14 signs a married female coworker likes you but is hiding it

Having to figure out whether a married female coworker likes you but is hiding can be a strange and difficult situation to be in.

As much as you would like for this to be the case, perhaps, it can’t always be.

Here are 14 signs that she may like you.

1) She’s always looking for reasons to talk to you

You will find it strange that she will try to talk to you or ask about something even though she can ask someone else in your workplace who’s more qualified or knowledgeable for that matter.

That’s because she’s interested in you and wants to strike up a conversation with you.

Not only that, you might find her trying to talk to you so often that some colleagues at work start to notice, you shouldn’t be so surprised if that is the case.

She seems to listen to everything you have to say, too!

Whenever you try to talk about something with your married female coworker, she listens closely.

She’ll be asking questions about the thing you’ve been discussing or the subject matter at hand to show that she’s really interested in what are you saying.

2) She tries to initiate casual touch with you

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If she continuously touches your arm, shoulder or even gently bumps her shoulder against yours when working on something or if you walk past each other in the hall, that’s definitely a sign she likes you.

It’s a way of showing interest without seeming too obvious.

Touching is a way in which females communicate their interests without seeming too sexual.

She might think that it’s alright for her to do this to you since you might think there’s nothing going on between the two of you, and, for the fact that she’s married.

Try to touch her back or shoulder in return, and if she doesn’t recoil or seems to be liking it, that’s an absolute sign she has feelings for you.

You can even touch her hand and if you see her smile after that, you can already confirm that she’s interested in you and is asking for that special touch.

3) You hear her complain about her husband

If you hear your married coworker complaining about her husband a lot, it’s quite possible that she likes you.

She may be having problems with her marriage, but instead of talking to someone else about that, she talks to you.

That’s because she feels comfortable around you, and can talk to you without being judged or misunderstood.

While you shouldn’t keep on supporting her by listening to her complaints about her husband, you should refrain from saying that she needs to talk to him about it because that might make her feel like you’re undermining her marriage or wishing for things for which she shouldn’t wish.

Just lend a sympathetic ear and let her be.

You can ask questions to show that you’re listening, but don’t get involved in trying to help her fix it because it’s not your place to do so.

4) She talks to you about your personal problems

Here’s a classic sign that a woman likes you – she will notice that you’re having personal problems.

She’ll ask you about your problems to that effect, too! She’s not just interested in listening to what you have to say, she wants to know more about the things that are troubling you.

She’s not doing this so that you can help her with her personal problems too, but she’s genuinely curious and wants to know more about your personal life.

You can find it quite flattering that she’d be concerned for you, and would care for what’s troubling you in life.

Soon enough, she might say something like, “If you need someone to talk to, I’m here for you,” – you’ll know she wants to be there for you.

5) She checks on you every time she sees you

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Some people are busy in their jobs that they don’t have the time to actively check up on other people’s productivity and well-being, but with this married woman? She’ll always have time because it’s you.

Perhaps, she takes interest in you and feels that she’s able to give her support by helping you achieve more.

It’s a nice feeling to have someone who cares about you, and it will make your working days better! You’ll feel like you’re improving at work because of her encouragement and support.

She might come up to you at the end of the day to ask about how you feel, or discuss the things she saw you working on that day – because, you know, she will always be interested to hear from you.

6) You find her looking at you

If you notice your married coworker looking at you while you’re working, that’s a big sign that she’s interested in you.

Picture this: she keeps on looking up from her phone to look in your direction, and if she catches herself (or you catch her) doing this, she will quickly look down at her phone again.

You see, most people have the tendency to look (and even stare) at the person they’re interested in.

It’s like how a guy looks at women who are walking by him on the street – that’s not just because he likes her body, he’s actually looking at her because he finds her attractive.

Makes sense?

So, if you notice that your married coworker looks at you a lot, she can’t help it because you’re on her mind while she stares at you.

7) She seems jealous of your other female friends

Have you noticed that whenever you talk about another female colleague or a friend, she becomes upset for no apparent reason? You might have dismissed it as nothing but a coincidence, yet there could be something more to it.

It seems that she’s jealous of your female friends and colleagues. She might be wondering how you got to know them or why you’re spending so much time with them.

