9 quirky habits that indicate someone is exceptional at making people like them

There’s a subtle art to being instantly likable. Not being the loudest in the room or the most outgoing. Often, it’s those quirky habits that set someone apart.

Being exceptional at making people like you isn’t something that comes naturally to everyone. It requires a certain finesse and understanding of human nature.

And believe it or not, there are some unconventional habits that are common among these people-charmers. Habits that you wouldn’t typically associate with being likable.

Here’s a sneak peek into 9 quirky habits that indicate someone is a pro at winning hearts without even trying too hard!

1) They listen more than they talk

When it comes to making people like you, listening can be a powerful tool.

Many of us like to talk about ourselves and our interests. It’s human nature. And when someone truly listens to us, it makes us feel valued and important.

Exceptional people-charmers understand this. They have a knack for making the other person feel like the most interesting person in the room. They ask thoughtful questions and listen attentively to the answers.

This quirky habit makes people feel heard and understood, which naturally draws them towards the listener.

2) They are genuinely interested in others

Being genuinely interested in other people is a habit I’ve noticed in those who are exceptional at making people like them.

Let me share a personal example. I have a friend named Sarah who has this amazing ability to make anyone she meets feel like they’re the only person that matters in that moment.

One time, we were at a party and Sarah was talking to this guy who was really into bird-watching – something Sarah knew nothing about. Instead of changing the subject to something she was more comfortable with, she asked him question after question about his hobby.

I could see the guy’s eyes light up as he shared his passion with someone who was genuinely interested in what he had to say.

3) They mimic body language subtly

Exceptional people-charmers often have a habit of subtly mirroring the body language of the person they’re interacting with. This can range from matching their speaking pace, volume, tone, to mirroring their gestures or posture.

This is an unconscious process called ‘the chameleon effect‘, where we tend to copy the people we’re interacting with. Studies show it increases likability and fosters a sense of rapport.

But it’s important that this mirroring is subtle and natural. Overdoing it can come across as mocking or mimicking, which can have the opposite effect. The purpose is creating a quiet harmony in the interaction, making the other person feel at ease and connected.

4) They remember names and details

Have you ever been surprised when someone you’ve only met once or twice remembers your name, or a small detail you mentioned in passing? It’s a great feeling, isn’t it?

Those who are exceptional at making people like them often have this habit. They remember names and small details about a person’s life. They make mental notes of things like a person’s favorite book, their dog’s name, or a recent vacation they took.

This knack for recalling personal details sends a clear message: “I value you and our interactions.” It makes people feel seen and appreciated, which naturally makes them gravitate towards the person who made them feel that way.

5) They use positive body language

It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it. And in the realm of likability, body language plays a crucial role.

People who are good at making others like them often exhibit open and positive body language. They maintain good eye contact, lean in when others are speaking, and use open gestures.

They also smile genuinely. A genuine smile can light up a room and make others feel comfortable and welcomed.

6) They offer sincere compliments

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There is something beautifully heartwarming about receiving a sincere compliment. It has the power to brighten someone’s day in an instant.

People who are exceptional at making others like them have a knack for giving sincere and specific compliments. They don’t just throw around generic praises like “You’re great”. Instead, they notice and appreciate the unique qualities in others.

Perhaps it’s complimenting someone on their creativity, their resilience, or the way their eyes light up when they talk about their passion. These compliments come from a place of genuine admiration and respect, which makes them all the more valuable.

7) They’re not afraid to show their flaws

Perfection can be intimidating. It’s our flaws and quirks that make us human and relatable.

I was always self-conscious about my laugh – it’s loud and a bit goofy. For years, I tried to suppress it, until I met my mentor. He had the most infectious laugh, and it was far from ‘normal’. But it was genuine, and it made everyone around him light up.

Seeing him embrace his quirkiest feature made me realize that our imperfections often endear us to others more than our perfections do.

Likeable people aren’t afraid to be themselves, flaws and all. They show their real selves, which encourages others to do the same. This authenticity creates a deeper connection and fosters trust.

8) They show empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It means putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and connecting with them on an emotional level.

People who are exceptional at making others like them often possess a high level of empathy. They can sense when someone is upset, even if they’re trying to hide it, and know how to respond in a way that shows they care.

They’re also good at sharing in other people’s joy. When someone shares good news, they celebrate with them, genuinely happy for their success.

9) They spread positivity

Positivity is contagious. When you’re around someone who exudes positive energy, it’s hard not to feel uplifted.

People who are exceptional at making others like them often have this infectious positivity. They approach life with a positive outlook, and it shows in their interactions.

They find joy in the small things, and they share that joy with others. They’re quick to laugh, slow to anger, and always looking for the silver lining.

Final thoughts: The power of authenticity

At the heart of these quirky habits lies one fundamental truth – authenticity.

When we shed our masks and present our true selves, quirks and all, we allow genuine connections to form. We invite others to see us, understand us, and ultimately, like us.

People are drawn to authenticity. They can sense when someone is being genuine and when someone is putting on a facade. And more often than not, they are drawn to the former.

So, whether it’s remembering names, mirroring body language, or embracing your flaws, these habits all point to one thing – being genuinely you.

And perhaps that’s the most powerful habit of all when it comes to making people like you. Because in the end, the person others will truly like is the person you truly are!

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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