As society continues to evolve and gender roles shift, the traditional ideal of the “manly man” is becoming increasingly rare.
The cultural norms surrounding masculinity are changing, and with them, the traits that are seen as desirable in men.
However, for those who still embody this traditional ideal, there are certain personality traits that continue to define their character.
1. Physical Strength and Toughness
One of the most recognizable traits of the manly man is physical strength and toughness.
This trait has been valued in men for centuries, as it conveys a sense of confidence and capability.
In the past, physical strength was essential for survival, and it was necessary for men to be physically strong and capable to provide for their families.
Today, while physical strength is still valued, it is no longer the most important factor in determining a man’s worth.
2. Emotional Stoicism
Another trait commonly associated with the manly man is emotional stoicism.
Men who embody this trait are often seen as strong and capable, able to keep their emotions in check and not show vulnerability or sensitivity.
However, this trait can also have negative consequences.
When men suppress their emotions, they can experience mental health issues, and they may struggle to form meaningful relationships.
3. Courage and Bravery
Men who embody the traditional ideal of the manly man often display bravery and courage, taking risks and facing challenges with confidence and strength.
This trait can be a valuable asset in a variety of situations, from personal and professional challenges to more life-threatening situations.
While courage and bravery are still highly valued in men, the definition of what constitutes a courageous act has evolved.
Today, acts of kindness and empathy are also considered courageous, and men who display these traits are highly respected.
4. Independence and Self-Sufficiency
The manly man is often characterized by his self-sufficiency and independence.
He takes responsibility for his own well-being and does not rely on others for support.
While independence is still valued, today, men are encouraged to seek help and support when they need it.
This is seen as a sign of strength, rather than weakness.
5. Assertiveness and Leadership
The manly man is often assertive and takes charge in social, professional, and personal situations.
This trait can be valuable in leadership roles and can help individuals achieve their goals and navigate challenging situations.
However, it is important to recognize that assertiveness can also have negative consequences.
Men who are too assertive can come across as aggressive or domineering, which can harm their personal and professional relationships.
A balance can be truck between being assertive while also supporting others. Modern-day “manly men” are able to assert themselves without getting in the way of others.
6. Competitive Spirit
Men who embody the traditional ideal of the manly man often have a strong competitive spirit, driven to succeed and excel in competitive situations.
This trait can be a valuable asset in sports and other competitive pursuits, but it is important to recognize that there is more to life than competition.
These days, men are generally encouraged to value cooperation and collaboration, rather than just winning.
The manly man is often decisive, able to make important decisions quickly and confidently.
This trait can be a valuable asset in a variety of situations, from personal and professional decision-making to more life-altering choices.
However, it is important to recognize that decisiveness can also lead to impulsive decision-making.
Men are encouraged to take the time to carefully consider all of their options before making a decision.
Men who embody the traditional ideal of the manly man often take on leadership roles and feel responsible for the well-being of their family, community, or society.
This trait can be a valuable asset in helping to create positive change in the world.
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The manly man is often protective of his loved ones and his property, taking action to defend them when necessary.
This trait can be valuable in creating a sense of safety and security for those around him.
However, it is important to recognize that overprotectiveness can also be harmful.
Men need to find a balance between protecting their loved ones and allowing them to make their own choices.
10. Endurance and Resilience
Men who embody the traditional ideal of the manly man are often able to persevere through difficult or challenging situations, displaying resilience and endurance in the face of adversity.
This trait can be a valuable asset in achieving personal and professional goals and navigating life’s ups and downs.
I do want to note that endurance and resilience also require vulnerability.
Men who are too focused on being strong and resilient may not allow themselves to acknowledge their own pain and struggles.
The key point I want to make is that the traditional ideal of the “manly man” is becoming increasingly rare as societal norms continue to evolve.
While the personality traits traditionally associated with the manly man are still valued, the definition of what it means to be a man is changing.
Men are now encouraged to embrace their emotions, seek help and support when needed, and value collaboration and cooperation over competition.
Ultimately, men should be free to express themselves in a way that feels true to their identity and values, regardless of whether or not they conform to traditional notions of masculinity.
How to develop masculinity (without being a jackass about it)
The concept of masculinity has been debated and redefined throughout history, but one thing is certain: being a man is not about being a jackass.
As society continues to evolve, so too does our understanding of what it means to be a man.
While there are certain traits that have been traditionally associated with masculinity, it is important to remember that these traits are not exclusive to men, and men should be free to express themselves in a way that feels true to their identity and values.
If you want to develop your masculinity without being a jackass about it, here are some tips to get you started:
1. Embrace vulnerability
One of the most important things you can do to develop your masculinity is to embrace vulnerability. This means allowing yourself to feel your emotions and express them in a healthy way. Embracing vulnerability does not make you weak, it makes you human.
2. Develop your emotional intelligence
To truly develop your masculinity, you need to develop your emotional intelligence. This means being able to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as being able to empathize with others. Emotional intelligence is a valuable asset in personal and professional relationships, and it can help you succeed in all aspects of your life.
3. Value collaboration over competition
While a competitive spirit can be valuable in certain situations, it is important to recognize that collaboration is often more beneficial. Men who value collaboration are able to work well in teams and can achieve their goals through cooperation rather than competition.
4. Practice self-care
Taking care of your physical and mental health is an essential part of developing your masculinity. This means getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising regularly, and taking care of your mental health. Men who practice self-care are better equipped to handle life’s challenges and are more resilient in the face of adversity.
5. Be responsible
Being responsible is an important part of being a man. This means taking responsibility for your own actions, as well as the well-being of those around you. Men who are responsible are able to create positive change in the world and are respected by others.
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In conclusion, developing your masculinity is not about conforming to traditional notions of what it means to be a man. It is about embracing your own identity and values, and developing the traits that make you a kind, compassionate, and responsible person. By embracing vulnerability, developing your emotional intelligence, valuing collaboration, practicing self-care, and being responsible, you can become a better version of yourself, without being a jackass about it.