People who feel anxious in social situations usually have these 7 character traits

“Why is everybody looking at me?” “I think I’m underdressed, or maybe I just don’t fit in?” 

When you experience social anxiety, you feel like every part of you is under a magnifying glass. You can’t think straight because you become preoccupied with what other people think of you. 

I can relate because I’ve experienced social anxiety myself, and it’s not fun at all. It stops you from meeting new people or stepping out of your comfort zone because your fear overwhelms you. 

The truth is that some individuals are more prone to going through this type of stress than others because people who feel anxious in social situations usually have these 7 character traits. 

Let’s break down these traits so that you can get a better understanding of social anxiety. 

1) They’re introverted

You would expect someone who has social anxiety to be more on the introverted side because they don’t like to spend long periods in company. 

If you aren’t familiar with introversion, it’s not about hiding away and having no friends. It’s about choosing to be alone because that’s what you prefer. 

When it comes to being social, however, it’s just not your cup of tea. If you can avoid a group or crowd, then that’s what you would do because it’s too taxing on your emotions to get caught up in the lives of others. You have your own life to live, after all. 

We know that introverts like to be on their own, but where does anxiety in social situations stem from? 

It stems from fear. 

Because you experience so much strain in group settings, you avoid them altogether. So, when you feel anxiety in social situations, and you value your solitude, you probably have an introverted character trait. 

2) They’re shy

As a teenager, I was quite shy, and as I matured, I thought I’d overcome a lot of my insecurities. This included caring so much about what everyone else thought. 

But it only took one situation for me to realize that I was still the same unsure person that I had always been. 

Let me explain. 

Shyness doesn’t mean that you don’t want to make friends or be the life of the party when you’re out and about. The best way I can explain it is that it’s an unjustified fear that becomes a repetitive voice in your head. This “voice” or feeling tells you that you can’t do anything or that no one likes you. 

You find that you blush easily or don’t make too much eye contact because you’re trying to avoid interactions with other people and protect yourself from being hurt. 

It’s easy to see why shy people or those with this character trait are misconstrued as being off or rude. If someone doesn’t understand that you’re shy under social circumstances, they’ll believe that you have no interest, which isn’t true. 

As a shy person, you also doubt yourself a lot of the time, and this makes it hard to push yourself or be more open and friendly with the people you meet. 

3) They struggle with emotional regulation

Worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet doesn’t get you very far. But for some people, they simply cannot stop worrying about the things they cannot control. It gets so bad that they fret to the point of making themselves sick. 

People who have emotional instability find it challenging to cope when they become anxious and nervous. When things in their lives go wrong, they feel like their world is coming to a standstill, making it impossible to just be themselves and cope with pressure and change. 

So think about this… 

In social settings, your anxiety reaches unbearable levels and takes over your thoughts and behavior. It’s like mind control, and the more you try to think of ways to calm yourself down, the greater your panic and stress become. 

Physically, some people get shaky or experience a dry mouth, making it hard to get their words out. Unfortunately, once this feeling of dread starts, it becomes a vicious cycle that gets worse until you remove yourself or start avoiding social events altogether. 

4) They’re self-conscious

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Some people couldn’t care less about what the next person thinks of them. Then, on the other end of the social scale, some individuals care too much! 

In a social situation, self-conscious and highly self-aware people tend to spend too much time figuring out how others perceive them. One thing’s for sure: with this trait, you don’t see things for what they really are. 

You’re under the impression that you’re being judged by everyone in the room. From the way you eat to the way you speak, it’s as if every part of your behavior is being dissected by people you don’t know. 

The problem with this perception is that self-conscious people reinforce what they’re thinking by telling themselves that they’re being stared at or laughed at. 

Their body language also changes, and they make very little eye contact with people they don’t know. Most times, they physically withdraw by keeping their arms crossed and their heads down. 

Others might perceive them as rude, but it’s not that. They experience all of the symptoms of self-conscious behavior when they feel anxious

It’s difficult to overcome self-consciousness, and if this is something that you’re battling with, the best step is to work on your mindset. Quit placing so much emphasis on what everyone else thinks of you. 

5) They’re neurotic

Do you get to a point where even the smallest challenges that come your way create frustration and stress? 

And I’m not talking about a once-off event that most people would find challenging. I’m talking about everyday little things that get to you, and it happens because you struggle to adapt to change. 

People who have neurotic personality traits battle to regulate their emotional state, and they get overwhelmed very easily. This makes it incredibly difficult for them to participate socially because there’s always a concern that something is going to go wrong. 

They also play out scenarios in their minds as to how a meeting, date, or event could play out, which creates more anxiety. 

6) They have low self-esteem

Low self-esteem usually goes hand-in-hand with social anxiety. How can you feel bold and adventurous enough in social situations when you don’t believe in yourself? 

It’s a tough pill to swallow, but people who can’t relax and engage in social circumstances usually have little faith in their abilities. They believe that everyone else can see their flaws, and this creates a fear that people won’t accept them. 

It’s like being the one who’s chosen last for the team, which is also sadly a true story in my case; nevertheless, a lack of self-esteem can make it hard to be talkative and vibrant when you’re terrified of being criticized and rejected. 

Let’s say that you’re out with a few friends, and they decide to approach people you haven’t met before. You introduce yourself and notice that they’re barely talking to or looking at you but holding great conversation with your friends. Then you think it’s probably because they don’t like you. 

Unfortunately, acting withdrawn creates the impression that you aren’t interested. Your self-doubt stops you from being yourself, but other people don’t know this, and they don’t bother making an effort. 

It has nothing to do with them not liking you because they don’t know you. 

7) They avoid situations

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It’s easier to hang back and follow the crowd than to be a part of it and draw attention to yourself. In other words, it’s easier to avoid being social than to put yourself through the panic and fear of being disliked or making a mistake. 

People who have an avoidant character trait try to protect themselves in social settings by making excuses or leaving events early because they’re trying to ease their anxiety. 

This way of thinking can become so limiting that it stops you from going after the things that you really want in life. 

For example: 

You want to move up in your career, but you never apply when the annual promotion comes up because you fear that you’ll fail. In terms of relationships, you don’t pursue connections because you think that no one will be interested in you. 

The problem with an avoidant personality trait is that you fill your head with half-truths and whole lies. You tell yourself that you can’t do something or that someone won’t approve of you, so you don’t even try.

Avoidance is self-sabotage because it stops you from growing on an emotional level. 

Final thoughts

Remember that we all experience anxiety, whether we’re meeting someone new or preparing for an interview. The issue is when your anxiety becomes so severe in a social setting that you start to mentally shut down. 

Behaviors, including sweating, shaking, and what feels like your heart is about to jump out of your chest, are all linked to anxiety, and these become much worse when you’re around other people. 

While there are 7 character traits that you can look out for if you are affected by anxiety in social situations, it’s ultimately up to you to tackle those irrational fears and thoughts that are holding you back so you can make positive changes

Marcel Deer

Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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