People who become better quality humans as they get older usually display these 8 behaviors

Did you know that our brains continue to develop and change throughout our lifetime?

This phenomenon is commonly referred to as neuroplasticity, and it essentially means that the neural networks in our brains constantly strengthen or weaken based on which pathways are used more or less frequently.

If you use your “French language” or “gratitude” pathways every day, it’s easier for your thoughts to be optimistic or for you to keep up your fluency.  The same applies when the opposite is the case.

Therefore, the way you approach life can totally determine whether you grow into a high-quality, self-aware and kind human or not.

Want to know more?

Here goes…

People who become better quality humans as they get older usually display these 8 behaviors.

1) They accept that change is part of growth

If there’s one constant you can always rely on, it’s that everything eventually changes.

Unfortunately, some people didn’t get the memo. No matter how old they get, they stubbornly remain the same for fear of losing a bit of themselves.

What they don’t realize is that their sense of self is a fluid concept. It can’t be determined by specific traits, hobbies, or their job. We are always in a state of flux.

I used to grow up alongside a friend who took great care to fashion a stable and clear identity for herself. Once she made up her mind on something, she struggled to let that opinion go because she’d incorporated it into her sense of self.

Then there came the arguments. The conflicts. The refusal to budge, adapt, and grow.

My friend was so set on remaining the same – having the same labels, opinions, hobbies, and traits throughout the years – that she grew up to be an adult yet still often operated from the mindset of a teenager.

She refused to change. In the meantime, I changed so much that we no longer knew one another. Not really.

2) They actively try to get to the bottom of their personal issues

Everyone’s got issues.

Sorry, that’s just a fact. From insecure attachment styles to troubling relatives or traumatic memories, we’ve all been dealt some sort of a problem in life.

And while we may not have caused it, we are the only ones who can solve it.

I know. It’s not fair. But it’s the truth.

As someone who is deeply interested in self-development and psychology, I have read countless books that have helped me dig into my issues, unpack them, and finally solve them so that I can move on.

When I suggest such books to most of my family and friends, though, they are interested for about ten minutes. They very rarely actually read the books I recommend. It’s simply too much work.

Of course, some people aren’t into books, which is fine and well – it’s also totally possible to watch videos, talk to a therapist, and think about one’s problems in depth.

In my experience, though, most people can’t be bothered, which is why they carry their issues and traumas into intimate relationships, family situations, and their own adulthood.

3) They prioritize relationships

Speaking of relationships, did you know that one of the longest studies on happiness has found that the quality of our relationships is what truly seals the deal?

If you have fulfilling relationships that bring value into your life, your mental and physical well-being is more likely to thrive.

This makes sense when we remember that loneliness has been compared to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day.

People who become better-quality humans as they get older usually realize that it is not material possessions or career status that ultimately make us happy.

It’s the people we surround ourselves with.

Therefore, it’s absolutely vital that we only let people who truly have our best interests at heart into our lives.

And then it’s time to nurture those relationships, put in the effort, and flourish alongside each other.

4) They continually strive to learn more about the world

Remember what we said about neural pathways?

Let’s circle back to that.

Someone who grows to be a better-quality human is also someone who doesn’t stagnate. 

Their neurons are always firing in new directions and their thoughts walk down neural paths that are good for them, not the opposite.

They are curious to learn more about the world, be it by reading history books, watching space documentaries, traveling, picking up new hobbies, or getting to know people whose life ideologies differ from theirs.

They know that becoming an adult isn’t the final destination. It’s just the start.

You’ve got a whole life ahead of you. The more questions you ask, the more you get to know about yourself, and the higher your chances of becoming the best version of yourself there are.

5) They stay in touch with their childlike playfulness

personality traits more important to success than intelligence People who become better quality humans as they get older usually display these 8 behaviors

When I was about fifteen, I read The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry for the first time.

What appears to be a children’s book is actually a profound lesson for adults – the story is all about the importance of keeping our childlike wonder alive for as long as we live.

Back then, I promised myself I would strive to always stay in touch with my playful side, and so far, I’m happy to report I have stuck to that promise.

My playfulness and imagination are thriving more than ever before, and I often find myself escaping into fantasy worlds, writing up stories, and enjoying arts and crafts afternoons with friends.

And why would a sense of wonder make you a better-quality human, you may ask?

Well, as psychologist Karin Arndt PhD describes:

“Reawakening the sense of wonder does not simply help us appreciate the beauty of nature. It can help heal a sense of alienation and loneliness. Because when a person is truly present to more-than-human world, how could they ever really feel alone?

“In working toward the recovery of a sense of wonder, we are cultivating an ability to see beyond ourselves, beyond the limits of the human bubble. It is a humbling process; humility is a necessary ingredient to the experience of awe and wonder. Via our humility, via our personal smallness, the larger world reveals itself to us more fully.”

6) They embrace the power of gratitude

Once you feel a sense of wonder, it becomes easy to get the sense that it’s a privilege to be human. To be able to experience the world in all its beauty.

Personally, gratitude has quite literally transformed my life. My day-to-day was once riddled with complaints, negativity, and dreams of a better future.

Now that I’ve incorporated gratitude into my routine and mindset, though…

I very rarely complain. In fact, I spend most days in a good mood, satisfied to be able to do the work I love, move my body in the gym, and read wonderful books written by brilliant authors.

Too many people are trapped in the cycle of lusting for more but never feeling like they have enough.

Abandon your scarcity mindset. Embrace gratitude.

Once you begin to see and appreciate everything that you already have, you will be in tune with more of the same energy, opening yourself up to abundance and happiness.

7) They make their peace with the past

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure,” Oprah Winfrey once said.

Living in the present moment is incredibly important because the present is the only time when we are experiencing life as it happens.

The future is an imaginary land of what ifs and the past is nothing but a recollection of memories that fade away with time.

This is why people who become better-quality humans as they get older usually choose to leave the past behind.

They don’t spend their days wondering what would have happened if they got a different job twenty years ago.

They don’t let their regrets eat them whole as they toss and turn in bed at night.

They don’t curse their younger selves for acting the way they once did.

Instead, they slowly come to feel at peace with everything that’s happened; everything they’ve done.

They know that they have no power over the past.

They can only control the present.

8) They prime their minds for optimism

Thanks to neuroplasticity, it is absolutely possible to become a more optimistic person. It does take active effort, however.

From manifestation to positive affirmations and banishing negative self-talk, optimism and self-love can be learned and incorporated over time.

And do you know what ultimately makes a good-quality human?

The fact that they have nurtured so much love and optimism within themselves that they generously share it with everyone around them.

In other words, kindness.

Kindness is something you can give without losing yourself, something that multiplies when shared. And it’s the highest-quality human trait anyone can possess.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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