You’ve met a married man recently and you have the feeling that he is sexually attracted to you?
You might be right!
But, how can you tell?
We have compiled a list of 26 big signs that can let you know if he is actually sexually attracted to you.
1) He licks his lips when he talks to you
The first big sign that can tell you if a married man is sexually attracted to you is that he licks his lips when he talks to you.
There is a close link between wetting the lips and sexual arousal. This brings his attention to his mouth, which creates new feelings and thoughts about him.
More importantly, it’s an unconscious sign of attraction. He does not do it on purpose to attract your attention, and he isn’t aware he’s doing it either.
This is 100% natural.
Married or not, if a man is sexually attracted to you, he will give himself away with this gesture.
There is nothing you can do about it, and you will notice that he does it once you know what to look for.
When you see it, try to keep your reaction to yourself. Don’t make the situation even more awkward by starting to smile out of the blue, or even worse, by laughing.
2) He touches you a lot – by accident
If a married man is sexually attracted to you, he will be naturally drawn to you.
This means that he will touch you from time to time.
But, those moments he touches you, it will feel like they are by accident.
However, do not mistake this clear sign of attraction for a simple case of clumsiness or carelessness.
When a man touches you and it feels like an accident, it’s because he can’t resist the urge to touch you anymore.
Physical touch plays a huge role in sexual attraction.
Let me explain:
When a man is sexually attracted to you, he won’t be able to resist the urge to put his arm on your shoulder or to touch your face.
However, if he is touching you because he wants your attention, then he will touch you lightly – like a pat on the back.
Touching by accident is different – it’s a sign of sexual attraction.
3) He touches his face when talking to you
Another big sign that can let you know if a married man is sexually attracted to you is that he touches his face when talking to you.
When a man touches his face, it’s a sign of arousal.
When we are in the presence of someone we are attracted to, our skin becomes more sensitive to touch; especially the face, lips, and neck.
That’s why he touches his face when talking to you.
He can’t help it!
He touches his lips, chin, or the area around his eyes when you talk – It feels good to touch those places, especially when we are aroused.
However, if you want to be sure, then analyze his body language when he’s talking to other women as well.
If he touches his face, especially the lips or mouth area, when talking to another woman as well, then you can disregard this sign.
4) He confidently stands in front of you
Want to know another big sign that can let you know if a married man is sexually attracted to you?
He will stand in front of you with confidence and with his hands on his hips.
When a man feels attracted to a woman, he will display dominant body language. Here’s what this means:
- He stands tall and stands straight;
- His hands rest on his hips,
- He faces you head-on.
This is a natural, unconscious sign of attraction. It suggests that he is ready to pursue you.
He might be doing it because he wants to impress or intimidate you – he may want to show you that he is in control.
Either way, it’s still a sign of sexual attraction.
5) He gives you a ‘crotch display’ when sitting
Another big sign that can indicate if a married man is sexually attracted to you is when he displays his crotch area – while sitting down.
As a woman, you have probably noticed how men unknowingly display their crotch area when they sit down.
This happens in relaxed situations, especially during conversations with women they are attracted to – but also around friends and family.
The truth is that this isn’t something they do on purpose either.
It’s part of their unconscious body language – which makes this a natural sign that they are attracted to you.
6) He leans into you when talking to you
When he’s talking to you, he will lean into you lightly – like he would do if he were about to share a secret with you, or want to kiss your cheek or forehead.
Why is this a sign of sexual attraction in a married man?
Because leaning into you implies that he wants to be close to you.
It’s also a sign that he is comfortable with his physical proximity to you.
What’s more, he may want to know if there is a physical connection between you two.
Here’s what I think: no man who is not attracted to you will do this!
7) He stands/sits away from you when his wife is around
When a married man is sexually attracted to you, he will make sure he is far away from you when his wife is around.
He will do it to avoid raising any suspicions and to make it appear as if he doesn’t like you – or has any special interest in you.
This means that when his wife is around, he will stay away from you.
However, when she leaves – especially if there is an opportunity for him to be alone with you – he will often make his way to you and try to establish a physical bond with you.
8) He raises his eyebrows a lot when you two talk
Another sign that can reveal whether or not a married man is sexually attracted to you is that he raises his eyebrows while talking to you.
Raising the eyebrows is also called eyebrow flash – it’s an unconscious signal of attraction.
It’s a sign that he is open to meeting someone new and it’s a sign that he finds you attractive.
Is this something he does on purpose?
