, speaking of going through trouble:
4) He goes out of his way to make your life easier
If a married man truly loves you, he’ll go out of his way to make your life easier.
He’ll try to help you as much as possible, offer to pick up groceries for you, and try to lighten your load.
If he’s going out of his way to make your life easier, it’s likely because he really cares about you.
You see, he might be trying to make your life easier because he feels bad for the state of your relationship.
It’s also possible that he’s trying to make your life easier because he loves you.
Simply put, he might be trying to make your life easier because he wants to show you that you’re important to him in a way that is possible in his current situation.
Now: making your life easier can take on many shapes and forms.
Perhaps he helps you out with your rent or maybe he gives you advice when you are facing a particularly difficult situation.
Maybe he helps you out with your career.
You see, men often show their love through little actions.
They will do things that make your life easier without you having to ask them to, and it will be very sweet.
But if he’s constantly doing sweet things for you, it’s very likely that he wants to make your life easier because he cares about you.
And this is a sign that he’s deeply into you!
But you probably already know he’s into you given this next point:
5) He doesn’t shy away from physical contact
While it’s normal for married men to be hesitant to engage in physical contact with other people, they shouldn’t shy away from it completely.
If a married man loves you and is trying to hide the fact that you’re special to him, he’s likely to avoid physical contact with you.
He might even try to avoid physical contact with you in front of other people.
This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you as deeply, it just means he isn’t quite ready to make things official with you yet and needs more time to figure out his feelings.
If he doesn’t shy away from physical contact with you, though, he likely feels deeply for you.
Think about it: if he is emotionally there for you and also doesn’t shy away from physical affection, that’s when you know that he’s ready to make things official.
And this is another sign that he’s deeply into you!
But you will also see his vulnerable side:
6) He expresses his vulnerability to you
Another way to tell whether a married man deeply loves you is by seeing how often he expresses his vulnerability to you.
If he’s talking about his faults, admitting when he’s wrong, and opening up about his fears, it’s likely because he feels safe with you.
He might feel vulnerable around you because he feels like he can be himself around you.
You see, he’s probably not always open and honest with his wife, which is why he doesn’t share his vulnerabilities with her.
If he’s expressing his vulnerability to you, he likely feels deep feelings for you.
He might be trying to show you that he trusts you or he might simply feel safe around you.
Men often have a hard time opening up to people, so when a man feels good enough to do so, that’s a huge thing!
It means that he trusts you wholeheartedly and is open to being vulnerable with you.
But he will also return the favor and let you be vulnerable:
7) He’s always there when something goes wrong in your life, and he offers a shoulder to lean on
If a married man loves you deeply, he’ll be there for you when you need him most.
If you’re going through a rough patch in your life and you reach out to him, he’ll be there for you.
If you need a shoulder to cry on, he’ll be there for you as well.
He might be trying to help you as much as possible because he feels bad about how his marriage is affecting your life.
He also might be trying to help you because he wants you to know that you’re important to him.
If he’s there for you when you’re going through a hard time and offers you a shoulder to cry on, he likely has deep feelings for you.
The thing is, a guy who doesn’t really care about you will not waste his time being a shoulder for you to cry on – he’ll simply move on to someone who doesn’t need him.
But if he is there and tries to help you out wherever possible, that’s a huge sign that this married man loves you deeply!
Of course, he’ll also want you to himself, which brings me to my next point:
8) He gets really tense when you talk about other guys
Another way to tell whether a married man truly loves you is by seeing how he acts when you talk about other guys.
If you mention other men in passing, he’ll likely get really tense and uncomfortable.
He might also try to change the subject or ask you about your relationship with other men.
If he gets really tense when you talk about other men, it’s because he doesn’t want you to be interested in anyone else.
It could also be because he’s afraid that you’ll find someone who is easier to be with than a married man.
Trust me with one thing: if he gets really tense when you talk about other guys, it’s likely because he’s in love with you.
He might be trying to make sure that you’re not interested in anyone else and also that you are always safe. .
The thing is, when a man loves you, he will likely be very protective of you and will do whatever he can to keep you safe.
If he’s always looking out for your safety, it’s likely because he cares deeply for you.
He might feel as though he needs to protect you because there is something between the two of you that is stronger than anything he’s ever felt before.
This is another sign that a man deeply loves and cares about you!
But if he feels that way, he might have already expressed his feelings, which brings me to my next point:
9) He openly talks about his feelings for you
Another way to tell whether a married man loves you deeply is by noticing how much he talks about his feelings for you.
If you tell him you have a big presentation at work or you have an important meeting coming up, he’ll likely ask you how you’re feeling about it or if there’s anything he can do to help you out.
If you confide in him about a problem that you’re having in your life, he’ll try to find a solution with you.
However, he will also tell you he loves you and actually give you reasons why he feels so strongly about you.
If he talks about his feelings for you openly, it’s likely because he has strong feelings for you.
He might be trying to show you that he’s interested in you or he might simply be comfortable and confident in the relationship.
The thing is, men will only talk about their feelings for you if they are genuinely there.
He won’t just come up with a bunch of beautiful words just for the fun of it.
So, when he tells you how much you mean to him, believe him.
But wanna know what is even more believable?
10) He goes through with plans of ending his marriage
Finally, the biggest sign that a married man loves you deeply is that he goes through with plans of ending his marriage.
This isn’t something that anyone should do lightly, so if he actually goes through with it, it’s likely because he feels very strongly for you.
He might be trying to end his marriage because he finally wants the freedom of being with the person he truly loves: you.
The problem is, a lot of men might love other women outside of their marriage, but it really doesn’t mean that much until they actually show a sign of commitment.
And what better sign of commitment to you than actually ending things with their wife?
This shows that his feelings are 100% real and that there is no more room for doubt.
He’s not just saying it because he feels like it, but he’s actually trying to make a change.
When you make the decision to fall for a married man, it’s a big risk.
And you should be very careful about all implications this arrangement could involve.
I mentioned Rudá Iandê above, but he has other free resources which could be of great help in clearing your mind and helping you find the next step.
He also has a fantastic free Self-Love Quiz which directs you through questions regarding your relationship with this man in question and with yourself.
Loving someone who is already married is difficult, and sometimes you need a little guidance in navigating the confusion and worry that comes with it, try out the quiz.
You might be surprised at how truly reflecting on your current emotional state and your romantic connection will help.
And at the end of the day, if he goes through with his plans to end his marriage and shows that he truly cares about you, then you’re in for a good time!
It can be difficult to love a married man.
After all, it comes with all the normal obstacles of a relationship plus the added difficulties of him being married to someone else.
However, if the love is really true, then you will find a way to navigate this situation.
In my opinion, it’s important to be fair to the wife in this scenario, as well, and to really insist on this man being honest with her and ending things.
This gives all three of you a chance to move on and be happy!