Do you have a feeling that a married female coworker wants to sleep with you?
You might be right, or you might be wrong.
But, if you want to be sure, take a look at the following 15 signs that confirm your hunch:
1) She doesn’t shy away from touching you
Are you familiar with tactile people?
They are very physical, not in a sexual way but just a part of their personality. They hug when they greet you, touch your arm to emphasize something, and so on.
So, let me ask you this:
Does she touch you and everybody else in the same way? If she doesn’t, it means she isn’t a tactile person.
Instead, she is a woman sexually attracted to you. She is a married woman who can’t refrain from touching you, not even at work.
For example, she will touch your arm frequently, sometimes even when she isn’t sure what to say.
This means that her thoughts are constantly running toward you and that she is having a hard time controlling them.
2) You sometimes catch her staring at you
Another sign a married female coworker wants to sleep with you is that she keeps staring at you.
You see, when a woman is attracted to a man, she will have a hard time looking away from him. It doesn’t matter if she’s married or not, she will still react in the same way.
“Staring is an obvious sign of attraction. It’s hard to look away when you like (and want) what you see,” says Adrienne Santos-Longhurst for HealthLine.
So, when you catch her staring at you, take it as a sign that she is attracted to you.
Want to be sure?
This point is especially true if she looks away immediately after you catch her staring at you.
3) She makes a habit out of complimenting you
I have another question for you:
Does she pay you many compliments? And if she does, are they about your physical appearance, smell, or maybe strength?
For example, she may mention that you smell nice, or that you have a muscular body. And, she might do it frequently as well.
Can you relate?
If you can, it means she is sexually attracted to you. She may want to sleep with you
What’s more, Coach Melannie thinks that when a married woman pays you compliments about your appearance, that’s also a sign of flirting:
“If you notice that she complements you frequently then that is a very good sign that she’s flirting.”
So, pay close attention to what she says to you. If she pays you compliments and if those compliments are about your physical appearance, smell, or strength, then she might want to sleep with you.
4) You clearly notice that her tone of voice changes
Another probable sign a married coworker wants to sleep with you is that her tone of voice changes when she talks to you.
She might use a lower tone of voice or change the way she pronounces certain words. And, especially if you notice it repeatedly, it could be a clue that she is attracted to you.
Women often have a lower pitch of voice when they talk to men they find attractive, and BBC confirms it:
“If they lower their pitch, it could be a subtle, subconscious sign they find you attractive.”
So, listen to her voice when she talks to you. If it changes automatically, then it means she wants to sleep with you.
However, keep in mind that this change is not intentional. In other words, she might do it without realizing it.
5) She always finds something she needs help with
Want to know more?
If a married female coworker wants to sleep with you, she will probably ask for your help a lot.
If you notice that she comes to you more often than the others, it means she is sexually attracted to you. She might want to sleep with you.
Well, when a woman is asking for your help, she becomes vulnerable, and “vulnerability is the new foreplay” according to Stephanie Meraz.
What’s more, sexologist Jaiya considers vulnerability “a powerful ingredient to creating willing alignment between two people who wish to get their true desires fulfilled and their needs met.”
Simply put, when a woman – married or not – asks for your help, she is trying to imply that she wants something from you.
6) You can’t look away because of her sexy outfits
Here’s another sign a married female coworker wants to sleep with you:
She always wears sexy and revealing outfits when she knows she will spend more time with you. For example, she may be wearing a shirt that shows her cleavage and a skirt that reveals her legs.
Do you find that she does it on purpose? If you do, then you might be right.
Why does she do it?
Most women use their appearance to attract men and enhance their chances of getting what they want from them. But, a married woman could do it because she wants to feel desired.
Even if she wants to sleep with you, it doesn’t mean that she will do it. Instead, she could use some admiration from you to feed her ego and feel attractive.
7) She always laughs at your jokes, especially the dirty ones
According to POP, “giggling, especially with eye contact and touching, are good signs that a woman is attracted to you.”
And, if I may add, when she laughs at your dirty jokes, that’s another sign she wants to sleep with you.
Why does she do it?
If a married female coworker wants to sleep with you, she will laugh at any joke you make because she wants you to notice her, and well, maybe because you’re funny.
Now, if she wants you to notice her, that doesn’t mean she is going to take things to the next level with you. So, in case you’d like to sleep with her, don’t get your hopes up too high.