He doesn’t do this on purpose, but when talking to you, his facial expression will take over.
His eyebrows will rise often when talking with you, and his facial expression will become more animated; especially if the conversation is exciting or interesting.
What’s more – he will be more animated when talking to you than when talking to his wife.
9) He makes a lot of inappropriate jokes
Is a married man sexually interested in you? If he is, then he might make a lot of inappropriate jokes.
And, most of the time, they are not funny at all.
These sexual jokes might be one of the biggest signs that he is sexually attracted to you.
First of all, because of the topic – sex might be on his mind a lot. Second of all, because of the context – the joke will be inappropriate.
How can you be sure?
If he’s notorious for his inappropriate jokes, and especially if he has a dirty mouth, then there are low chances he’s attracted to you.
That’s just how he is – he will always make inappropriate jokes.
10) He involuntarily plays with his hair
A married man – or any man – who is sexually attracted to you will involuntarily play with his hair.
He will mess it up or make it stand up in different ways all the time.
When a man does this, it means he is nervous or excited.
He will often twirl his hair or mess with it while talking to you – which is a sign that he finds you attractive.
As you can see, observing his body language is not just a way to tell if a man is attracted to you; it’s a way of finding out more about him.
It’s a way of identifying if he has the potential to be sexually attracted to you, and it’s a way of knowing more about him and his intentions.
11) He looks at your body often
Body language is a way to detect sexual attraction because it shows that he’s interested in you sexually.
He will often look at your body and see what you are wearing.
Women, in general, like to be looked at.
It makes us feel sexy and attractive, so we tend to dress up for men who want to look at our bodies.
In this case, he is looking at your body in order to see what is attractive (and what isn’t).
If you’re dressed up and wearing something sexy, then he will be attracted to you.
Are you usually dressed in a sexy and provocative way or not so much?
12) He makes eye contact with you
Making eye contact is not only a sign of sexual attraction but also a way to show interest.
Most men don’t like making eye contact with women to whom they are not attracted.
Doing so is a sign of openness and liking. It’s a way of saying, “I want to get to know you”.
In other words, this married man is quite interested in you – he can’t take his eyes off of you!
Making eye contact could also be a sign that he is mentally undressing you. Imagination plays a big role in sexual attraction.
13) He stares at you for longer than he should
When a married man is sexually attracted to you, he will stare at you for longer than he should.
Because he finds you attractive and wants to check you out. He sees your beauty and is a bit mesmerized by it – if you know what I mean.
His gaze is a sign that he is attracted to you.
Want to know for sure?
Well, ask yourself this: does he look away when you see him?
If he does look away, it means he is embarrassed because you caught him looking at you.
I mean, he isn’t supposed to do that since he’s married, right?
14) He sometimes blushes when you’re around
Another way to detect sexual attraction – especially in a married man who is trying to hide his desires – is to look for blushing.
A man who is sexually attracted to you will most certainly blush if he thinks you are attractive.
Blushing is a sign of shame or embarrassment.
What does this mean?
It could mean that he feels awkward for being sexually attracted to you.
Why does he? Well, because he’s married.
So, when someone blushes, it could be a sign of attraction and shame at the same time.
15) He makes compliments about your appearance
If a married man is sexually attracted to you, then he will compliment your appearance quite often.
He will do this even if the compliment is not necessarily needed at the moment or if it doesn’t make any sense to compliment you.
For example, he will describe your clothes or comment on the way you wear your hair.
If he’s trying to compliment you, but it doesn’t make sense, then he’s sexually attracted to you.
The explanation is simple: If a man makes a lot of compliments about your appearance, then it means that you are beautiful and sexy.
And, of course, if you’re beautiful and sexy, then he’s also attracted to you. It’s as simple as that!
16) He tries to impress you in one way or another
A way for you to know if a married man is sexually attracted to you is to observe how much he tries to impress you.
When a man is trying to impress you, he will be more active and try to get a good reaction from you.
This means that he might do things that he normally wouldn’t do just to get noticed.
For example, he might do things like buy you flowers or say a few compliments that he doesn’t need to.
If he’s trying to impress you, then he will usually do things like this in an attempt to show off his skills.
17) He always looks and smells good when you see him
If a married man is sexually attracted to you, then he will always look and smell good.
Because he wants to highlight his best features. He might shave or even use special products that make him smell good.
For example, if he’s wearing a special perfume or if he uses cologne.
These simple things might seem like small things to you – but you should know that he will try very hard to be attractive to you.
