People who never feel content in life often display these subtle behaviors (without realizing it)

Hey there, reader! Ever met someone who, no matter what, never seems quite satisfied? They could be on top of the world, but still, something’s missing.

Interestingly, this unease isn’t always out in the open. It’s often hidden in small habits that people don’t realize they’re showing.

In this article, we’ll uncover these sneaky signs that someone’s always craving more from life.

You might catch a glimpse of these behaviors in yourself or someone you know. Excited? Let’s dive right in!

1) They’re always looking for the next best thing

First up on our list is an interesting trait. People who never feel content often have a habit of constantly seeking the ‘next big thing’. It could be a new job, a new car, a new relationship, or even a new city to live in.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with seeking growth and improvement. However, for these individuals, it’s different. They’re not just seeking growth; they’re chasing an elusive sense of satisfaction that always seems to be one step ahead.

They might have a great job, but they’re already eyeing the next promotion or a position at a ‘better’ company. They might be in a loving relationship, but they’re fantasizing about how life could be with someone else. This constant looking ahead often prevents them from truly appreciating what they have right now.

2) They struggle to live in the moment

Next on our list is the inability to stay present and enjoy the moment. People who are never satisfied often find themselves stuck in the past or daydreaming about the future.

Whether they’re reminiscing about ‘the good old days’ or fretting over what tomorrow might bring, their mind is anywhere but here and now. This makes it hard for them to find joy in everyday moments or appreciate the simple pleasures of life.

For instance, they might be at a party with friends but spend the entire evening worrying about an upcoming meeting. Or they might be on a beautiful vacation, only to keep thinking about what they’ll do once they’re back home. This constant diversion of attention away from the present moment can be a subtle sign of never feeling truly content.

3) They often compare themselves to others

Coming up next is a behavior that I, too, have found myself guilty of – the comparison game. Those who are never quite content frequently measure their worth or success against those around them.

Let me share a personal example. A few years ago, I found myself constantly comparing my life with my peers. If a friend got a promotion, I’d feel a pang of envy rather than happiness for them. If someone went on an exotic vacation, I’d secretly wish it were me instead. It was as if their achievements were somehow a reflection of my inadequacies.

I realized over time that this constant comparison was robbing me of my own joy and contentment. It wasn’t about what I lacked but rather about how I perceived my own life in relation to others’. This behavior can be an indication of never feeling fully satisfied with one’s own life or achievements.

4) They constantly need validation from others

Moving on, another subtle sign of people who never feel content is their constant need for validation from others. They often rely on external approval to feel good about themselves and their achievements.

Now for an interesting fact: Studies show that, individuals who heavily rely on external validation are more likely to experience lower self-esteem and higher levels of stress and anxiety.

If you notice someone continuously seeking reassurance or validation for their actions or decisions, it might be a sign that they’re struggling to find contentment within themselves.

5) They find it hard to express gratitude

Another subtle behavior of those who never feel fully content is their struggle to express genuine gratitude. It’s not that they’re ungrateful or unappreciative, but their focus on ‘what’s next’ or ‘what’s lacking’ often overshadows their ability to appreciate what they have.

Let’s take a moment here. Imagine you have a friend who has always been there for you, someone who has stood by your side through thick and thin. But in your constant quest for something more, you overlook the value of this unwavering friendship.

This happens more often than we think. In the rush and hustle of life, the treasures right in front of us are sometimes ignored. Gratitude is a powerful practice that can bring immense peace and contentment, yet its absence is often a sign of an underlying discontentment with life.

6) They’re never fully satisfied with their achievements

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This next point hits close to home for me. Often, people who never feel content struggle to find satisfaction in their own achievements. No matter how significant the accomplishment may be, it never seems quite enough.

I remember when I published my first book. It was a dream come true, something I’d worked tirelessly towards for years. Yet, instead of basking in the joy of my accomplishment, I found myself immediately thinking about the next one. I was already planning my second book before I had even taken the time to celebrate my first.

This constant need to achieve more, to keep pushing without taking a moment to appreciate what’s been accomplished, is a classic sign of never feeling quite content in life. It’s a lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way: sometimes, it’s important to pause, celebrate, and truly appreciate our achievements before moving onto the next thing.

7) They often feel restless

Let’s cut to the chase: Another telling sign of those who never quite feel content is a constant sense of restlessness. This isn’t your run-of-the-mill, can’t-sit-still for a moment type of restlessness. It’s a deep, gnawing feeling that something’s missing, something more needs to be done.

Imagine having a decent job, a loving family, good health, and yet lying awake at night with an unsettling feeling in your gut. That feeling that you should be doing more, achieving more, being more.

It’s a tough pill to swallow. But this relentless restlessness, this inability to just be at peace, is a clear sign of never feeling truly content. It’s like constantly trying to fill a bucket with a hole at the bottom. No matter how much you put in, it never feels quite full.

8) They struggle with perfectionism

Next on our list is a trait that many might not immediately link to discontentment: perfectionism. People who are never quite content often struggle with an incessant need to make everything perfect.

It’s eye-opening to know that perfectionism can lead to increased levels of stress, anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.

So, if you notice someone always striving for perfection, unable to accept mistakes or flaws, it might be a subtle sign of their struggle to find contentment. It’s as if they believe that achieving perfection will finally bring them the satisfaction they crave, not realizing that the journey towards perfection is an endless one.

9) They have a hard time saying no

This next one is something I’ve personally struggled with: the difficulty of saying ‘no’. Often, people who never feel quite content find themselves taking on too much. They say yes to every opportunity, every invitation, every request, in the hope that it might lead them to the satisfaction they’re seeking.

I remember a time when I would agree to nearly everything asked of me, no matter how full my plate was. I believed that if I just did one more thing, took on one more project, helped one more person, then maybe I would finally feel content. But all it led to was burnout and an even deeper sense of dissatisfaction.

Learning to say no, to set boundaries and prioritize my own well-being, was a hard but necessary step towards finding a sense of peace and contentment in my life.

10) They constantly feel underappreciated

Let’s not sugarcoat it: individuals who are seldom content often feel a deep sense of being underappreciated. No matter how much they do or achieve, they feel their efforts go unnoticed or undervalued by those around them.

Imagine pouring your heart and soul into your work, your relationships, only to feel like it’s never acknowledged or appreciated enough. This relentless feeling of being undervalued can be both disheartening and exhausting, further fueling feelings of discontentment.

11) They find it hard to find joy in simplicity

Last but definitely not least, people who struggle with contentment often find it tough to derive joy from simple things. A beautiful sunset, a heartfelt conversation with a friend, a quiet evening at home – these simple pleasures often fail to bring them the joy they seek.

Life isn’t always about the grand gestures or big achievements. Sometimes, it’s the simple things that bring us the most happiness. But for those constantly seeking more, these moments can often be overlooked or undervalued.

In all honesty, learning to appreciate simplicity can be a significant step towards finding contentment. But for those who are stuck in the endless cycle of wanting more, this can be an incredibly challenging shift to make!

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Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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