7 personality traits of men who don’t need a relationship to feel happy in life

Being in a loving and healthy romantic relationship is wonderful.

But do you know what’s even better?

Realizing that you don’t need romance in order to feel happy.

In fact, this kind of mindset is what often helps us attract amazing partners into our lives when we least expect it – since we operate from a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity, we’re more likely to stumble upon someone who completes the picture.

…except the picture is already complete. That’s the whole point.

Without further ado, here are the 7 personality traits of men who don’t need a relationship to feel happy in life.

1) They’re self-sufficient

A man who can look after himself increases his chances of being genuinely happy while single.

And I’m not just talking about house chores. Self-sufficiency pertains to all aspects of life, from the ability to self-soothe when in distress to finding meaning in the everyday.

Self-sufficient men are fully able to live on their own, enjoy their company, and provide whatever it is they need.

This has two perks: it makes it so that they don’t need a romantic relationship to feel happy and it also ensures that they make for independent and reliable partners if they do eventually find someone they want to spend their lives with.

It’s a win-win.

2) They keep themselves occupied with meaningful work

According to the psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, the one thing everyone needs in their life is a sense of purpose.

If a man doesn’t feel like his life has any meaning, he may seek it in a romantic relationship. This might manifest as love-bombing his new partners, clinging on too tight, and making his whole universe about romantic love.

If he finds meaning outside of the realm of romance, however… that’s when he has managed to carve out enough space for himself as an individual, independent of any potential partners.

That’s when he has built a stable foundation of self-sufficiency and happiness.

Be it his career, volunteering, or his side projects, a man who works on something meaningful every day is someone who can do without romance.

His life is fulfilling enough as it is. A romantic relationship would only be the cherry on top.

3) They cultivate a Stoic mindset

Stoicism is very popular with men, and for a good reason – it teaches the importance of virtue, personal responsibility, and most of all, the ability to accept uncertainty and remain lovingly detached.

One of the main goals of a Stoic is to embrace the idea that some things are outside of our control, and that’s okay. The only things we can control are our thoughts, words, and actions.

What this means for a man’s dating life is that he isn’t going to rush anywhere.

Whatever happens, happens.

If he finds the love of his life tomorrow, excellent!

If he spends the next two years single, so be it. He’ll enjoy the process.

Asking people out, scheduling dates, and putting in effort are things you have power over. What you can’t control, however, is how well you get along with someone and whether they want to take things further.

In other words, you can’t choose when or how you meet the love of your life.

Therefore, the best course of action is to do whatever feels authentic at the moment and let go of all expectations.

Some things you can influence, but others…

It’s better to just let go.

4) They don’t seek external validation

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External validation is a double-edged sword.

It makes you feel amazing in the moment, sure – who doesn’t love it when a beautiful woman is impressed by their achievements, after all? – but the problem is that it never quite feels like… enough.

Unfortunately, many men seek recognition through romantic relationships, which is why they never feel quite satisfied when they’re single.

If there’s no one to center all their attention around, no one to give them the love and validation they hunger for, no one to love, admire, and cherish them…

There is a gaping emptiness. And no way to fill it.

Except, of course, learning to embrace solitude and building a strong sense of self-love within themselves.

Because the truth is that other people can validate you day in and day out, but if you don’t feel confident yourself, you will always feel like you need more.

The only person who can give you exactly what you want is yourself.

5) They actively work on themselves

Of course, people don’t just randomly start to love themselves and embrace self-sufficiency. That’s rarely how it works.

Many men who don’t need a relationship to feel happy in life have put in a lot of effort over the years so that they get to enjoy their peace of mind in the present moment.

And it doesn’t stop there.

Growth is a constant process, and whether you like it or not, life will always push you to uncomfortable places so that you can claw your way out of your old shell and be reborn once more.

Therefore, it stands to reason that men who are completely happy on their own put active effort into their personal development.

From reading self-help books and journaling to looking after their physical well-being and trying new hobbies, they continually find new ways to evolve, challenge themselves, and inevitably grow.

This has multiple benefits:

  • It means they always have something interesting to occupy themselves with, eradicating boredom
  • It gives them the space to unpack any potential wounds, traumas, or issues they carry inside them so that they get to thrive both as single individuals and as partners in a future relationship
  • It helps them get to know themselves better

And that leads us to the next point…

6) They have high levels of self-awareness

Self-awareness is an essential skill – one that plenty of people (unfortunately) lack.

Of course, we’re all self-aware in one way or another, but true self-awareness isn’t just about being conscious of your emotions or thoughts.

It’s also about knowing yourself so extraordinarily well that you don’t lie to yourself. It’s about listening to your intuition. It’s about knowing what you stand for, what you need to work on, and what your core values are.

A man who is highly self-aware is also a man who knows what he wants in life and who doesn’t just jump into any relationship for the sake of having a partner.

He’s someone who would rather be single for a little while longer and focus on what matters to him than lose himself in a romantic situation that ultimately isn’t right for him.

7) They focus on building a strong social network

The fact that someone doesn’t need a relationship to feel fulfilled in life doesn’t mean they don’t have any relationships to speak of.

On the contrary, single people have a great deal of emotional energy that they can pour into strong friendships and new connections, which means they often have strong social networks to fall back on.

Who needs a relationship when you can have a blast with your two best friends, right?

At the end of the day, it’s all about doing what feels right for you.

While men who don’t need a romantic relationship to be happy tend to have amazing friendships, work on themselves, and be self-sufficient, the most important thing is that they have their priorities straight.

They know what they want. And they won’t settle for something that isn’t aligned with that.

One day, they may find what they’re looking for. But in the meantime… they can manage just fine on their own.

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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