People who enjoy solitude have these 10 unique traits

Ever been told you’re a bit of an oddball for enjoying your own company?

Well, let us tell you something: it’s not odd, it’s actually pretty awesome.

You see, solitude isn’t about being antisocial or shy; it’s about cherishing and enjoying your own company.

And those who relish this alone time often share certain unique traits.


We thought so!

So grab a cup of tea, sit back and let’s delve into the fascinating world of solitude enthusiasts.

1. They Know Themselves Well

Here’s an interesting thing about folks who love their alone time – they really know themselves.

And we’re not talking about knowing their favorite color or their go-to pizza topping (although they probably know that too).

We mean they understand their innermost thoughts, feelings, and reactions.

When you spend a lot of time alone, you have more opportunities to tune into your mind, to figure out what makes you tick.

You get to explore your likes and dislikes, your fears and dreams, without the influence or judgment of others. 

So, while some might see solitude as lonely, these folks see it as a chance to become their own best friend.

They’re incredibly self-aware and that’s a trait that can really take you places in life. It helps you make decisions that are true to who you are and can lead to greater personal satisfaction.

2. They Can Do Things On Their Own

You know how some people always seem to need a friend or family member to tag along with them, whether it’s for shopping or even a doctor’s appointment?

Well, for those who enjoy their own company, that’s rarely the case. They’re pros at doing things on their own.

Being comfortable in your own company often translates into being independent and self-reliant, which is why these folks aren’t afraid to tackle life’s responsibilities solo.

They trust their abilities, make their own decisions and aren’t overly reliant on the opinions or approval of others.

And it’s not just about taking care of day-to-day tasks. They are also comfortable with making big decisions by themselves.

They’ve got the confidence and self-assuredness that comes from truly knowing oneself (remember point one?).

So while they appreciate the input and company of others, they don’t need it to function. They can stand on their own two feet, thank you very much!

3. They Have Great Ideas

This one hits close to home because I consider myself a fan of solitude.

And let me tell you – some of my best ideas have come to me when I’m alone.

You see, when you’re by yourself, there are no distractions or interruptions. Your mind is free to wander and explore new ideas.

It’s like giving your brain the space and peace it needs to think outside the box.

For instance, I remember this one time when I was tasked with coming up with a new marketing strategy for work.

I was sitting in team meetings, brainstorming sessions, having back-and-forths with colleagues – but nothing was clicking.

The ideas were good, but they weren’t great.

Then one day, during my alone time, while I was out on a solitary walk in the park, it hit me — a completely fresh and innovative approach that no one had thought of before!

It was like the quiet and solitude had cleared my mind and opened it up to new possibilities.

That’s the beauty of solitude – it fosters creativity.

It allows your mind the freedom to think differently, to come up with unique solutions and ideas that you might not have thought of in a room full of people.

4. They Understand Others

Here’s an interesting fact. Did you know that spending time alone can actually make you more empathetic? 

It seems ironic, but it’s true — people who enjoy being alone often have a deeper understanding of others’ feelings.

Solitude provides them with the time and space to reflect on not just their own experiences, but also those of others.

They can step into another person’s shoes, imagine their experiences, and feel their emotions.

Interestingly, this study showed that lonely participants had higher empathy, while non-lonely ones had lower empathy toward others. 

And while solitude definitely does not equal loneliness, it still speaks volumes as to how being alone can develop your sense of empathy and understanding, even if it seems ironic. 

5. They Can Handle Their Feelings

People who enjoy being alone often have a unique relationship with their feelings.

This is because solitude allows them to experience their emotions in a raw, pure form, without the influences or judgments of others.

It’s like standing in an empty room with your emotions – there’s no place to hide, no distractions to mask what you’re feeling.

This might sound daunting to some, but it’s actually a beautiful thing.

Imagine feeling joy – pure, unadulterated joy – and knowing it comes from within you.

Or experiencing sadness and understanding that it’s okay to feel this way, that it’s part of being human.

It takes strength to face your emotions head-on and not rely on others for emotional stability or happiness.

People who enjoy solitude have this strength. They’ve learned to embrace their feelings, the good and the bad. They know that emotions aren’t something to be afraid of but are a part of who we are.

6. They Are Patient

Patience isn’t easy.

It’s not easy to wait for the right moment, the right opportunity, or even the right person.

It’s not easy to hold back when all you want to do is rush forward.

But those who enjoy solitude are the most patient among us.

You see, when you’re alone, you can’t escape from yourself.

You can’t hide from your thoughts or your feelings.

And sometimes, that can be pretty uncomfortable.

But those who enjoy solitude, they sit with that discomfort. They wait. They breathe through it. They let it wash over them until it doesn’t feel so uncomfortable anymore.

And this patience often seeps into other areas of their life – they are more likely to be patient with others, patient with their dreams and goals, patient with life’s ups and downs.

So yeah, being patient isn’t easy, but those who enjoy being alone seem to have a knack for it.

They’ve turned patience from a virtue into a way of life. And there’s something incredibly powerful and liberating about that.

7. They Think About Their Actions

Here’s an interesting fact: studies have shown that solitude can boost your brain’s ability to think creatively and critically.

People who enjoy being alone often use their solitude to reflect on their actions and decisions.

They think about why they did what they did, how it affected them, and what they might do differently next time. It’s like having a constant feedback loop with yourself.

So, solitude isn’t just about being away from others; it’s also about getting closer to your inner self.

It’s about learning from your past, planning for your future, and becoming a better version of yourself.

8. They Have Close Friends

As someone who enjoys solitude myself, I can vouch for this one. While I relish my alone time, I also deeply treasure my close friendships.

You see, those of us who enjoy being alone usually value quality over quantity when it comes to relationships.

We may not have a large group of friends or be the life of the party, but the friendships we do have are deep and meaningful.

For instance, I may not hang out with my friends every day or even every week, but when we do get together, we have heartfelt conversations that leave us feeling understood and appreciated.

We share our dreams and fears, our achievements and mistakes, and all the little things that make up our lives.

So, while it may seem like we’re always in our own world, we do value the connections we have with others. It’s just that we prefer these connections to be genuine and meaningful.

9. They Value Their Time

Let’s cut to the chase: time is precious.

And those who enjoy their own company, they really get that. They understand that every moment is a gift and shouldn’t be wasted on things or people that don’t bring them joy or value.

They’re not about to spend their time on meaningless interactions or activities just for the sake of filling their day.

No, they’d rather use their time in ways that enrich their lives.

They’d rather dive into a good book, go for a nature walk, work on a passion project, or even simply sit in silence, enjoying their own thoughts.

10. They Are Comfortable With Themselves

Here’s the truth: being alone with yourself requires bravery.

It means facing yourself – your thoughts, your feelings, your flaws, your dreams. And that can be pretty daunting.

But those who enjoy solitude, they’ve faced themselves. They’ve seen themselves at their best and at their worst and have accepted it all. They’re comfortable in their own skin.

They don’t need constant validation from others because they’ve learned to validate themselves. They don’t need others to make them feel worthy because they already know that they are.

So remember this – people who enjoy solitude aren’t just comfortable being alone; they’re comfortable with who they are.

And if you ask me, that’s one of the most liberating feelings in the world.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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