6 phrases only sincere men use in relationships, according to psychology

Actions speak louder than words. We all know that.

Saying words is one thing, but following through on one’s promises is a different story entirely. And sadly, many men fail when it comes to the second step.

I’ve got some good news, though. There are plenty of sincere men out there, men who genuinely mean what they say; men who have integrity.

Want to know which phrases they use in relationships?

Here goes…

1) “I can’t make any promises”

According to psychologists, “Trying as best one can to keep promises is crucial. These interpersonal contracts facilitate trust and love.”

However, not always are we able to fulfil what we’ve promised, especially when life gets busy and memory turns a bit foggy.

This is why it’s so very important to take your promises seriously. Our romantic partners expect us to stick to our word and be reliable, and if they assign more value to our promises than we do, things can get pretty ugly pretty quickly.

I know what I’m talking about. One of my exes was a master at making promises he’d soon forget all about, and over time, his inability to keep his word contributed to a loss of respect from my side.

A sincere man isn’t going to promise something he isn’t sure he can fulfil. Instead, he’s honest about his intentions.

“I can’t make any promises” might come across as a bit blunt, but the truth is that it shows a man values his words and doesn’t want to waste them if they’re not going to be followed by real-life action.

2) “I don’t know what the future holds but I’m happy with how things are going”

On a similar note, I’ve dated men who planned out our entire future after a few weeks of knowing each other with no real intention to make those plans a reality.

Thus the toxic magic of love-bombing.

Since then, I’ve learned one simple truth: a man who says he doesn’t know what the future holds is much more mature and reliable than a man who spins wonderful dreams of a future to come and then disappears for three days.

This isn’t to say men shouldn’t plan, of course. If you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, it’s important that you share the same goals and have an understanding when it comes to your values.

In early dating, though, it’s usually more sensible to admit uncertainty than it is to commit too quickly.

3) “I feel hurt by X and would like to talk about it”

“Men may be hesitant to speak up in their relationships because of their aversion to conflict and fear of being abandoned,” says psychotherapist Avrum Weiss PhD.

He continues, “Men are often willing to contort themselves to almost any extent to avoid women being angry with them, but this can take a heavy toll.”

Since so many men struggle to open up and bottle their feelings inside, a huge sign you’re dealing with a sincere (and emotionally mature) man is that he openly communicates how he feels.

This is no easy feat, of course. In many societies, it is still incredibly hard for men to show vulnerability. But this is why it’s all the more impressive when a man is able to share himself with his partner.

“I feel hurt by what you did yesterday, can we talk about it?” is such a simple phrase, and yet it says a lot about a man’s character.

4) “I really appreciate you”

According to Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, “Feeling appreciated by one’s partner is like ‘glue’ that can help keep a relationship together during tough times.”

And yet plenty of people don’t show appreciation to their partners anywhere near often enough.

This is why one way to tell whether you’re dating a sincere man is to have a think about how often he shows gratitude and a genuine appreciation for what you bring to his life.

5) “I need a bit of space to process my feelings”

Let’s say you and your partner are in the middle of an argument. You’ve been fighting for ages, you still can’t seem to settle on a compromise, and truth be told, you’ve just been running in circles.

The most helpful thing right now would be to take a break. If you both take some space to calm down and process how you feel, you’re going to be able to return to each other in a much more rational state of mind.

But here’s the thing. While many men feel this need, they don’t know how to communicate it.

As a result, they might find an excuse to storm out and go to the pub, making everything worse, or they might completely shut down on an emotional level and essentially block the conflict out.

A sincere man is different. He knows that he needs to take space, but he also knows he should do it in a sensible way that doesn’t drive his partner further away from him.

And so… he tells the truth. He explains how he feels, says he still cherishes his partner, and reassures them that he takes the problem very seriously.

This ensures that disagreements become a productive rather than a destructive force in the relationship.

6) “You’re my best friend”

Lastly, “You’re my best friend” is a sign of sincerity because it’s quite a vulnerable thing to admit.

After all, it is one thing to say that you are sexually attracted to or in love with someone; it’s another to tell them their friendship is such a vital part of your life that you effectively consider them to be your best friend.

Somehow, it is more intimate. It shows just how much they value you as a person.

Don’t get me wrong, people in relationships absolutely should have best friends outside of the relationship itself. However, your partner ought to be part of your inner circle, too – not just because you’re in love but because you have a strong emotional and intellectual connection.

In the end, it isn’t sexual attraction or romance that get you through rough times. It’s a strong foundation of friendship first and foremost.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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