8) You sometimes think she’s flirting with you
The next sign that a married female coworker wants to sleep with you is when she is flirting with you.
For example, sometimes when you look at her, she looks back at you in a way that could be described as flirtatious. Furthermore, if you are talking to her, and she touches your arm while doing it, then that could be another clue.
And if she does so regularly, it means she enjoys spending time with you and being flirtatious with you. As a result, it could mean that she is attracted to you.
But, do keep in mind that it’s hard to figure out a woman’s intentions just by the way she interacts with you; especially a married woman.
9) Her sexual innuendos are more and more obvious
If a married female coworker wants to sleep with you, there’s a good chance that she will make sexual innuendos.
“Yet, if you’re interacting with a woman who seems interested in you and she is using sexual innuendos, you have to have the confidence in yourself to see that as her trying to show you that she’s sexually interested in you,” says Dan Bacon, a dating and relationship expert.
What does this mean?
Well, when a woman uses sexual innuendos, it means that she desires you sexually. It doesn’t matter if she’s married or not. If she does it, then chances are that she wants to sleep with you.
10) She spends a lot of time with you during work hours
This sign is true if you notice that she doesn’t spend as much time with other coworkers as she spends with you.
For example, you may notice that she is always hanging out with you during work hours, while other coworkers aren’t part of the conversation. It means she’s trying to get closer to you.
What does this mean?
It could mean that she wants to sleep with you. It doesn’t mean that she will do it, but chances are that she is sexually attracted to you.
In addition, when a woman spends more time with you, it can be described as flirting. And, if this woman is a coworker who is married, well yes, flirting could be one of the signs that she wants to sleep with you.
11) You don’t hear her talking about her husband
Here’s another sign that a married female coworker wants to sleep with you:
If you don’t hear her talk about her husband or her marriage at all, then it means she doesn’t want you to know about that.
Why does she do it?
Simply put, when a woman doesn’t want you to know about her husband and her marriage, it means she is trying to keep that part of her life private. She may be doing it so that you don’t think of it as an obstacle.
It could mean that she doesn’t want you to know because she wants something more from you than just being a work colleague.
12) She asks you masked sexual questions
Another sign of sexual interest from a married female coworker?
She asks you masked sexual questions to find out more about your sex life and your preferences.
When a woman asks such questions, it could mean that she wants to sleep with you. It doesn’t mean that she will do it, though. Instead, it means that she is interested in finding out more about that side of yours.
Maybe she’s just curious because you’re the only man she can talk to. Or, it could mean that she wants to know what kind of sexual person you are and if you are a better match than her husband.
13) You feel the sexual tension between you two
Sexual tension is also a good indicator that a married female coworker wants to sleep with you.
In fact, sexual tension is a sign that she is attracted to you. If a woman feels sexual tension with any man, she is probably interested in him.
Here are a few signs of sexual tension according to BlueHeart:
“Increased heart rate, flushed face, higher blood pressure, and sweaty palms.
“You may feel you want to make eye contact with the person, stand close to them, or display flirty body language – these are all telltale signs.”
So, in case you notice any of these signs with her, it means that she wants to sleep with you.
14) Her pupils dilate when she gets close to you
One of the ways to know if she’s attracted to you is to pay attention to her pupils.
When she gets physically close to you, check out her pupils. If they start dilating, then it means that she’s attracted to you. She may start getting flirty with you when this happens because she wants something more from you.
Aaron Kandola, a writer for MedicalNewsToday confirms it:
“The autonomic nervous system triggers various involuntary responses during emotions, such as fear or arousal. Some research suggests that pupil dilation is one of these involuntary responses to arousal or attraction.”
So, if you notice that her pupils dilate when she is around you, then it could mean that she wants to sleep with you.
15) She asks you to work overtime at her place
The final sign that might convince you that a married female coworker wants to sleep with you is when she asks you to work overtime at her apartment or house.
If she asks exactly this, it means that she wants to spend more time with you. And, if she wants to spend more time with you and she does so at her place, it could mean that she wants to sleep with you.
So, if she asks you this, give it some thought before you do anything you will regret.
By now you should have a better idea of what the signs of sexual interest from a married female coworker really look like.
It’s up to you whether you want to take the next step and flirt with her or stay away from her for good. Either way, you are the one who controls your life, your sex life, and how much stress is in it.
So use this information wisely and make sure that you don’t do anything that you will regret.
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