People who constantly feel lonely but never talk about it usually display these behaviors (without realizing it)

We all go through bouts of feeling alone now and then—it’s just part of being human. 

But you know what’s weird? 

Loneliness often carries this weird stigma, making folks, especially those dealing with it long-term, go to great lengths to hide it. 

So, here are 8 signs to help spot those who might be quietly battling loneliness. Maybe you can reach out and lend a hand—or hey, maybe it’s a nudge for you to give it a little more thought.

1) They binge

As someone who has battled with loneliness throughout my life, I can definitely relate to this one.

Binging can take many forms; for me, it’s often a TV series.

When the feeling of being disconnected from the world around me gets too intense, whether due to the end of a relationship or a falling out with a close friend, I often try to cope by diving into excessive and mindless binge-watching sessions.

It’s like a temporary escape, you know? 

Research even suggests that binge-watching can trigger similar responses in the brain as other addictive behaviors like drinking or drug use. It’s all about that dopamine hit, giving us a brief respite from our troubles.

People dealing with loneliness might turn to other addictive behaviors to distract themselves, like overeating. 

If you notice a friend, partner, or coworker diving deep into a series every weekend or whenever they have free time, it might be worth digging deeper into what’s going on with them.

2) They buy compulsively

Lonely folks sometimes turn to impulsive shopping sprees as a way to fill that emotional gap in their lives. 

You know, the lack of those quality connections makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. 

So, they hit the shops, thinking that buying more clothes, gadgets, or whatever will somehow make them feel connected, even if it’s just for a little while.

It’s like they’re trying to buy their way into feeling less alone

So, if you’ve got a friend or loved one constantly swiping that card, it might be a sign they’re struggling with loneliness. 

Offering them some real emotional support is what they need to break that cycle.

3) They’re overly active on social media

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You know, there’s this whole influencer culture where people constantly flood social apps with content, seeking likes and hearts.

But then there’s another side to it—those of us who keep ourselves glued to our screens, hoping for that virtual pat on the back.

Lonely folks often need to realize it before falling into this trap. They’re always scrolling, always looking to “connect,” and always the first to pop up on your feed with a like or comment.

I’ve been there too. When loneliness hits, Instagram becomes my go-to. 

But here’s the kicker—it’s a vicious cycle. 

We’re trying to fill that void with virtual connections, but it just ends up making us feel lonelier because of the dreaded fear of missing out.

So yeah, if you catch yourself or someone you know constantly buried in their phone, it might be more than just staying up-to-date—it could be a sign they’re seeking something deeper.

4) They overshare

One telltale sign of someone who’s battling loneliness but keeping it under wraps is oversharing personal information

Lonely individuals crave connection, so when they get the chance—whether it’s at the office water cooler or with a stranger during their daily commute—they seize the opportunity to spill personal details, hoping to forge a closer bond.

This tendency to overshare isn’t limited to face-to-face interactions; it extends to social media as well. 

You might notice them frequently posting about their pets, plants, or even their meals. But don’t mistake this behavior for attention-seeking or narcissism.

It’s actually their way of trying to kickstart conversations by laying bare their vulnerabilities.

5) They don’t talk about their personal lives

You know, not everyone who’s lonely spills all their personal stuff. Sometimes, they just clam up about it altogether.

Why? Well, it’s because of this whole stigma around loneliness. People think if you’re lonely, you must be some kind of social failure who can’t make friends or do anything fun.

And when you start feeling self-conscious about being lonely, you end up keeping it all under wraps. You don’t want anyone to think you’re a loser or feel sorry for you.

I’ve been there too. Fridays used to be the worst for me because I knew my coworkers would ask about my weekend plans. But the truth was, I didn’t have any plans – especially not with other people. I just didn’t want them to pity me or judge me for it.

6) They’re often bored

Boredom and loneliness often go hand in hand.

Even if lonely individuals have a social circle, they may still feel disconnected from them on a deeper level, leaving them with a sense of emptiness.

So, what happens next?

Well, they might end up self-isolating to avoid that feeling of emptiness even when surrounded by people. Or, they might push themselves to socialize, only to find that their emotional needs still aren’t being met.

Either way, boredom tends to creep in.

It’s like they’re stuck in this routine that feels completely meaningless because it doesn’t address their emotional or social needs.

One way to help is by figuring out what’s causing the boredom in the first place. Is it because they lack an empathetic social circle, hobbies, goals, or something else entirely? 

Once you understand the root of the issue, you can start finding ways to address it and provide support.

Final thoughts:

Loneliness is something many people try to hide or push away, but the reality is it’s a normal part of life.

The key is to address it before it spirals out of control and begins to impact mental health and overall well-being.

Encouraging individuals to reach out to friends, family, or professionals to acknowledge and discuss these feelings is crucial. 

As a supportive friend or caring individual, you can also suggest various ways to combat loneliness, such as engaging in activities, spending time in nature, taking a break from social media, or even considering getting a pet.

Above all, what truly matters is listening with empathy and understanding their perspective. 

By offering a listening ear and genuine support, you can help them navigate through their feelings of loneliness and find healthy ways to cope.

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Lily Gareth

Beirut-based writer with a flair for all that is artistic. Follow her on Instagram: @raysofdisarrays

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