People who lack self-love often have these 9 daily habits (without knowing it)

There’s a significant link between our daily habits and the way we perceive ourselves.

Many times, we unknowingly engage in habits that reflect our lack of self-love.

It could be in the way we treat ourselves, or how we allow others to treat us.

People who lack self-love often repeat certain patterns every day without even realizing it.

And these habits, though subtle, can have a huge impact on our self-esteem and overall well-being.

Today, I’ll be shedding some light on these everyday behaviors.

It’s time to understand how our habits might be revealing more about our relationship with ourselves than we think.

Let’s get started!

1) Neglecting personal needs

One of the most common traits among people who lack self-love is the tendency to neglect their personal needs.

We all have our daily tasks and responsibilities that we need to fulfill.

But, when you lack self-love, there’s a tendency to prioritize everyone else’s needs over your own.

You might find yourself skipping meals, neglecting exercise, or even compromising on sleep to cater to others’ demands.

This habit not only reflects a lack of self-love but also reinforces it.

By continually placing ourselves at the bottom of our priority list, we send ourselves a subconscious message that our needs are not important.

So, if you find yourself regularly ignoring your personal needs for the sake of others, it could be a sign that you’re lacking self-love.

And it’s crucial to take notice and start practicing self-care, because after all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

2) Over-apologizing

Another habit that’s a telltale sign of lacking self-love is over-apologizing.

I’ve personally experienced this, and I can tell you it’s a tough habit to break.

A few years ago, I found myself saying sorry for everything.

If someone bumped into me, I’d apologize. If someone didn’t understand my explanation, I’d apologize.

If someone didn’t like my idea, I’d apologize. It was as if I felt the need to apologize for my very existence.

This constant need to apologize stemmed from a deep-seated belief that I was always in the wrong or at fault.

It took some time and introspection to realize that this was a symptom of lacking self-love, and even longer to break the habit.

Over-apologizing can make us feel small and insignificant.

It’s important to recognize this habit and work towards breaking it.

3) Negative self-talk

We all have that little voice inside our head, the one that chatters away all day, providing a running commentary on our lives.

Unfortunately, for people who lack self-love, this voice often tends to be overly critical and negative.

Studies show that our self-talk can significantly influence our mood, behavior, and even our physical health.

Negative self-talk can lead to increased stress levels, lower self-esteem, and a higher risk of depression.

If your internal dialogue is mostly critical and focusing on your faults and failures, it’s a clear sign of lacking self-love.

It’s important to be aware of this habit and consciously work on shifting towards more positive and compassionate self-talk.

4) Always seeking validation

We all like to be appreciated and validated from time to time.

It’s a natural human need.

However, when the need for external validation becomes excessive, it could be a sign of lacking self-love.

People who lack self-love often find themselves constantly seeking approval from others.

They may find it difficult to make decisions without others’ input or constantly feel the need to prove themselves to feel accepted.

This habit can be emotionally draining and can lead to a constant cycle of feeling inadequate.

It’s crucial to recognize and break this pattern, learning to trust your own judgment and understanding that your worth is not dependent on others’ opinions.

5) Avoiding self-reflection

Avoiding self reflection People who lack self-love often have these 9 daily habits (without knowing it)

Self-reflection is a powerful tool that helps us understand ourselves better.

However, for people who lack self-love, the idea of looking inward and facing their thoughts and feelings can be daunting.

Avoiding self-reflection means that we’re choosing to stay on the surface, avoiding the deeper issues that might be causing us discomfort.

This can lead to a lack of self-awareness and hinder personal growth.

If you find yourself constantly avoiding quiet time alone or brushing off opportunities to introspect, it might be a sign of lacking self-love.

Embrace the thought that growth starts with self-awareness and facing our fears and insecurities head-on.

6) Settling for less

This one hits close to home for many of us.

When you lack self-love, you often believe that you’re not deserving of the best.

This leads to settling for less than you deserve, be it in relationships, careers or even your personal goals.

Believing that you’re not worthy enough can lead you into accepting situations and relationships that are far from fulfilling.

You might find yourself in a job that you’re not passionate about, or in a relationship that doesn’t respect and value you, simply because you don’t believe that you deserve better.

It’s heart-breaking to see people settle for less out of a lack of self-love.

Remember, you are deserving of all the happiness and success in the world. Don’t settle for anything less than what makes your heart truly content.

7) Overworking

There was a time when I thought that working around the clock was a badge of honor.

Burning the midnight oil, skipping meals, and pushing myself beyond my limits were all part of what I believed was the path to success.

This overworking was actually a manifestation of my lack of self-love.

I was trying to prove my worth through my work, equating productivity with self-worth.

It took a toll on my physical and mental health, and it took me a while to realize that this was not healthy or sustainable.

Overworking is often a sign of lacking self-love.

If you find yourself relentlessly pushing beyond your limits at the expense of your health and wellbeing, it’s time to reassess.

8) Ignoring compliments

A sweet word or a heartfelt compliment can make anyone’s day.

However, for people who lack self-love, receiving compliments can be quite uncomfortable.

Often, they’ll dismiss the compliment, downplay their achievements, or even deflect it with a self-deprecating joke.

This is because they genuinely struggle to believe that they could be deserving of praise.

9) Neglecting your passions

At the heart of self-love is embracing who you truly are, and that includes your passions and interests.

People who lack self-love often neglect their passions, either due to a lack of time, or because they believe they’re not good enough.

Your passions are what make you unique.

They bring joy, purpose, and meaning to your life.

Neglecting them is like denying a part of yourself.

If you’ve been neglecting your passions, it’s time to reconnect with them.

Dive into that book, strum that guitar, hit the dance floor. Your passions are a part of you, and embracing them is a step towards self-love.

Final thoughts: It starts with awareness

Your daily habits and patterns reveal more about you than you might realize.

They are like mirrors reflecting your relationship with yourself.

The first step towards self-love is awareness.

Recognizing these habits that reflect a lack of self-love is the beginning of a transformative journey.

It’s important to remember that self-love isn’t merely about pampering yourself or indulging in materialistic pleasures.

It runs deeper, into the realm of self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-care.

Breaking these habits won’t happen overnight.

But remember, each small step you take towards loving yourself a little more is a step in the right direction.

In the words of Buddha, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”.

Let that sink in.

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Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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