7 signs a man secretly finds you beautiful, according to psychology

Despite what some might say, most of us men aren’t the best at expressing our feelings, particularly when it comes to somewhat touchy subjects like telling a woman how beautiful she is.

Don’t believe me?

One survey by the dating app Happn revealed that more than 70% of men don’t – yes, don’t – think it is acceptable to tell someone they look beautiful. How crazy is this?

Anyway, if most men aren’t going to tell you, how would you know?

Well, as with many things, psychology gives us some clues. The truth is that non-verbal cues and subtle signs can often speak louder than words.

Today, we get into seven expert-backed signs that a man secretly finds you beautiful.

Let’s dive in.

1) He gazes just a little longer than normal

Have you noticed that the person you have in mind maintains eye contact a bit longer than usual?

Not that sort of creepy, intrusive stare but rather, an appreciative gaze. You know what I mean?

Well, it could be a pretty big sign. Experts suggest that extended eye contact is a significant indicator of interest and admiration.

As put by psychology professor Ronald E. Riggio “Gazing into another’s eyes can signify love and attraction and spur the release hormones associated with love and affection.”

This is echoed by dating coach Connel Barret, who has said, “A clear sign someone is attracted to you is making eye contact, briefly averting their eyes and then returning their gaze to you,”

Put simply, if he seems to get lost in your eyes, there’s a good chance he secretly finds you beautiful.

2) He leans in

Ever noticed him leaning in slightly when you’re talking?

As noted by Jeremy Nicholson, a doctor of social and personality psychology, one of the signs that someone is attracted to you is that they move closer in general interactions.

Basically, when a man is attracted to a woman, his body language is usually the first to betray his feelings. He might stand closer than normal, angle his body towards you, or lean in during conversations to catch every word.

This isn’t just about getting physically closer to you; it’s about creating an intimate space where he can connect more deeply.

3) He listens without getting distracted

I know this one sounds really simple, but it’s still one to watch out for.

When a man finds a woman beautiful, he becomes genuinely interested in her thoughts and experiences.

This is also backed by research.

For example, one study found that when someone is interested in the conversation they are having, they pay close attention and can ignore distractions. And as noted by Dr. Nicholson, “If they are romantically interested, they are even more attentive.”

Have you noticed him paying close attention to your words, asking thoughtful questions, and showing empathy toward your experiences? Does he nod frequently and smile genuinely?

If so, it might be a sign he finds you beautiful, even if he’s not willing to tell you directly. Not yet, anyway.

His willingness to understand your world is his way of expressing his admiration for you.

4) He mirrors you

When a man secretly finds you beautiful, you might also notice him subtly copying your actions and behaviors.

For example, he might mimic your hand gestures, adopt a similar posture, or even match your speaking rhythm.

This is known as “mirroring,”  and according to experts, when someone mirrors your body language, it can be a sign that they are unconsciously trying to connect with you and increase likeability.

This next one might sound a little, well, creepy, but bear with me; the experts say it’s a big sign of attraction.

5) He subtly touches you

Finds you beautiful 7 signs a man secretly finds you beautiful, according to psychology

So, I know this one might sound weird or inappropriate, but it can be more innocent and romantic than it sounds.

Let me illustrate. Let’s say you’re in the middle of an engaging conversation, and he casually touches your arm to emphasize a point or brushes your hand while laughing at a joke. Is that crossing the line?

I’ll leave that up to you.

The point is these subtle gestures can be significant indicators of attraction.

Experts in body language, like Traci Brown, have acknowledged this. As she told Brides, “People touch each other when they want a deeper connection. This is typically a good sign on a date.” 

Such touches, although brief,  might be displaying his attraction in a quiet way. They might even be subconscious.

6) He remembers the little things

Does he remember your favorite color, the story behind your bracelet, or even the exact date you mentioned an important event?

Attention to detail can be a revealing sign that a man secretly finds you beautiful.

Psychological studies have shown that individuals are more likely to retain minor details about those they are attracted to.

Put simply, if he’s keeping track of the small things that make you unique, it’s likely his way of showing that he cares and, perhaps more tellingly, that he finds you beautiful.

7) He seems a little nervous around you

Last but not least, another telltale sign that a man secretly finds you beautiful is that he gets a little nervous when with you. 

We’ve all felt those butterflies in our stomachs, the sudden warmth spreading across our cheeks, and that inexplicable loss of words when interacting with someone we find really beautiful or handsome.

It happens to men and women alike.

As author, career prosecutor, and international public speaker  Wendy L. Patrick noted in a Psychology Today post, “Nervous reactions signaling interpersonal attraction include positive affect such as smiling and laughing..”

Does he occasionally stumble over his words, fidget, or even blush when you’re around?

 It could very well be because he finds you irresistibly beautiful, especially when he shows some of the other signs on this list.

The bottom line

That just about wraps it up for me today.

We men aren’t typically keen on wearing our hearts on our sleeves, but actions often speak louder than words.

From attentive listening to mirroring you, these subtle signs can reveal if a man secretly finds you beautiful.

As always, I hope you found some value in this post.

Until next time.

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Mal James

Originally from Ireland, Mal is a content writer, entrepreneur, and teacher with a passion for self-development, productivity, relationships, and business. As an avid reader, Mal delves into a diverse range of genres, expanding his knowledge and honing his writing skills to empower readers to embark on their own transformative journeys. In his downtime, Mal can be found on the golf course or exploring the beautiful landscapes and diverse culture of Vietnam, where he is now based.

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