10 signs a man is highly attracted to you, according to psychology

Do you wonder if that guy is into you?

You’ve been talking to him lately, but he just isn’t making a move for some reason. 

Well, when guys are into someone, it’s a mix of nature and chemistry.

They might copy your moves, look you in the eyes a lot, or touch you gently.

Biology, social norms, and the desire for a real connection make them do certain things.

And these things are your telltale signs they’re highly attracted to you.

So, let’s find out what these things are.  

1) He maintains eye contact

In psychology, prolonged eye contact is associated with attraction, as it shows a genuine interest and connection.

If a guy is really into you, his gaze will linger. He’s not just looking at you.

He’s soaking up your beauty as much as he can.

But, deep down, he also wants you to notice these looks.

It’s his way of telling you he likes you but without any words. 

For some women, this is enough to realize he’s really attracted to them.

For others, not so much. So, let’s move on.

2) His body is turned toward you, showing interest

Pay attention to how he positions himself when he’s around you.

If he’s facing you directly, it reveals he’s fully engaged in the conversation.

You see, open and relaxed body language suggests he’s comfortable and interested in what you’re saying, which aligns with psychological theories on non-verbal communication.

And you don’t really have to use a lot of brain power to realize how true that is.

Physical proximity simply matters a lot.

If he leans in during conversations, it means he has a desire to be closer and more connected. 

Psychologically, this means he wants and needs more intimacy and personal connection with you.

Just think about how you feel when you’re attracted to someone.

You just want to be as close to them as possible. 

And when you’re not around them, they still live rent-free in your mind. 

3) He unconsciously mimics your movements

Ever notice him unconsciously copying your gestures or movements?

Well, mirroring is a subtle sign of connection. Most of the time, it happens subconsciously. 

Psychologically, it’s seen as a way people mimic others to build rapport and establish a sense of unity.

But it doesn’t happen just when someone is attracted to you.

It happens all the time and in almost all conversations. 

Some people use mirroring consciously to evoke that feeling of agreement and unity in others. 

They deliberately do the same movements you do when they talk to you to make a connection. 

And now that you know about it, you’ll keep seeing it happen all the time. 

4) He touches you lightly and frequently

Physical contact, even if it’s just a light touch on your arm or shoulder, signals attraction, right? 

If he leans in and touches your arm or even just brushes by it, it means he’s trying to make contact with you.

He, again, wants to be as close to you as possible and wants to show you he’s into you.

Psychologically, touch releases oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” creating a sense of intimacy.

And it’s just natural you want to touch someone you’re highly attracted to. Even if for a brief moment. 

5) He laughs at your jokes (even the not-so-funny ones)

He laughs at your jokes 10 signs a man is highly attracted to you, according to psychology

A shared sense of humor is vital in any relationship.

If he finds your jokes funny, it’s a positive sign. 

Psychologically, laughter releases endorphins, contributing to a positive association with the person making you laugh.

He also wants you to see his lighter side, so he shows off his humor and playfulness, making you think he’s fun to be around. 

And that’s really important when you’re meeting someone new.

People like humor, and that’s also a great way to break the ice when interacting. 

6) He seems genuinely interested in what you’re saying

Does he seem genuinely interested when you talk?

If he’s actively listening and responding thoughtfully, it implies a strong connection and attraction. 

Psychologically, this reveals a high level of engagement and interest in what you have to say.

Showing an interest in your life past surface-level conversations means he wants to know you better.

He wants to build a deeper connection through shared personal information.

And if he recalls small details you’ve shared, it shows he’s paying attention and values what you say. 

He simply soaks up every word coming out of your mouth and stores it in his mind for clues. 

Don’t be surprised if he surprises you with a small but thoughtful gift relating to something you said in an earlier conversation.

7) Gives you regular compliments on your appearance or personality

When a guy’s dishing out compliments about how you look or your awesome personality, it’s a good sign he’s smitten. 

If he’s praising how you look – whether it’s your outfit, hairstyle, or just your general appearance – it means he’s noticing the effort you put into presenting yourself.

But compliments about your sense of humor, kindness, intelligence, or any other personal traits suggest that he’s not just focused on looks.

He also sees and values the qualities that make you unique and interesting.

This kind of compliment often reflects a deeper connection.

In both cases, these compliments serve as positive reinforcement.

They mean he’s not only attracted to you physically but also enjoys your company and appreciates who you are as a person.

8) He’s a bit nervous

This is one of the most classic telltale signs of attraction. I still remember my early romantic endeavors and how nervous I was.

But even later on, when I was in my twenties, the nervousness was still a companion when trying to make a good impression.

I’m not saying all men are nervous when talking to women, but many are.

They have a fear of messing up by saying or doing something wrong.

And a bit of nervous energy can be endearing. Or so I’ve been told. Psychologically, it’s a sign that he’s trying to make a good impression, as nervousness often accompanies a desire to be perceived positively.

9) He reaches out or initiates conversations

If he’s the one hitting you up with a “Hey, how’s your day?” or calling just to chat, that’s a strong signal.

It means he’s making an effort to stay connected.

Psychologically, this aligns with the concept of taking initiative in forming a relationship.

When a guy consistently reaches out, he sees potential and values the connection you already have. 

He’s not just waiting for you to make the first move. He’s actively wanting to be part of your day and your life. 

And ultimately, taking the first step requires a certain level of emotional investment.

He’s putting in effort to nurture that connection.

10) Fixes his appearance when you’re around

And finally, if he starts fixing his appearance when you’re around, it could be a subconscious effort to impress. 

Psychologically, this aligns with the idea of presenting oneself in the best possible light to attract a potential mate.

So if he’s adjusting his hair, straightening his clothes, or doing a quick check in the mirror when you’re nearby, it’s because he wants to present himself in the best light possible.

He’s hoping you’ll notice and like what you see.

Final thoughts

When it comes to solving whether a guy is attracted to you, it’s all about paying attention to the little things. 

From the way he looks at you to how he initiates conversations and even those subtle grooming moves – these actions often speak louder than words.

But attraction is a two-way street, and it’s not just about decoding signs but also trusting your instincts and feelings. 

Enjoy getting to know each other, and don’t forget to have fun along the way.

If you’re feeling a positive vibe and noticing these signs, there’s a good chance he’s into you.

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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