Cheating is one of the worst things a partner can do, right?
It’s one thing if the relationship naturally comes to an end but it’s a whole other story if infidelity is the reason everything comes crashing down. It creates hurt and heartache that can take months and even years to heal from.
But how can you protect yourself from that kind of pain?
The truth is: you can’t. All you can do is try to make sure that you open your heart to someone who won’t cheat. And although there are no guarantees, according to psychology, there are some green flags you can look out for that suggest a man would never cheat on you.
Maybe you’re looking for love and you want to know how to find a partner who won’t cheat or perhaps you’re already in a relationship and you want some confirmation he’s not the cheating type. Either way, you’re going to want to keep reading.
Today we’re sharing 6 signs a man will never cheat on you, according to psychology. How many of these do you recognize in your partner or love interest?
Let’s jump in.
1) He’s genuinely happy with you and your relationship
Do you get the sense that your partner is genuinely happy with you? According to the experts, when men are truly content with their partner they’re less likely to cheat.
Research carried out to understand what deters people from cheating found that “I am satisfied with my relationship” to be the most highly reported reason for not cheating.
“In other words, people report not cheating because they are happy and dedicated to their current partners.” confirms psychologist Martin Graff PhD.
Putting in the work to build a healthy relationship with a solid foundation pays off because when couples are genuinely satisfied in their relationship, they’re less likely to cheat.
2) He’s got a secure attachment style
Does your partner openly share his feelings with you and listen to yours? Does he seem comfortable with being close and intimate, and also okay with spending time apart? Is he willing to work with you to solve problems, rather than turning it into a big argument or shutting down?
If the answer is yes to all of these questions, it suggests your partner has a secure attachment style which means he’s trusting and confident about your relationship.
According to research guys with this style of attachment are the least likely to be unfaithful to their partners.
As outlined by clinical psychologist Susan Krauss Whitbourne PhD, ABPP “People who are securely attached have confidence in the stability of their relationship and neither fear the other person’s infidelity nor are likely to stray from their partner.”
Does that mean if your partner or love interest doesn’t have a secure attachment style you should run away? No, of course not.
Let me explain: your partner has no control over their attachment style because everyone develops them in childhood. Even if you’re not securely attached, you can still build a strong relationship by working on it together and supporting each other.
3) He’s financially independent
This next one might surprise you.
Guys who stand on their own financially and don’t have to support anyone else are less likely to stray than those who either lean on their partners for money or are the main breadwinners.
Research backs this up, showing there’s a link between how men handle their finances and their likelihood to cheat. It’s an interesting connection that shows how financial dynamics in a relationship can influence personal behavior and relationship outcomes, right?
If a guy’s not keen on paying for everything when you’re just starting to date, some might think it’s a bad sign. But actually, when it comes to staying faithful, it could be a really good sign so watch out for those guys who aren’t stingy but aren’t overly generous either.
4) He’s never cheated in a relationship
Has your current partner or love interest ever cheated on their past girlfriends or boyfriends?
Turns out: when it comes to cheating, past behavior really could be a predictor of future actions. According to a 2017 study, people who weren’t faithful in their first relationship were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship.
Although we shouldn’t judge people for their past mistakes, it’s always good to know your partner’s track record when it comes to relationships and staying loyal. My friend Janet found this out the hard way.
She started dating this guy who was known for being a serial cheater. He’d cheated on every girl he’d ever been with and lots of Janet’s friends tried to warn her. Blinded by lust and love, she ignored the warnings. A few months later, he cheated on her and broke her heart.
Anything can happen in a relationship but if your man has never cheated before, research suggests it’s a good sign that he’s less likely to cheat going forward.
5) He’s got a strong moral compass and so do his friends
Your morals help you to tell the difference between right and wrong. People with a strong moral compass tend to do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. And since cheating is generally viewed as bad, guys with a strong moral compass are less likely to go there.
You might be wondering why you should care about how moral his friends are, right?
Here’s the thing: how we behave and the choices we make are influenced by the people around us. That means, what his friends view as normal and acceptable, impacts him in a big way. If they view cheating as acceptable, he’s more likely to do it.
As outlined by Gurit E. Birnbaum Ph.D., professor of psychology at Reichman University “Knowing that others are having affairs may make people feel more comfortable when considering having affairs themselves”.
Experts and research agree that a guy who’s got a strong moral compass and spends time with like-minded individuals is far less likely to cheat on you than guys who condone that behavior.
6) He’s physically satisfied with you
Do you feel like you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to physical intimacy? You’re both getting what you need from each other and even as time goes by, your passion burns brightly.
Having your needs met in a relationship is vitally important for both men and women and sexual needs are no exception. When your partner feels sexually fulfilled in the relationship, he’s less likely to seek that feeling elsewhere.
In a recent survey of Ashley Madison subscribers, a dating site for married people, sexual dissatisfaction was the strongest motivator for people to pursue affairs with about half of participants saying they were not sexually active with their existing partners.
If he’s truly physically satisfied with you the chances of cheating go way down.
The bottom line
At the end of the day, love and relationships are full of uncertainty and there’s no fool-proof way of knowing your man will never cheat on you.
However, expert research suggests that if he’s showing some of the signs we’ve covered today, he’s much less likely to cheat.
And don’t forget, it’s not all down to him. You can both work on some of these things as a couple to help you build a strong foundation and a lasting relationship.