You will notice how she’ll dismiss a conversation if it involves women, especially female colleagues. Or, notice how she reacts when you start talking to other women in your workplace.

A married coworker who’s jealous of your female friends will be questioning them, especially if she thinks that you’re interested in them.

You might be thinking that she’s being petty or just a little jealous but yes – she’s definitely jealous.

8) She favors you over your male coworkers

Women tend to favor (or feel close to) the guy that they see regularly. That’s something that any girl would notice.

It’s a natural thing for her – whether she’s married or not.

Take a look at how she treats you better than another guy at work. She really takes the time to get to know you, and not just for work.

And, she doesn’t appear as interested in talking to other male coworkers. That’s how you can tell that she’s favoring you over the others – it’s almost impossible for you not to notice, unless she has always been like this!

9) She asks about your plans for the weekend

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This is another way of telling whether or not a married woman is interested in you. If she’s interested in you, she’ll ask you, “What are you up to this weekend” or, “Are you doing anything this weekend?”

She might ask you because she wants to do something with you – which could definitely mean that she considers spending time with you. It could also mean that she finds an interest in your schedule and would want to know what’s next on yours.

As if that’s not enough, she wants to know your schedule and wants to get in contact with you more.

You see, if she’ll have a way to get close to you outside work, it’ll be a big opportunity for her! You already have a common ground – your workplace, so maybe she wants something more.

10) She tries to hide her wedding ring around you

It’s hard to miss the wedding ring on a woman’s hand.

But with your coworker, she might try to hide it from your sight so that it would be easier for her when she wants to go out with you later.

It’s up to you to notice if that ring is hidden from you or not, but when she tries to hide it, she definitely wants to dismiss the idea to you or avoid reminding you that she’s married.

If she knows that you’re aware of the ring, she might be a little embarrassed and would rather not talk about it – she wants to avoid it at all costs.

11) She compliments you frequently

This is a big indicator that she’s interested in getting closer to you – compliments. If she’s showing interest, she’ll want to know who you are and why you’re so great.

But what might be more important is her compliments. Her compliments are a big sign that she wants to be closer to you.

Her truth be told – she knows you deserve it, and she’ll feel good about herself for complimenting you.

12) She covers her mouth when she laughs

You know that moment where you laugh so hard that you can’t breathe?

Yes, it’s impossible not to laugh like this sometimes (I mean, who doesn’t laugh like this?!).

You will notice how she’ll laugh at your jokes, even the bad ones, and she’ll act like a classy woman by covering her mouth.

You’ll also notice how she’ll look at you right after she laughs as if she wants to make sure that you’re okay with it. It’s like she’s asking for your approval.

13) She sends you flirty messages or comments

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It could be the biggest sign of all.

If your married coworker sends you a flirty message, it’s likely that she’s interested in you. She might think that you are unaware of her feelings towards you, and is just trying to get noticed.

If you haven’t noticed her flirting with you already, then this is a clear sign that she wants to be closer to you. Maybe she wants you to be the one to make the first move?

You will know she likes you if she sends you a flirty message, and even if she does everything she can to hide it, you’ll still notice it.

14) She’s self-conscious around you

Self-consciousness isn’t just a guy thing! Women can be just as self-conscious as well.

She will feel nervous around you, and this is something that most men don’t notice. But here’s the deal – if she’s interested in you, she’ll feel extremely self-conscious around you since she doesn’t want to say the wrong thing or do anything that might lose your interest.

If she feels nervous around you, it just means her feelings for you are present.

And when you talk to her, she might stutter – she might be too shy to say the right words in front of you!

Final words

Now that you’ve figured out whether or not your married coworker is interested in you, what’s next?

Whatever your next move will be, always consider that she’s married.

This all relates back to the incredible advice I learned from Kate Spring.

She’s a relationship expert who has transformed dating and relationships for thousands of men.

One of the most valuable things she taught me was this:

Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.

Women don’t like assholes because they’re assholes. They like assholes because those guys are confident and they give off the right signals to them. The sort of signals a woman can’t resist.

What if I told you that you could quickly learn the right signals to give to women – and you absolutely don’t need to become an asshole in the process?

Check out this free video by Kate Spring.

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Lachlan Brown

Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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