People who dislike confrontation often use these 10 phrases to avoid it

We all have our battles, but for some, the war zone is a conversation charged with conflict.

You might look back on your past encounters and wonder why you always chose to retreat rather than engage, or perhaps you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells in an attempt to maintain peace.

So, how do you know if this aversion to confrontation is just a personality trait or if it’s a defense mechanism reflecting deeper insecurities?

After observing countless interactions and reflecting on my own tendencies, I’ve compiled a list of common phrases often used by those who shy away from confrontation.

If these phrases sound familiar, it’s likely that you too, are averse to conflict and it might be time to address this trait.

Let’s begin.

1) “Let’s just drop it”

When conflict arises, our instinct is often to protect ourselves.

If you frequently find your words echoing “Let’s just drop it”, it’s likely that you’re seeking an escape route rather than attempting to resolve the issue at hand. This phrase can be a double-edged sword.

On one hand, it might appear that you’re taking the high road, avoiding unnecessary drama.

On the other hand, though, it could indicate your discomfort with confrontation, and your desire to sweep problems under the rug rather than facing them head-on.

While it’s certainly not wrong to want to promote peace, consistently avoiding difficult conversations can lead to unresolved issues and strained relationships.

Recognizing this pattern is the first step towards learning how to navigate conflict in a healthier way.

2) “Whatever you say”

The phrase “whatever you say” is often used as a defense mechanism to avoid further conflict. It’s a way of shutting down the conversation and giving in without truly agreeing.

When you use this phrase, it might seem like you’re being agreeable and flexible.

But in reality, it can signal that you’re stepping back to avoid the discomfort of confrontation, even if it means letting go of your own viewpoint or opinion.

To avoid excessively using this phrase, remember that your thoughts and feelings are valid.

Avoiding confrontation by dismissing your own perspective can lead to feelings of resentment or dissatisfaction. 

3) “I don’t want to argue”

This phrase is a clear indicator of an aversion to conflict. It’s a way of putting up a barrier, signaling that you’re not open to engage in a heated discussion.

While seemingly innocuous, this phrase can often be a red flag that you’re dodging conflict rather than managing it.

I know this because I’ve used this phrase myself more times than I care to admit.

I remember a time when a friend challenged my viewpoint during a heated discussion. Instead of standing my ground, I found myself saying, “I don’t want to argue.”

In my mind, I was keeping the peace, but in reality, I was avoiding the discomfort of confrontation and missing out on potentially fruitful dialogue.

4) “Can we talk about this later?”

“Can we talk about this later?” is a common phrase used by those who wish to postpone or avoid confrontation. It’s a way of putting off the conflict in hopes that it will resolve itself with time, or perhaps, be forgotten altogether.

The interesting part here is that delaying difficult conversations can actually amplify the stress associated with them. When we put off confrontation, the issue doesn’t just disappear; it often grows in our minds, leading to increased anxiety and worry.

Instead of delaying the conversation, it can be beneficial to face it head-on, fostering open communication and resolution.

5) “It’s not a big deal”

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Downplaying the situation is a tactic I’ve used more times than I can count to avoid confrontation.

Saying “It’s not a big deal” has often been my go-to when I wanted to escape an escalating argument or diffuse a tense situation.

I recall an incident where a colleague unintentionally undermined me during a team meeting. Instead of addressing the issue, I brushed it off saying, “it’s not a big deal”, even though I felt upset and devalued.

Using this phrase is like applying a band-aid to a wound that requires stitches; it temporarily covers the issue but doesn’t truly heal it. 

6) “I guess you’re right”

The phrase “I guess you’re right” is often used by those wanting to quickly end a confrontation. It’s a way of conceding, even when you might not fully agree with the other party’s viewpoint.

Once, during a disagreement with a friend, I found myself uttering these words even though I didn’t entirely agree with their perspective. I was so keen to avoid the discomfort of the conflict that I was willing to disregard my own viewpoint.

But it’s okay to stand by your views, even when they contrast with others.

7) “I don’t think it’s worth fighting about”

“I don’t think it’s worth fighting about” is another defense mechanism used to sidestep confrontation.

It subtly implies that the topic at hand is too trivial or unimportant to warrant further discussion or conflict.

I remember using this phrase during a disagreement with my partner about household chores.

By saying it wasn’t worth fighting about, I sidestepped the confrontation but also left an important issue unresolved.

8) “Let’s just agree to disagree”

“Let’s just agree to disagree” is a phrase often used when people want to avoid prolonging a confrontation. While it might seem like a diplomatic approach, it often serves as an escape hatch from a difficult conversation.

During a debate at work, I used this phrase as a means to exit the conversation which had become heated. But in doing so, I missed out on the opportunity for deeper understanding and compromise.

9) “I don’t like arguing”

The phrase “I don’t like arguing” is a clear indication of an aversion to confrontation. Though it’s a straightforward statement, it often serves as a request to end or avoid a conflict.

I’ve used this phrase in the past when I felt cornered during an argument, as a way to diffuse the tension and escape the confrontation.

10) “Can’t we just get along?”

Finally, the phrase “Can’t we just get along?” is used when someone is desperate to restore peace and avoid further confrontation. It’s a plea for harmony, often at the cost of unresolved issues.

I’ve found myself saying this during family disagreements when I was more focused on keeping the peace than addressing the underlying issues.

Final thoughts

Becoming aware of your tendency to use these phrases can help in understand your conflict avoidance patterns and work towards healthier communication strategies.

This is crucial to understanding your habits around conflict avoidance and working towards more effective communication strategies.

By being aware of this, you’re able to better understand the implications of these phrases, which can guide you towards better conflict management strategies.

Remember, recognizing and addressing the use of these phrases can help you evolve your skills for managing and resolving conflicts effectively.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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