People who were rarely praised as children often grow up to have these 11 traits

Every parent has their own unique parenting style. Some are more reserved in expressing emotions, including praise, while others are more expressive.

Many parents also don’t fully understand the benefits of praise or how to give effective recognition. 

They don’t realize that sincere and specific praise can boost children’s self-esteem and motivation.

Because of this, people who were rarely praised as children often grow up to be quite unique. They’re resilient, don’t seek validation at all (or seek it excessively), and are good at making decisions based on their own assessment.

So, let’s find out what traits they have and why they grow up the way they do. 

1) They depend on themselves more

People who weren’t praised much as kids often learn to do things on their own. I mean, it makes sense, right? 

Whatever they did as kids never got recognized or didn’t get recognized as much as it was supposed to. 

That’s why they become comfortable making decisions and taking action without always needing someone else to tell them what to do.

It’s just easier for them at this point. It also doesn’t matter if their parents were too strict or too lenient. They love depending much more on themselves now. 

Ultimately, they trust themselves to handle whatever comes their way and don’t rely heavily on others for guidance or support.

2) They bounce back easier

Some parents who are strict have specific expectations for their children’s behavior and performance, which influences how much praise they offer. 

They believe that praise should be earned through meeting certain standards or achieving specific goals.

And, frankly, that made their kids tougher today. 

When they face challenges or setbacks, they can quickly bounce back. They’ve learned that they can overcome tough times because they’ve had to do it before.

They also don’t give up easily. Even when things get hard, they keep pushing forward, knowing that their efforts will eventually pay off.

Because they’ve developed a strong sense of self-confidence and inner resilience, they know they can handle whatever life throws at them.

3) They don’t need external praise to keep going

They don’t rely on others constantly telling them they’re doing a good job to stay motivated. 

Instead, they find the drive and determination within themselves to keep moving forward and working toward their goals, even when things get tough.

This inner motivation comes from a sense of purpose, personal satisfaction, or a desire to achieve something meaningful, regardless of whether others acknowledge their efforts.

In other words, they don’t do things for others or when someone’s looking. They don’t expect anything in return for their good deeds and live humble lives. 

4) They’re often more compassionate

Because they know what it’s like to not receive much praise, they can understand and relate to others who might be going through similar experiences. 

Let’s say a friend is feeling down because they didn’t get recognized for their hard work on a project. 

Because they understand what they’re going through, they listen attentively, offer words of encouragement, and empathize with how they’re feeling.

They’re good at listening and offering a helping hand without making anyone feel bad about it.

5) They find unique ways to express themselves

Without constant validation, they learn to think outside the box. They’re not afraid to try new things or come up with unconventional solutions to problems.

For instance, let’s say they’re working on a school project. Instead of sticking to the same old ideas that everyone else is using, they might come up with something totally different and unexpected. 

They’re not afraid to take risks or try new approaches because they’ve learned to trust their own instincts and ideas.

They also love to express their thoughts and emotions through art, music, writing, or even just the way they dress and present themselves. They love to break away from the norm and show the world who they truly are.

6) They don’t seek validation from others as much

Instead of constantly seeking approval and validation from others, they’re comfortable with who they are and what they’ve achieved. 

They don’t feel the need to boast about their accomplishments or constantly seek attention from others to feel good about themselves.

This self-assurance and confidence in their abilities comes from within. They know their own worth and don’t need external validation to validate their sense of self-worth. 

As a result, they’re often more secure in themselves and their abilities (as I already mentioned above), which allows them to go through life with a greater sense of confidence and authenticity.

7) They learn to evaluate their own actions and decisions

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When someone hasn’t received much validation growing up, they get really good at figuring things out for themselves.

So, instead of just going along with whatever everyone else says, they take a step back and think about things carefully. They’re not afraid to question stuff or look at things from different angles.

For example, let’s say someone who hasn’t received much praise is deciding what career to pursue. 

Instead of just following what everyone else is doing or what others think they should do, they take the time to think about their own interests, strengths, and values. 

They explore different options, research job prospects, and consider what would make them happy and fulfilled in the long run.

8) They’re used to figuring things out as they go along

I’ve met both people who fall apart when something major happens and those who stay calm and collected. 

People who were rarely praised as children, more often than not, fall into the second group. 

They’re flexible and can adjust to new situations and challenges easily. They’ve learned to roll with the punches and make the best of whatever comes their way.

So, when something unexpected happens, like a sudden change at work or a new challenge in life, they’re pretty chill about it. They don’t freak out or get stuck in the same old routine.

And that’s an invaluable trait to have these days, isn’t it?

9) They put in the effort 

Most people know that success doesn’t just fall into your lap. It takes hard work and dedication. 

Still, too many people don’t behave like that for some reason. They’re complacent and aren’t willing to roll up their sleeves and put in the hours to make things happen.

But those who were rarely praised as children understand that even when things get tough, it’s their persistence and dedication that will ultimately pay off. 

Whether it’s studying for exams, working on a project, or going after their passions, they’re willing to go the extra mile to reach their goals.

10) They’re not easily swayed by others’ opinions

They also tend to be pretty confident in their own judgment.

They don’t let other people’s opinions dictate their choices or sway them from their own path. Instead, they trust their instincts and have the confidence to make decisions that feel right for them.

Above all, they stay true to themselves and what they believe in. They’re not easily influenced by peer pressure or societal expectations because they know who they are and what they stand for.

They’re not followers. They’re leaders who chart their own course in life.

11) They take charge and lead without needing constant affirmation from others

And lastly, they’re the ones who step up and take charge when things need to get done. 

They don’t need constant praise or validation to do what needs to be done. They just lead by example and inspire others to follow along.

They’re not looking for applause or recognition at every turn. Instead, they earn respect through their actions and the way they carry themselves. 

They’re the kind of people others naturally want to follow because they’re genuine, dependable, and always striving to make a difference.

Final thoughts

So, if you have kids, should you praise them or not? As a parent myself, it’s hard to answer. I look at my son and see the things he does. 

Things that are common and mundane but fill me with joy as he does them, often for the first time ever. 

In these situations, it’s hard not to praise and exclaim, “Bravo!” or “Well done!” 

On the other side, I realize that constant praise perhaps isn’t that beneficial for him and his development. It’s how people came up with those silly participation trophies and taught generations that even not working hard can pay off.

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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