People who grew up too fast usually display these 17 traits (without realizing it)

Those who grew up too fast are different from those who were given a lot of time to be a kid. 

Unlike children who were given time and space to explore their imagination, creativity and adventurous spirit, these individuals were asked to take on responsibility from a young age. 

They were hit with the harsh facts of life right away, either by parental choice or by circumstances out of anyone’s control such as the loss of a primary caregiver, serious illness or an unexpected tragedy.

What impact does it have to grow up too fast?

The answer is twofold: 

There are many ways in which they mature faster and take on more responsibility than those with fuller childhoods, but there are also ways in which they are limited and repressed.

Let’s take a look at the positives and negatives of those who grew up too fast. Let’s start with the positives… 

1) They stick to their schedule

Those who grew up too fast tend to be very self-disciplined. 

They were expected to follow a schedule from a young age and that’s carried over into adulthood. 

Expect them to also be:

  • Punctual
  • Committed
  • Early risers

2) They are highly organized

From a young age, this individual learned to handle their daily chores and responsibilities. 

This means they are highly organized

This relates back to being committed to a schedule and also includes:

  • Planning ahead
  • Keeping track of other people’s schedules who they care for
  • Having contingency plans for what to do if something goes wrong

Which brings me to the next point… 

3) They take responsibility

They may not themselves, but those who grew up too fast do take responsibility more than many of their peers. 

They stick to their word and are willing to take leadership when necessary. 

If there’s a failure at work they own up to it. If there are areas to improve they do their best to do so. 

4) They don’t shy away from problems

Those who grew up too fast were never able to spend much time in the pleasant embrace of childhood. 

They were forced to face problems and harsh realities early on. 

They continue to have that attitude and don’t shy away from problems. When there’s a problem they do their best to confront it instead of running away or trying to get somebody else to handle it. 

5) They tackle challenges with zeal 

When there is a challenge, this individual goes at it with zeal. 

From a young age they were never given much leeway in the way of sympathy or denial, so they don’t try either. 

Instead, they do their best to put their full effort against any obstacle in their path.

This relates directly to the next point… 

6) They look for solutions, not excuses

Being asked to grow up very fast leads to the opposite of a victim mindset

Those who weren’t given time to just be kids are aimed at finding a solution. They don’t bother with excuses. 

From a young age, nobody wanted their excuses or listened to them, so they focus on results instead of the reasons they can’t or don’t want to address a problem. 

7) They avoid unnecessary drama

Kids who grew up too fast are allergic to drama. 

They learned early in life to make their actions count louder than their words, and that reflects in how they handle stress and deal with other people. 

They don’t bother arguing over nothing or gossipping. They’re not interested in being popular or getting praise. 

They just want to be competent and do what’s expected of them.

Speaking of competence…

8) They are strategic and pragmatic

Kids who grew into adults too fast are usually highly pragmatic

They wash the dishes and check that the gas is full on the car. They also plan ahead of the future and make sure they’re looking after everyone who relies on them. 

They think of how to get a promotion at their career and tend to be good at looking out for their own self-interest and networking with the right people. 

9) They value hard work and money

if someone displays these behaviors theyre likely a deep thinker People who grew up too fast usually display these 17 traits (without realizing it)

When somebody grows up fast a lot of the comfort and imagination of childhood is denied to them. 

Nowhere is this more true than in an economic sense:

They are asked right away to be productive members of society and to recognize that nothing comes free. 

As a result they tend to work very hard and be financially responsible. 

Now we come to the less ideal aspects of those who were forced to grow up too fast…

10) They are quite self-critical 

Those who didn’t get much time to grow up tend to be quite self-critical

They were asked to put a lot on their plate right away, and they pushed themselves down in the process.

They feel like they’re fighting an uphill battle in life, and anything that doesn’t go well tends to be something they ultimately blame themselves for, unfortunately.

11) They may stifle their creative side

Creativity is a beautiful quality that many children have, but those who grew up too fast were often made to push down their creative side. 

That’s something that tends to continue into adulthood. They may feel that their other responsibilities in life don’t leave time for exploring creativity. 

They may also feel shame or hesitancy in creativity being valuable or necessary due to early life impressions that being “just a kid” isn’t of much value.

12) They downplay their own emotions

Emotions in general are something that these folks may struggle with. 

They tend to downplay and repress their own emotions because they were asked by life or authority figures to grow up very rapidly. 

Emotions just got in the way of that. So they pushed them down. And many continue to do so, even raising their own kids with the lesson that what you feel really doesn’t matter.

13) They tend toward people pleasing

People pleasing is another way that those who grew up too fast often self-sabotage themselves.

If they were raised by very strict or controlling parents, they often internalize this message and continue approval seeking in later life. 

They want to ensure they are “good enough” or live up to what others expect. Their own needs come last; pleasing others comes first. 

On that note… 

14) They seek the approval of authority

Those who grew up too fast often seek approval from authority. 

As a kid they may have been ordered to fall in line and obey orders. They were likely told to be a “good kid”, and keep their mouth shut. 

They learned from a young age to do what authority asks, so they continue that lesson into adulthood, seeking out authority figures who tell them what they should do.

15) They devalue their own judgments

Concurrent with the above trend toward authority worship, those who grew up too fast often distrust their own intuition and judgments. 

They may feel strongly about something or have doubts, but they tend to dismiss their own insights. 

“Well, my own opinion doesn’t matter much,” they tell themselves. 

16) They don’t ‘treat themselves’ often

Those who grew up too fast are usually fairly minimalistic

They’re not the type to take a vacation for very long or go on a spa weekend. 

Even if they have free time they use it to work. They usually cook at home instead of going out. They avoid spending much money even if they have plenty. They wear shoes until they’re starting to fall apart. 

In short, they’re often quite averse to treating themselves. 

17) They regret not having a longer childhood

People who grew up too fast tend to have certain advantages in life and in the level of responsibility they can handle. 

But they are also prone to a certain kind of unique regret. 

They wish they’d had a longer childhood and may feel a sense of loss about the kinds of experiences and depth of childhood that others had which they didn’t. 

Childhood is a special time. Time that can’t be gotten back, and when somebody was made to grow up too fast they often have this lifelong sense that they missed out on a special, one-time experience. 

Paul Brian

Paul Brian

Paul R. Brian is a freelance journalist and writer who has reported from around the world, focusing on religion, culture and geopolitics. Follow him on and visit his website at

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