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People who are sexually attractive to others have these 7 special characteristics

What’s the key to being sexy?

It’s not an easy question to answer.

So why is it that some people exude sexual attractiveness, even though they look normal?

Do they have some hidden characteristics that most of us don’t know about?

Actually, yes they do!

Recent research has found that sexually attractive people have seven extra-ordinary personality characteristics that separate them from others.

So below, we’re going to explain exactly what they are.


The best bit?

No physical alterations required!

1) Selflessness is sexy

When you’re helping others, you’re not really thinking of what benefits it offers to yourself.

Yet, research has found that helping others can inspire a good mood, alleviate a bad mood, and increase the likelihood of reciprocal helping.

And surprisingly another benefit has been found:

It makes you more appealing to potential partners!

A study by Moore et al. in 2013 found that helping others made both male and females appear more attractive.


The researchers concluded that being helpful signals that they possess good genes as well as a willingness to share resources and parental care.

2) Become a sexy stranger

Research shows that familiarity leads to liking – however recent research has shown that this is only true for females. Males on the other hand prefer unfamiliarity.

Men rate women as less sexy when they have seen their photographs before meeting in person.

Why are strangers sexy for men?

Researchers have concluded that this could be do with the potential evolutionary benefits to men of mating with more than one partner.


Interestingly, new research shows that women also prefer unfamiliar male partners, under certain circumstances. Women in their most fertile portion of their menstrual cycles found men from other ethnic backgrounds as more attractive.

The authors speculate that this could be the desire of genetically diverse offspring.

So, what does this mean practically?

Don’t reveal everything right away. Keep an air of curiosity about you. Whether it’s revealing your pictures before meeting, or meaningful information about yourself.

3) Get creative

Showing your creativity may enhance your sex appeal, according to research. However, women’s fertility status may be an important predictor in the attractiveness of creativity.

A study found that women in their most fertile portion of their cycles preferred creativity to wealth in potential male partners.



The authors believe it may signal good genes or intelligence. They also propose that creativity in women may attract men: however, they did not test that in this study.

Another study found that men carrying a guitar were more likely to get a women’s phone number than when they were carrying a gym bag. The researchers speculate that musical talent also signals good genes.

4) Open up

An open posture not only conveys one’s romantic interest, but can also inspire romantic interest in others. Taking up more space with one’s body enhanced both men’s and women’s chances of success.

Why is openness sexy?

The posture may signal dominance but also a willingness to share resources. It may also be associated with confidence, which is considered an essential aspect of sex appeal.

5) Humor is sexy

Yes, humor is attractive to both women and men, but not in the same way.

Women like men who make them laugh and men like women who laugh at their jokes.

Why is humor sexy? Scientists speculate that funny people are smart, and smart is sexy.

So ladies, you can boost your attractiveness by learning to a laugh a bit more. Men, learn some jokes!

6) What you talk about is sexy

Random conversation with someone you’re interested can be a bad idea. Why? Because emotional, personal information exchanges feelings of connection.


So prepare to reveal some interesting and meaningful details about yourself.

Also, prepare to ask some meaningful questions, rather than simply talking about the weather.

7) How you make them feel is sexy

Research shows that we don’t fall in love with a person – we fall in love with how we feel when we’re with them.

The good news is that when experience strong feelings, we tend to associate those feelings with the people around us.

What does this mean?

It can help to make sure the environment is positive, fun and exciting! They’ll associate those feelings with you.


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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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