11 signs a guy likes you, according to psychology

How can you know for sure if a guy likes you or not?

Psychology gives us many insights into how men behave and what they do when they’re interested in you. I’m talking about interested beyond the purely casual or physical:

I mean they’re interested in you for real. 

So how can you tell if a man’s attracted to you on a deeper level?

Let’s take a look!

1) He compliments you a lot

When a guy likes you, he will compliment you a lot. He will compliment your appearance, your style, your intelligence, and really any other aspect of you that he notices. 

The important thing is that he is focused on picking out admirable qualities. 

While another man may compliment you as a matter of course, just to be polite, or to gain a favor from you, the man who likes you compliments you in order to show his interest and attraction.

2) He tries to make a positive impression

No matter how self-confident somebody is, they want to make a positive impression on the person they like. 

A man who is interested in you will be doing his best to make a positive impression on you. 

That includes trying to look his best, speaking in an intelligent and informative way, and potentially showing an interest in the kind of things you are interested in to spark a connection.

3) He does his best to make you laugh 

Laughter can be very seductive. 

The kind of man who is interested in you will also be interested in making you laugh. 

By sharing his humor with you and lightening up a situation, he accomplishes two things: he makes your day a little bit brighter, and he shows his attractive quality of being able to find humor even in everyday situations. 

If a man is often trying to make you laugh, there is a good chance that he is quite attracted to you.

4) He wants to spend any time he can with you

At the most basic level, a man who is interested in you will be interested in spending time with you. 

This is simple, and it’s also very true. 

Any guy who is strongly interested in you will make spending time with you a priority and go out of his way to make room in his schedule that accommodates you.

He will find fun and meaningful activities to do with you. He will go out of his way to make a space for you and do generous and thoughtful things like paying to take you out or cooking dinner for you.

5) He makes small gestures of affection and interest

When a man is interested in you, he will make all sorts of small gestures of affection and interest

This includes light touches on the arm or shoulder, intense eye contact and reassuring you with the way he talks to you and treats you. 

If you didn’t mean anything to him he would not behave in such a way, but because he is interested he likes to treat you with extra kindness and consideration. 

Observe how he treats you compared to other women in his life or environment who he spends a lot of time with. 

Does he treat them with the same extra-high level of care and kindness or are you a special person for him? 

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6) He makes efforts to prolong conversations and ask you questions

When he is interested in you, a guy will do his best to make interactions and conversations last longer. 

The main way to do this is to really listen to what you are saying and express an interest in it. 

The second way is to ask a lot of follow-up questions. Rather than simply sitting there like a bump on a lot, he will have unique observations and questions about what you are saying that will lead to the interaction lasting longer and to meeting or talking more in the future. 

If a guy is making these kinds of efforts it’s often because he likes you, or at the very least would like to talk to you for a longer amount of time or see you again soon.

7) He gives you thoughtful and tasteful gifts

A man who’s interested in you will also make an effort to give you thoughtful and tasteful gifts. 

He is quite perceptive of the things you tell him and the details of your life, so he will notice items that you may need or find useful. 

He will also note your artistic style and things you enjoy in terms of music, art, home decor and other such items. 

He will then buy you gifts along the lines of your taste, doing his best to show that he has been thinking of you and wants to get you something special.

8) He opens up to you about who he is and what he believes

All of us have a certain level of reticence about opening up regarding our true beliefs, emotions and experiences, particularly those of a more traumatic nature or that may be harder for others to understand. 

But when a man is truly interested in you, he will take the chance to open up to you about the experiences that have shaped him in life and his guiding principles and core values. 

He will also express a deep interest in hearing more about yours, if you are willing to share about these deeper aspects of yourself.

9) He introduces you to his friends, family and colleagues 

A man who is interested in you will be proud and eager to introduce you to those he cares about. 

He will talk about you to his friends and family and enjoy introducing you to these folks and anybody else he spends a lot of time with and is on friendly terms with. 

Introducing you to those who are an important part of his life is a way to bring you into his inner circle and deepen his ties with you as well. 

He’s essentially offering you the chance to be part of his close-knit crew rather than standing on the outside.

10) He talks about ideas for the future with you in them

Depending on how much you have interacted with a man, you may or may not have gone out on a date yet. 

Whether he has been open about his interest in you yet or not, a guy who is attracted to you will often bring up topics of the future and find ways to align them with your own ideas about the future. 

He will ask questions about your plans for the future in general as well. 

This is essentially a way for him to test the waters about the idea of the two of you together.

11) He is protective of you and cares about your problems

When a man is interested in a woman, there is a certain part of him which goes into a chivalric mode. 

He wants to genuinely make your life a little bit easier and he wants to be there for your problems that are going on. 

He will be your shoulder to cry on and wants to be there for you. This is not in a codependent or toxic way, but in a voluntary and attractive way.

He wants to be in a position where you trust him as somebody you can open up to and rely on when times get tough.

Paul Brian

Paul Brian

Paul R. Brian is a freelance journalist and writer who has reported from around the world, focusing on religion, culture and geopolitics. Follow him on www.twitter.com/paulrbrian and visit his website at www.paulrbrian.com

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