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Feel like a failure at love? A psychologist says that this could be why

Why do most relationships fail?

It’s not an easy question to answer.

Some people complain that there were “too many differences”. Others say that “we argued too much”.

But clincal psychologist Joseph Burgo says that reasons like this aren’t technically correct.

He says there’s something underlying everything that’s causing these problems in the first place.

What is it?

Watch this short one minute video to find out:

For those of you who haven’t got time to watch the video, here’s why most relationships fail:

Have you ever gone into a relationship hoping that other person will make you feel better, or fix you?

Well, you might want to stop.

According to Joseph Burgo, that’s the number one reason most relationships fail.


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Why?

Because once reality sets in and you start getting realistic appraisement of the other person, you struggle to deal with the fact that the other person isn’t idealizing you in those early stages of romance.

We all want to be loved. We all want to feel attractive. That’s one thing.

But if you’re dealing with issues of low self-esteem or shame, and you’re hoping a relationship is going to fix that, Joseph Burgo says that’s a disaster waiting to happen.

So, what can you do?

You need to make sure you’re happy with who you are and where you are in life before you enter a committed relationship.

You need to think about other areas in your life, like your career or social life, and feel reasonably satisfied.

Joseph Burgo says that if you’re looking for a romantic relationship to complete you, then you’re just placing too much emphasis on romantic relationships.

It’s more fruitful to focus on improving yourself and finding fulfilment in other areas of life.

Once you enter a relationship feeling happy, not only will you be more joyful to be around for your partner, but you’ll give yourself the best chance to find true love without unhealthy attachments.

NOW READ: How to find true love: 6 no bullsh*t tips

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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