People who never feel satisfied in life usually display these 11 patterns of behavior

For some, being content in life is easy. They don’t need much – a place to live, some free time, and people who care for them.

And then we have people who have everything their heart wishes, yet they never seem to be happy, satisfied, and grateful. 

There are many reasons I could list here, from unfulfilled inner needs and comparisons to others to the hedonic treadmill and lack of meaning and purpose.

So, let’s see what patterns of behavior people who never feel satisfied in life usually display. 

1) They’re always searching for the next thing, never content with what they have

These folks are always on the hunt for the next big thing, whether it’s a new job, a bigger house, or the latest gadget. 

They’re never satisfied with what they have because they’re always thinking about what they could have instead.

Essentially, humans tend to quickly adapt to new circumstances, whether they’re positive or negative. 

So, even if someone achieves their heart’s desires, they might quickly get used to their new situation and start longing for even more.

Consumerism doesn’t help either, as we’re peer-pressured and bombarded with ads to get the next shiny object. 

2) They measure their success and happiness based on others

They’re also always looking at what other people have and feeling like they come up short. 

Whether it’s their friends’ Instagram posts or their co-workers’ promotions, they measure their own success and happiness against others, which often makes them feel terrible.

But look, comparison was around before Instagram, too, right? You had to keep up with the Joneses for the last hundred years if not more. 

I can also imagine a Neanderthal being jealous of their group leader, or the one in a bigger cave, to exaggerate a bit. It’s just how many of us are.

If you want to be happy, look inward for that feeling. Let others live their lives as they wish. Which brings me to the following:

3) They fail to appreciate the good things in their life and focus only on what’s missing

These are the folks who have a hard time appreciating the good things in their lives. Instead of counting their blessings, they focus on what’s missing or what’s gone wrong, which makes them unfulfilled and unhappy.

So, for example, even though they have a loving partner who cares for them deeply, they fixate on minor flaws or disagreements in the relationship. 

Instead of cherishing the love and support they receive, they dwell on what they perceive as missing or lacking in their relationship.

Or, despite owning a comfortable home, a reliable car, and plenty of possessions, they constantly desire more

They feel envious of others who have bigger houses, fancier cars, or the latest gadgets instead of appreciating what they already have.

And that’s incredibly common these days, isn’t it?

4) They have impossibly high standards and are never satisfied with anything less than perfect

Look, I’m no perfectionist, but some things that don’t turn out exactly as I envisioned them to ruin my day easily. 

Similarly, some people who never feel satisfied in life are the ones who can’t stand anything less than perfect. 

They set ridiculously high standards for themselves and others, and when things inevitably don’t measure up, they feel disappointed and dissatisfied.

5) They’re afraid to take risks or try new things

I truly believe that taking calculated risks pays back tenfold. Not just in a material sense but in the experience you get by jumping into something, perhaps not fully prepared, but with certain positive expectations. 

On the other hand, people who aren’t satisfied with life are often the ones who are terrified of messing up or falling short of expectations, so they often play it safe and avoid taking risks. 

But playing it safe means missing out on opportunities for growth and fulfillment. For example, they stay in the same job for years, even if they’re not happy because they’re scared to try something new and worry about failing in a new role.

That was me.

Or they avoid dating or putting themselves out there because they’re afraid of rejection or getting hurt, so they miss out on potential relationships. 

I have friends who are like that. 

As you can see, you don’t have to search far and wide to find someone who doesn’t take risks, even when the status quo is harmful to them. 

6) They expect life to be smooth sailing and are disappointed when it’s not

people who never get satisfied People who never feel satisfied in life usually display these 11 patterns of behavior

I know life isn’t smooth sailing, and you know that. But there are those who do have this idea that life should be smooth sailing, with no bumps in the road. 

That’s why, when things don’t go according to plan, they feel let down and disillusioned instead of rolling with the punches and adapting to change.

They get depressed, and in turn, they don’t try to change their mindset or life in general. 

7) They second-guess themselves and struggle to make decisions

They also second-guess themselves constantly, worrying about making the wrong choice. However,  indecision often leads to missed opportunities and regrets, which only adds to their feelings of dissatisfaction.

But it can have seriously harmful consequences, too:

If you’re indecisive about your health, like putting off doctor visits or ignoring symptoms, it could lead to bigger health issues down the road because you didn’t take action early.

And if you can’t choose a major or decide whether to go back to school, you might end up stuck in a job you don’t like or miss out on career opportunities that require further education.

8) They’re always complaining or finding fault with their circumstances

You know, being a negative Nelly is something I was known for. But now, just like a reformed smoker, I tell others how harmful it can be.

This constant focus on the negative prevents us from fully appreciating the good things in our lives.

When I wasn’t happy in life, I was always complaining or finding fault with my circumstances, even when things were going relatively well. 

It didn’t matter that I was finally in a nice apartment, had my dream car from years ago, and a woman who loved me. 

Until I pinpointed exactly what was missing, I wasn’t content.

9) They don’t have a clear sense of purpose or direction in life

Without a clear purpose or direction, you may struggle to find motivation to pursue your goals and dreams. This can result in a lack of drive and enthusiasm for both personal and professional ambitions.

I think you see where this is going. Many people who are eternally unsatisfied don’t have a clear sense of what they’re working toward or why they’re doing what they’re doing. 

Without a sense of purpose, it’s easy to feel adrift and unsatisfied, no matter how successful they may seem on the outside.

10) They dwell on past mistakes or worry excessively about the future

How much time are you spending dwelling on past mistakes or worrying about what might happen in the future instead of focusing on the present moment? 

I know that if I do that, I end up feeling super stressed and anxious.

Life happens in the here and now, so if you can’t be in the present, you rob yourself of the joy and fulfillment that can be found in the moment.

You might also make some pretty bad decisions because you’re too busy thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

11) They’re too critical of themselves, which can erode self-esteem and lead to dissatisfaction

Many times, we’re our worst critics, right? And if you constantly beat yourself up for your perceived flaws or mistakes, you’ll never be happy. 

But constant self-criticism only erodes self-esteem and makes us feel even more dissatisfied with ourselves and our lives.

For example, feeling like a failure as a parent for every perceived misstep or parenting decision that didn’t go as planned.

Or, when you miss out on a workout and eat some bad food, you beat yourself up instead of simply doing a workout tomorrow and eating healthier for the rest of the week. 

Final thoughts

Look, you may never be truly happy. No matter what you achieve in life, you’ll always want more and more.

That’s why I recommend you embrace the journey and not the destination. If you love working, work. If you love spending more time with your family, then do that. 

And if playing video games all day makes you truly happy, who is anyone to judge you for it.  

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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