People who recover from heartbreak quicker than others usually have these 10 traits

Getting your heart broken is never fun. In some cases, people never fully recover, and in others, people recover in no time.

The latter group of people is our topic today because there’s a lot we can learn from them, and that can help us deal with our own heartbreak.                                                                                                                                                                    

So, let’s jump right in and discover what traits people who recover from heartbreak quicker than others usually have.

1) They accept that not all relationships are meant to last

Look, life sucks sometimes and hits you with the worst news at the worst possible time. Like when you’re in the middle of important or even groundbreaking work, and your partner tells you they’re breaking up with you.

Still, people who recover from heartbreak quicker aren’t fighting reality. They’re making peace with it. They get that not all relationships last forever.

And ultimately, they know when it’s time to say goodbye and move on. They get back to doing what they love doing.

I’m not saying that’s good for everyone, but some people process emotions that way, and that makes it easier for them to move on quicker. 

2) They can take hits and keep going

One major thing that helps them accept things is that they’ve been through tough times before.

They know they can bounce back from heartbreak, even if it feels like they’ve hit rock bottom.

They don’t let setbacks define them. Instead, they see them as temporary hurdles on the road of life.

And as someone heartbroken many times, I can attest that it does get easier each time. I know it sounds messed up, but as you get older, you’re relatively used to disappointments.

By the time you’re in your thirties or forties, you’ve dealt with many disappointing situations and people and you already have a thicker skin at that point.

3) They’re open to new people and experiences

That said, despite past heartbreaks, people who recover from heartbreak quicker than others are open to new people and experiences.

Although they’re used to dealing with these feelings, they do like to give new people a fair chance. They have a heart that’s ready to love again, even though there’s a big chance they’ll get heartbroken.

You kind of have to be a people person for that, don’t you? For me, personally, meeting new people is a bit exhausting.

You see, when you meet someone new, it’s natural that they want to know a bit about you.

They want to connect with you, and for that, they kind of need to know where you’re coming from – literally and figuratively.

And that means you need to talk about yourself. And this is something I’m not a big fan of. But let’s move on.

4) They find constructive ways to deal with the pain

Getting used to pain means you have a way to deal with it. For some, it’s drowning sorrows in booze or junk food. For others, it’s hitting the gym or talking it out.

People who recover from heartbreak quicker than others have found constructive ways of dealing with it.

It could be going for a long run to clear their head, writing in a journal to sort through their feelings, or seeking therapy to get insight and support.

If you want to be in this category, you need to find what works for you. You don’t want to go from one addiction to another.

The goal is to find healthy and productive ways to cope. Ways that will propel you forward, not backward.

5) Friends and family make a huge difference

And one of the best ways to cope with pain is to surround yourself with friends and family.

That’s why they’ve grown deep connections with friends and family who provide unwavering support during tough times.

These are the people they can call at 3 a.m. when the tears won’t stop flowing, knowing they’ll be met with compassion and understanding.

They’re not alone, even when it feels like the whole world’s turned upside down.

6) Understanding their emotions helps in the healing process

However, if you don’t have self-awareness, you’ll be completely lost after a heartbreak happens.

These people simply have a keen understanding of their own emotions and triggers. They know what sets them off, what brings them peace, and how to navigate the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with heartbreak without losing themselves in the process.

For example, we all have certain songs that remind us of our partners, right? When you hear that song, you’ll automatically think of your partner.

If you want to heal faster, you need to recognize these triggers so you can avoid situations that might stir up painful memories and give yourself space to heal.

They also know what activities help them feel better, whether it’s going to a yoga class, cooking a favorite meal, or spending time with loved ones.

These activities serve as outlets for processing emotions and finding moments of joy amid the pain.

7) They see the silver lining instead of dwelling on the negative

Hopeful People who recover from heartbreak quicker than others usually have these 10 traits

Even in the darkest moments, they hold onto hope. So, after a breakup, instead of fixating on what went wrong and feeling defeated, they focus on the newfound freedom to explore their own interests and passions without compromise.

Instead of succumbing to bitterness or resentment towards their ex-partner, they choose to forgive and let go of negativity.

Let’s be frank, holding onto grudges only delays your healing and prevents you from moving forward in a positive direction.

Too many people fall into this trap of feeling resentment toward their exes. But to recover from heartbreak quicker, you need to actively seek out the positives in every situation, no matter how challenging, and use them as stepping stones towards a brighter future.

8) They use the experience to learn and grow

As I already mentioned, each heartbreak is a bit easier than the one before. I can say the same about getting fired from a job or any other similar situation.

And, yes, I do realize that that’s not true for everyone, but it is for those who actually learn from their (and other’s) experiences.

So, instead of wallowing in self-pity, they use heartbreak as an opportunity for personal development.

They reflect on what went wrong, what they’ve learned, and how they can become a better version of themselves as a result.

And that’s the only way to live life. If you don’t learn something new each day, you’ll be spinning your wheels in no time.

Here’s another important trait:

9) They don’t rely solely on a relationship for happiness

They also understand that their worth isn’t tied to their relationship status. They’re comfortable being alone, finding fulfillment in their own company, hobbies, and passions.

When you’ve been with someone for a long time, you start realizing that you do everything together. And as much as it’s good, it’s also bad and harmful for your independence.

People who do everything together in a relationship find breakups are much harder on them. They simply lost all their independence somewhere along the road.

But those who recover quicker never lost their independence. They still spent quality time with their partner, but they also did things on their own.

10) They’re adaptable

When you have a mindset that lets you welcome change with open arms, you know that change is an inevitable part of life.

People with that kind of mindset are adaptable and resilient, able to roll with the punches and come out stronger on the other side.

For them, heartbreaks come and go, and they always come on top. That doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings or empathy. It simply means they roll with the punches easier and more efficient.

Still, when they feel they need to, they do take some time for healing.

Final thoughts

Whenever I got my heart broken, I took some time off and gathered my thoughts and emotions.

I didn’t bury myself with work, but I also didn’t stop completely in my tracks.

Most of the time, you just need to give yourself the space and time you need to heal, without rushing the process.

To recover quicker, you need to understand that healing is a journey, not a destination and that it’s okay to take as much time as you need to mend your broken heart.

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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