In fact, one of the signs a man is cheating is when he suddenly starts taking care of his appearance, because he’s attracted to someone.
18) Other people feel the sexual tension between you two
Want to know another big sign a married man is sexually attracted to you?
Other people will feel the sexual tension between you two. They will notice that he behaves in an unusual way when you’re around.
For example, they might say that he’s acting differently or that he’s been doing things differently; and they will link this change with you.
So, ask someone that you know if they sense sexual tension coming from you and this married man.
If someone feels it, then there is a very good chance that he is sexually attracted to you.
I mean, it’s really hard to ignore a sexual attraction – especially, when someone is trying to hide it.
19) He gets nervous when you’re around
A way to detect sexual attraction is to watch his body language when you are around.
You have to pay attention if he starts to get nervous.
Because if he’s nervous, then it means that he is trying to hide his sexual attraction to you.
He might be uncomfortable because of the feeling of sexual tension in the air – so, it’s a sign of anxiety and discomfort as well.
Who knows, he might also feel guilty for being attracted to you.
20) He sometimes asks you questions about your relationships with men
If a married man is sexually attracted to you, then he will ask you questions about your relationships with men.
Because he finds you attractive and wants to know if you have a boyfriend or if you are sexually active. He wants to know if you could be available to him – for an erotic adventure or more.
For example, he might ask you these questions:
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
“What happened in your last serious relationship?”
“Are you seeing someone right now?”
If he asks you these questions, then it means that he wants to know if there is a chance for him to hook up with you.
Now, this doesn’t mean that he actually wants to do it. It only means that he is sexually attracted to you.
21) He smiles when he sees you
A way to detect sexual attraction – especially in a married man – is to pay attention to his body language.
For example, if he smiles when he sees you, then it means that he is happy to see you and that he’s attracted to you in some way.
Don’t get me wrong; most men will smile when they see you.
But I say this because I want to highlight the main idea here: a smile is always related to positive emotions.
And, of course, sexual attraction is positive – unless you’re married and you’re attracted to someone else than your spouse.
22) He offers his help
Let’s say that you and a group of people are hanging out. You want to go get drinks. Who offers to help you out?
Of course, this married man will offer to help you – because he wants to spend some time with you.
His goal is to remain close to you as much as possible.
Because he is sexually attracted to you.
He might do it even if he already has a drink – just so that he can hang out with you for a few more minutes.
23) He doesn’t talk about his wife or his life with her
Another big sign a married man is sexually attracted to you is that he doesn’t talk about his wife or his life with her.
This means that he’s trying to keep her out of his mind and that he doesn’t want to spend any time thinking about her.
In other words, he’s trying to avoid thinking about her so that he doesn’t feel guilty.
His goal is to make your time with him as enjoyable as possible.
What’s more, he may want you to forget he’s married as well. By not talking about his wife, he really wants you to forget.
24) He brought up the topic of infidelity with you
If he brought up the topic of infidelity with you, then it means that he is thinking about it. He’s thinking about doing it.
If a married man brought up this topic, then I would say that there is a very big chance that he is sexually attracted to you.
In other words, if a married man brought this topic up, then he’s asking himself these questions:
“Is it okay to cheat on my wife?”
“What if I want to cheat on her?”
“Will someone judge me?”
He is asking these questions because he wants to know if it’s okay to cheat on his wife and if he could get away with it.
25) He finds excuses and reasons to talk to you more often
If a married man is sexually attracted to you, then he will find excuses and reasons to talk with you more often.
Such behavior is totally normal – but don’t get confused.
Remember, a married man wants to lull you into a false sense of security
so that you will lower your guard and let him do what he wants.
Basically, he is trying to test the waters.
26) He’s constantly trying to find out more about you
Another sign a married man is sexually attracted to you is that he keeps on asking you questions.
Because he wants to know more about you and what makes you tick.
He’s not just having a conversation; he really wants to get to know you better. He finds you attractive and wants to spend more time with you.
In this situation, you need to be careful. Depending on what you want to achieve, you might want to avoid responding to his questions.
If you do respond to him, then you have to be careful with what you say.
Double check if everything you say is in line with your goals and what you’ve already achieved.
By now you should have a better understanding of how to detect sexual attraction in a married man.
As you can see, you don’t have to be a detective or have some special skills to detect sexual attraction in a man.
You just have to pay attention to the little things. Small signs that go unnoticed by most people – but that are very useful for those who want to know if someone is sexually attracted to them.
As soon as you do so, you’ll get your answer.
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