8 signs a man really loves you but doesn’t know how to express it, according to psychology

Love is complex, and expressing it doesn’t always come easy—especially for men.

Fortunately, psychology offers us some fascinating insights into the male psyche.

As Tina Fey, the founder of Love Connection and your go-to relationship guru, I’m going to discuss the psychological signs that a guy truly loves you, even when he’s struggling to put it into words.

So, are you ready to see if your man’s heart is all in? If so, let’s dive in and explore these signs together below!

1) He’s always there for you

We all know that actions speak louder than words, and when it comes to love, this couldn’t be more accurate.

Is he always around when you need him? Does he step up to help without being asked? These actions are his way of silently saying, “I care about you.”

Consistent behavior is key to understanding a person’s feelings. If a man truly loves you but struggles to express it, he’ll likely show this through his actions instead.

Because love isn’t about grand gestures or extravagant gifts. Sometimes, it’s about those little acts of kindness and support that mean the most.

So, if he’s there during your highs, your lows, and everything in between—even when he doesn’t know how to voice his feelings—it’s a sign that his love for you runs deep

2) He truly listens to you

The art of listening is often underestimated, but it’s one of the most powerful ways to show someone that you care.

When I think about this, I’m reminded of a poignant quote from Stephen R. Covey: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

But a man in love listens differently. He listens with the intent to understand, showing his interest in your world. 

So, when a man really loves you but finds it hard to express it, he’ll show it by paying attention to your words, your feelings, and your thoughts. He’ll remember the little things you say and will often bring them up in future conversations.

3) He respects your boundaries

In my years of studying love and relationships, I’ve come to realize that respect is the foundation of any healthy, lasting relationship.

So, when a man loves you but isn’t sure how to express it, you’ll find him respecting your boundaries. He understands the importance of personal space and never imposes or forces his way into aspects of your life where you’re not ready to let him in.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into the value of establishing and maintaining boundaries in a relationship.

A man who respects your boundaries is showing that he values your comfort and well-being, a true testament to his love for you.

It’s his subtle way of saying, “I care about you, and I respect your individuality.”

4) He’s not afraid of disagreements

This might surprise you, but disagreements can actually be a sign of love.

Yes, you read that right!

When a man truly loves you, he won’t shy away from expressing his own opinions, even if they differ from yours.

You see, he values your relationship enough to be honest about his feelings and thoughts. Instead of just agreeing with you to keep the peace, he’s not afraid to engage in healthy debates.

Of course, it’s essential that these disagreements are respectful and do not cross into the territory of disrespect or harm.

A man who loves you will argue with you in a way that respects your feelings and upholds the dignity of your relationship.

5) He shares his passions with you

Whether it’s his love for vintage cars, his passion for jazz music, or his weekend hiking trips, he wants you to be a part of it.

Not because he wants to force his interests on you, but because sharing these parts of his life feels natural and right.

I recall a time when a man I was seeing shared his love for astronomy with me. We spent countless nights stargazing and discussing the constellations.

It was during these shared moments that I realized his feelings ran deeper than he could express verbally.

So, if your man starts inviting you into his world of passions and interests, consider it a sign of his unspoken love

6) He shows vulnerability

Let’s get real here, folks. Vulnerability isn’t something most men are known for. Society often expects men to be strong, stoic figures who never let their guard down.

But when a man truly loves you, he might just surprise you by showing his softer, more vulnerable side.

Psychology tells us that vulnerability is a sign of trust and intimacy. It means he feels safe enough with you to let down his walls and share his fears, insecurities, and feelings.

It could be as big as opening up about past traumas or as simple as admitting he’s afraid of spiders. Either way, when a man shows you his vulnerabilities, it means he trusts you with his deepest self.

7) His actions speak louder than words

This might sound cliché, but it’s true: Actions speak louder than words.

This is especially true when it comes to men who are not adept at expressing their feelings verbally.

If a man loves you, he’ll show it through his actions. He might cook your favorite meal after a long day, bring you flowers just because, or simply hold your hand when you’re feeling down.

These are his ways of saying “I love you” without actually uttering the words.

8) He’s patient with you

Love isn’t a walk in the park. It can be messy, chaotic, and downright challenging at times.

When a man loves you but finds it hard to say, he’ll demonstrate his love through his patience. Whether you’re going through a rough patch or simply having a bad day, he’ll be there, steady and patient. He won’t rush you or pressure you into feeling better.

Instead, he understands that everyone has off days and that it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. He’s willing to stand by your side, no matter how tough things get.

This level of patience isn’t easy. It takes deep and genuine love to remain patient during difficult times.

So if you see this in your man, cherish it. 

For more insights on love, relationships, and overcoming codependency, don’t forget to check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

It’s packed with practical advice and strategies to help build healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Stay patient, stay open, and, most importantly, trust your intuition. It’s your best guide in matters of the heart.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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