Uncovering the top 10 secrets of the sigma male personality

The sigma male is a rare creature with a very unique personality

He’s essentially an introverted alpha male, but it goes a bit deeper than that.

Let’s take a look at the secrets of the sigma male personality.

1) Sigma males come in many shades of gray

The first key secret of the sigma male personality is that there are many types of sigmas

The main thing that ties them all together is a strong individuality and willpower that’s not reliant on outside approval or collaboration. 

The sigma male may be a lawyer or a garbage collector, an artist or an architect. 

He comes in all shapes and sizes and he may work in a group or alone. 

But the way he functions is different from most people, and he tends to command much more respect and gravitas than your average person.

This brings me to the next point.

2) Sigma males have far above average charisma

Sigma males have far above average charisma. 

When they speak, people listen. 

It’s not anything outer you can point to about why this is, but it’s clear that this magnetism exists

The true reason for this sigma charisma is that sigmas have a deep inner security and certainty about who they are and what they want. 

This certainty over identity and goals makes the sigma a strong, silent type who often shines out like a beacon to those around them. 

In a world of confusion and half-baked ideas, their energy stands out like the lone figure in German artist Caspar David Friedrich’s iconic 1818 painting Wanderer Above the Sea of Fog

3) Sigmas know exactly what they want in life 

As I mentioned, sigmas know exactly what they want out of life.

This goes for their career, their personal life and every other aspect of what’s potentially in their control or influence. 

The sigma has a plan for almost everything, but also doesn’t rule out the possibility of spontaneous action or taking risks.

Still, he has a step-by-step plan for how to get closer to his objectives. 

This is the sigma formula for success:

Having a plan and a strong certainty about what he wants makes the sigma man stand out and come across as much more grounded and confident. 

As Bloke Box explains on his YouTube channel:

“He has an incredibly vivid and detailed vision for what he wants in every area of his life such as in work and business relationships, health and possessions.”

4) Sigmas get what they want in life

Sigmas have a mindset that sets milestones instead of just one big goal.

This gives them a way to go step by step.

What’s even better is that the sigma doesn’t seek fulfillment in outer goals and objectives. 

His goals often include inner self-development and outer self-development factors, like fitness, mental health, faith and happiness. 

He gets what he wants out of life, because even failures are able to be used to build positive traits like patience and forbearance. 

5) Sigma men don’t care what others think of them

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The real superpower of the sigma man is that he genuinely doesn’t care what others think of him. 

He follows the law (at least, mostly) but he’s far from interested in whether you like his paints or hairdo or accent. 

He doesn’t look for appreciation at work, nor from his partner or family or friends. 

He’s living life his way, often at a high moral and stylistic standard, but not in a way that shifts with the opinions of others. 

Love him or hate him, the sigma man isn’t shifting based on any public opinion poll. 

6) Sigma males can be convincing liars

Sigmas males come in all sorts of shades, as I mentioned. 

They may be ethical or unethical, popular or unpopular. 

Unlike alphas, betas, omegas or other categories of men, they don’t tend to fit into one profile. 

Although they ultimately prefer to be on their own, they may be the life of the party or be perceived as a highly extroverted person by society. 

There aren’t really any hard and fast rules with the sigma:

It’s the spy personality type. 

For this reason, sigmas have a greater than average ability to lie, and they also may be less ashamed of doing so. 

Because they often feel somewhat separate and less needing of broader society and people, they can sometimes tell convincing untruths without any hint of guilt or nerves. 

This brings me to the next point…

7) Sigma men love deeply but rarely

When it comes to love and romance, the sigma is a bit of a puzzle. 

They sometimes seem to fit into the player stereotype a bit, being hard to get and hard to impress, and also smooth talking to get what they want in the moment. 

The sigma may run through many partners and casual affairs, and tends to have people fall for him when he doesn’t feel the same way. 

The truth is that the sigma’s lack of need for outer approval and validation combined with his empowerment from solitude make him immune to the usual enticements of romance. 

He tends to cut things off early when he’s not feeling it, before things can get too seriously. 

The sigma male can be a player in the seduction phase, but when things get the least bit serious he’s likely to unhitch his wagon unless he’s truly invested. 

The caveat is that if and when the sigma truly falls in love, he does so completely on an even more committed level than most men. 

The bottom line is this: the sigma man is very hard to get, but once you have him you have him for sure. 

A very great resource for this is the free love and intimacy masterclass from the shaman Rudá Iandê.

As a sigma male myself, this video and what it teaches really opened my eyes to what I was doing wrong in my relationships and how to change things around. 

You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how different this is from most of the sleazy gurus and pickup artists you find online.

Check out the free video here.

8) Sigma men lead from behind

When it comes to their personality and approach to group situations, sigmas tend to lead from behind.

They’re that guy everyone respects and likes, who women find intriguing and captivating, but who nobody can quite slap a label on or “figure out.”

In a business or personal capacity, they lead from behind and prefer not to be in front-facing roles. 

The only time a sigma will outwardly push back is when he feels pressured to conform to somebody else’s plans or ideals. 

As long as he’s free to lead in his own life, he’s fine taking a lead-from-behind role in his outer roles. 

9) Sigma men are always growing

The next of the secrets of the sigma male personality is this:

Sigmas are allergic to stagnancy. 

They can focus on one task at a time, but they don’t stop changing and evolving. 

Improvement is as expected to them as putting on clothes in the morning. 

Following their daily, weekly, monthly and annual milestones to reach their goals, the sigma is always looking in the mirror and being honest about what he can change for the better.

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10) Sigma males have this one secret fear

With all of their advantages and strengths in life, it’s fair to be curious about the big weaknesses of sigmas. 

As I’ve noted, every sigma is different and there is no one type of sigma. 

However, the key characteristic weakness that all sigmas share is a deep fear of the following:

They are terrified of living an unworthy life that doesn’t have deeper meaning. 

Everyone fears this, to some extent, but for the sigma it is a burning preoccupation. 

Being temporarily happy or appreciated or rich or anything else will never make up for a lack of meaning, not to a sigma. 

He must find his purpose and mission and pursue it at all costs or else he will burn with a deep inner frustration. 

Sigma secret sauce

The sigma secret sauce is self-love and self-validation. 

By knowing fully who he is and what he stands for, the sigma man unleashes his own power to its fullest extent. 

This makes him a force to be reckoned with in every area of his life. 

If you’re a sigma male trying to figure out how to find love and intimacy that’s meaningful to you, or if you have your sights set on a sigma male, I once again highly recommend the free masterclass on finding true love and intimacy

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Paul R. Brian is a freelance journalist and writer who has reported from around the world, focusing on religion, culture and geopolitics. Follow him on www.twitter.com/paulrbrian and visit his website at www.paulrbrian.com

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