People who balance alone time with a vibrant social circle usually possess these 14 qualities

We tend to think of people as leaning more towards being extroverted or introverted. 

And usually that’s true. 

But what about those who are just about an equal balance of both?

What about those who have a busy and exciting social life but also enjoy spending time alone and being perfectly solitary?

Here’s a look at the traits that define these rare, mixed individuals. 

1) Strong self-awareness

Strong self-awareness is a starting prerequisite for those who love being outgoing and love time alone. 

They know their limits and they also know their desires socially. 

This allows them to balance social activities with time alone, and get the most out of both. 

They understand their own needs and are conscious of when they need solitude and when they crave social interaction.

2) Adaptable and flexible

It can be hard for some of us to switch from “go mode” and our outgoing self to our interior and “chill” self. 

Not so for this rare individual. 

They can seamlessly transition between social settings and alone time without feeling overwhelmed or disconnected.

It’s no big deal for them. They can be quietly curled up reading a profound novel and be out socializing with friends at the pub an hour later without feeling stressed. 

They roll with the punches. 

3) Clear communicators

Those who are able to balance being outgoing with being solitary are also very good at saying what they mean and meaning what they say.

Effective communication allows them to express their need for alone time or socializing without causing misunderstandings.

They are clear and they are specific. They don’t feel bad about saying no, but they also are fine with calling up a friend and saying they feel like going out. 

By being an effective communicator they are respected and well-liked. 

4) Empathetic and caring 

Those who love their time out and their time in also tend to be very caring and empathetic

They can empathize with others’ needs for personal space or companionship, fostering healthy relationships.

By reading social cues easily and picking up on how others are feeling, they are able to pick up on how others are feeling too. 

Sometimes it’s a time to party, sometimes it’s time for some one-on-one quiet talks with a friend, or sometimes they’d rather head to the woods for a tranquil walk alone and listen to the birds. 

5) Effective time management

Being able to have a very social, outgoing self and a very private, alone self is a balancing act. 

It requires prioritizing scheduling obligations and deciding what’s vital and what’s not. 

Balancing alone time and socializing requires effective time management skills to prioritize both aspects of life.

Those who are good at this are able to slot in time to be alone and time to be more sociable, all while still hitting their target at work. 

6) Resilient and generally upbeat

Those who are more extroverted draw their energy from their interactions with others and being around people. 

Those who are more introverted are the opposite. 

Those who are both in equal measure and greatly enjoy their social time and their alone time are highly adaptable as I previously noted. 

They can bounce back from social interactions or alone time with resilience, maintaining a positive outlook.

Their high level of energy and upbeat nature means they enjoy when nobody’s around and love when somebody is. They’re good with either, when the time is right. 

This brings up the next point…

7) Energized when alone or in groups

Those who balance their outgoing side with their alone time are energized in both scenarios. 

They are comfortable in their own company and equally confident when engaging with others in social situations.

They may feel more like one than the other at certain times, but overall they draw strength and enjoyment from both scenarios. 

They can be the life of the party and the sole figure meditating on the hill feeling perfectly at peace alone:

Both are equally them. Both are roles equally true to who they are. 

8) Open-minded and avoidant of labels

you genuinely enjoy being alone People who balance alone time with a vibrant social circle usually possess these 14 qualities

Being open to new experiences and different social settings enriches their life and allows for diverse connections.

These people are generally connected with folks from many walks of life. 

They don’t pigeonhole anybody, and they don’t like to be pigeonholed themselves, either. 

They are versatile and full of surprises, not least of all in the way they are both very solitary and very social:

And they like others who tend to have a very dynamic and versatile nature as well, which means they are open to folks from all walks of life. 

Speaking of open-minded…

9) Culturally aware and adaptable

Appreciating and understanding different cultures enhances their ability to connect with a diverse range of people.

These folks are fascinated by many cultures and experiences and also love to learn:

They intermix freely with groups, cultures and people from all sorts of belief systems and diverse backgrounds and feel energized by it. 

They don’t limit their experience of the world or the people in it. 

10) Able to set firm boundaries

Those who can balance the outer and the inner in such a way are great communicators, as I wrote. 

They have limits that they stick to as well, which leads people to fully respect them when they say no, and to take interest when they express a wish. 

They are people that others listen to, because they are able to turn down invitations or stay alone at times as well without feeling selfish or guilty. 

Establishing clear boundaries helps them protect their alone time and maintain the quality of their social interactions.

11) Cultivating personal hobbies

When it comes to the alone time side of their equation, these folks are very passionate about certain solo hobbies. 

They like to learn new skills and perfect and hone them on their own time. 

Engaging in personal hobbies and interests during alone time helps them recharge and maintain a sense of individuality.

They love to practice their hobby and get better at in privately, as well as in groups. Plus, what they do alone they will often connect with others over in sharing what they like and what they’ve learned. 

12) Generous and broad-minded

Sharing experiences and time with others shows generosity, strengthening their social connections.

These people are generous with others and like to give of their time and energy.

They are bright sparks in a sometimes dull world. 

As Jack Kerouac memorably put it:

“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles…”

13) Remaining in the present moment

Being present in the moment allows them to fully enjoy both alone time and social interactions without distractions.

They remain present and enjoy what’s happening, making new friendships and connections during social times and retreating to a more solitary time at other moments. 

In all situations they are present and drinking it in. They find value in the more extroverted and the more introverted. 

It’s all part of the rich array of experiences that makes them who they are and which they love to contribute to and be part of.

14) Strong self-love

These people love themselves. 

They feel no need to define themselves or fully choose to be externalized or interior. 

They love being both. 

They love having a very extroverted aspect and a very introverted aspect; the paradoxical interplay makes them thrive. 

A healthy dose of self-love and self-care ensures that they value their own company as much as they value their social connections.

Paul Brian

Paul Brian

Paul R. Brian is a freelance journalist and writer who has reported from around the world, focusing on religion, culture and geopolitics. Follow him on and visit his website at

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