If your relationship has these 12 traits, you’re deeply connected

Do you ever wonder how close you really are with your partner?

Or maybe you’re single and want to know what a great relationship looks like?

Well, you’re in the right place.

We’ve got a list of 12 important traits that show a deep bond between two people.

These are the signs to look for if you want a relationship that’s more than just surface level. 

1. Open and Honest Communication

The first sign you’re deeply connected with your partner is open and honest communication.

When you can talk about anything and everything, from the small daily happenings to the big, life-changing decisions, without fear or hesitation, you know you have a strong bond.

This doesn’t mean that every conversation is easy or comfortable, but rather you’re both willing to put in the effort to understand each other.

Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely, knowing your partner will listen and respond with love and respect, is a surefire sign of a deep connection.

2. You’re Each Other’s Safe Haven

Being in a deeply connected relationship means feeling a sense of safety and comfort with your partner.

When you’ve had a rough day or you’re going through a tough time, they’re the first person you want to turn to for support.

You’re each other’s safe haven in the storm – providing comfort, reassurance, and unconditional love.

This feeling of security and trust doesn’t just come overnight; it comes from consistent actions that build trust over time.

So if your partner is your go-to person for all things good and bad, it’s a clear sign of a deep and meaningful bond.

3. Shared Values and Goals

Another key trait of a deeply connected relationship is sharing core values and life goals.

This doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything, but at the heart of it all, your beliefs and aspirations align.

For example, I remember when my partner and I first started dating.

We had a lot of fun exploring new places, trying different cuisines, and just enjoying each other’s company.

But what really made me feel connected to him was our shared vision for the future.

We both wanted a simple life in the countryside, filled with love, laughter, and a bunch of dogs.

This shared dream brought us even closer together because we knew we were working towards the same goal.

If you and your partner have this kind of alignment, it’s a sure sign that you’re deeply connected.

4. Genuine Acceptance

A big part of a deeply connected relationship is accepting each other, flaws and all.

This means acknowledging your partner’s quirks, habits, and characteristics, even the ones you might not particularly like, and loving them regardless.

It’s about seeing the whole person and appreciating them for who they truly are.

Interestingly, according to the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, couples who accept each other’s flaws tend to have longer-lasting and more satisfying relationships.

So if you and your partner embrace each other’s imperfections rather than trying to change them, it’s a clear sign that your connection runs deep.

5. Unwavering Support

In a deeply connected relationship, you both act as each other’s cheerleaders.

There’s an unwavering sense of support and encouragement, whether it’s for a small everyday task or a big life-changing decision.

You celebrate each other’s success as if it were your own and provide comfort during failures, never letting one another feel alone.

It’s as if you’re both on the same team, working together towards your individual and shared goals.

This feeling is more than just love; it’s a profound sense of partnership.

When you know that someone has your back, no matter what happens, there’s an undeniable deepness to that connection – a bond that truly stands the test of time.

6. Respect for Each Other’s Individuality

A true sign of a deep connection is respecting each other’s independence and individuality.

In my own relationship, my partner and I love spending time together, but we also value our alone time.

We understand that we’re two separate individuals with our own interests and hobbies.

For instance, he loves going on long bike rides on weekends, while I enjoy curling up with a good book.

We respect these differences and give each other the space to pursue what we love.

This mutual respect for our individuality has helped us maintain a balanced relationship and has deepened our bond.

So remember, it’s important to have a life outside of your relationship too – it’s not about losing yourself in your partner, but growing together while remaining true to who you are.

7. You Can Be Real with Each Other

When you’re deeply connected to someone, there’s no need for pretense.

You can be your raw, authentic self without the fear of judgment.

You know those moments when you’re not at your best?

Maybe you’re having a bad day, or you’re feeling a bit moody or grumpy?

In a deeply connected relationship, you can show up as you are in those moments.

You don’t have to put on a mask or pretend everything is fine when it’s not.

Your partner gets it and they still love and accept you even when you’re not at your best.

Being able to be real and show the not-so-glamorous sides of yourself is a sign of deep connection and trust.

It says, “I trust you with the real me, warts and all.” And that’s something truly special.

8. Physical Affection

Physical affection is more than just about passion; it’s a way of communicating love, care, and closeness without words.

Holding hands, hugging, a gentle touch on the arm – these gestures convey a deep emotional bond.

Couples who show physical affection tend to be happier and more satisfied in their relationship.

The act of cuddling after sex, for instance, is associated with greater sexual satisfaction and higher relationship satisfaction.

So if you and your partner frequently show physical affection towards each other, it’s a sign that your connection is more than skin-deep.

9. You Grow Together

In my own relationship, I’ve seen how we’ve grown and evolved over time, not just as individuals but as a couple.

We’ve navigated through life’s ups and downs together – changes in jobs, the passing of loved ones, moving homes – and each challenge has only brought us closer.

We’ve learned from our mistakes, made adjustments, and always found ways to better ourselves and our relationship.

This commitment to growth is a clear sign of a deep connection.

It shows that you’re not just stuck in a routine, but you’re actively working on building a stronger, healthier relationship.

If you and your partner are committed to growing together, you’re definitely deeply connected.

10. You Fight Fair

Let’s be honest, every couple fights. But deeply connected couples fight fair.

They don’t use hurtful words or bring up past mistakes just to win an argument.

They listen, they take turns speaking, and they focus on the issue at hand rather than attacking each other personally.

In a deep connection, both partners understand that the goal of an argument isn’t to win, but to resolve the conflict and strengthen the relationship.

11. You Trust Each Other

Trust is the bedrock of a deeply connected relationship.

It’s about more than just believing your partner won’t cheat or lie to you.

It’s about trusting them with your feelings, your fears, your dreams, and your vulnerabilities.

Trust means you feel safe to share your deepest self with your partner because you know they will handle it with care.

12. Your Relationship Feels Like Home

Lastly, in a deeply connected relationship, being with your partner feels like coming home.

It’s comfortable and familiar, yet exciting and fulfilling at the same time.

It’s knowing that no matter what happens outside, you have a safe and loving space to return to.

When your relationship feels like this, it’s undeniably deep and real.

Remember, no relationship is perfect and these traits won’t all be present all the time.

But if most of them resonate with you, then congratulations – your connection with your partner is truly special!

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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