Do you sometimes feel overcome with feelings of anger, fear, guilt, or hopelessness?
Would you like to find out how to overcome these negative feelings that are putting a damper on your happiness and joy? Would you like to increase your emotional agility?
Well, you’re in the right place.
Because today I’m going to show you the technique that I have personally used to turn my life around.
The best part?
This strategy works and it doesn’t cost a cent!
Let me show you what I mean.
The first question you have to consider is this:
What does your inner dialogue consist of?
Is your inner dialogue like mine – non-stop talking with endless thoughts, ideas, concepts, memories, plans, apprehensions, doubts and constant repetition of previous thoughts?
And in particular, if you had to analyze the content of this talking machine, is it mainly uplifting and optimistic, or is it mainly fear-based and negative?
How much of it consists of regrets or anger about past events?
How much of it consists of apprehension about the future?
Why is it important for you to consider these questions?
It’s important because your internal dialogue determines your reactions to life and its circumstances.
Negative outlook, negative outcome. Positive outlook, positive outcome.
If you choose to live in the past and rehash all of the negative situations and conditions that went on then, you stay stuck where you are.
What is needed?
You need to make a conscious decision not to be a victim of your past nor a victim of your apprehension about the future.
One way to do this is to intentionally engage in a positive inner dialogue.
Most of us tend to stay stuck in the past, rehashing old arguments, remembering criticism from parents, teachers, siblings and peer, or more importantly, ourselves.
Here is the thing: this negative inner talk repeated over many years make us unhappy, depressed, angry and fearful. We end up feeling guilty and hopeless.
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What can we do about it?
You can literally replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. It sounds silly, but wait till you try it.
Do this: take a piece of paper and a pen and start writing down your thoughts about an aspect of your life. It can be your finances, a relationship, your health, your career, anything.
Without thinking about it too deeply, just jot down what comes to mind.
You’ll be shocked at what you see: most of your thoughts will be negative.
Now do this: next to every negative statement, write a positive one.
It will look something like this:
I can’t stand myself………………….I’m becoming a better me ….
I’m angry about ……………………….I’m willing to let go of ….
If you learned at home to always expect the worst to happen, you can learn to change that thinking pattern. You can learn to be more optimistic about the future.
If you learned as a child that you are worthless, you can discover that you have personal value.
The more you counteract the negative statements with positive statements, the more your internal dialogue will change and support you. Especially if you keep at it. Don’t do it one day and then forget about it for the rest of the week!
In case you are wondering: is this not just self-deception? Am I not fooling myself into positive heaven where nothing really changes?
Well no. Remember all those negative messages that are still playing in your mind now? They are still affecting you, right?
Ask yourself this: Why won’t the messages I give myself today and every day forward, not also stay with me?
They will. If you give them the same attention you gave those negative ones over the years!
You have the choice today to choose the content of your inner dialogue. What will it be?