People who are truly happy being single usually display these 7 traits

Despite what Hollywood (or society) leads us to believe, being single isn’t the worst thing in the world. 

The economy isn’t going to collapse, civilization will continue to thrive, and you won’t (necessarily) become a shriveled-up old hag with 20 cats waiting to eat your face (i.e. lonely). 

That’s right Mom. I’m talking to you! 

Singlehood actually has its benefits. And with nearly 40% of adults in the U.S. remaining unpartnered, they can attest that you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy. It comes from within.

No wonder up to 47% of Americans are single by choice.

So, whether you’re an anxious parent, a concerned friend, or a “family-friendly” politician, here are seven traits of someone who’s truly happy being single.

Let’s help put your mind at ease (TL;DR they’re going to be okay). 

1) They are fiercely independent

Let’s kick off this list with a fairly obvious one…

People who are truly happy being single are often fiercely independent.

Think about it.

When you’re in a relationship, there’s always someone else to consider. As a singleton, you can eat where you want, go where you want, and wake up when you want.

All without a second thought. You don’t even have to worry about who gets what side of the bed. It’s a moot point. 

This unlimited “me-time” gives them the freedom to pursue their interests and hobbies. 

As a result…

2) They have an artistic streak

It sounds like a bit of a cliche at this point, but singletons are often very creative. 

However. While you might be tempted to picture a tortured and lonely artist who’s teetering on the verge of insanity (cough, Vincent van Gogh)…


These visionary souls thrive in solitude. It’s backed up by science!

Even more startling, is that research shows the longer you’re in a relationship for, the more your artistic prowess fades with time. 

Simply put…

Although love and romance can inspire creativity in people, those in couples are destined to become less artistically inclined. 

Part of the reason for this is because single people simply have more free time. This allows for greater productivity all around, which works out because…

3) They are incredibly ambitious (and career-orientated)

Whether it’s being career-orientated, entrepreneurial, or simply mastering a new skill or sport…

Single people have more ambition and drive to reach their goals than those in a relationship – especially if you happen to be a woman. 

At least according to research.

That’s right. Studies have found that women often act less ambitious around men. 


Well, in an article by the Harvard Business Review, they claim that men prefer women who don’t put their careers first.

But that’s not all…

The fact is, single people typically have more time (and fewer distractions) which allows them to put more energy into the things they love.

It’s kind of a no-brainer really. 

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4) They are extremely self-aware

Being in a relationship can be pretty taxing. Not to mention, overwhelming and all-consuming.

There’s drama, commitments, compromises, and important dates to remember. It can be a lot to process on the daily.

But according to relationship expert, Susan Winter, “it’s the price of love.”

When you’re single, on the other hand, there’s none of that. Instead, you’re (mostly) left to your own devices and individualistic thoughts. In short, you’re more likely to have an uncluttered mind. 

Therefore, single people are free to better themselves through introspection, self-reflection, and most importantly, self-improvement.

The result? 

Singles are more self-aware and free to grow and develop at their own pace. Something that can lead to better life satisfaction (and happiness).

5) They crave adventure 

Look, I’m not saying people in a relationship can’t be adventurous. Of course, they can. But there’s usually a lot of planning involved (for both of you). 

For instance…

Schedules to figure out, vacation time to organize, and then there’s the destination (plus all the bells and whistles) to think about. 

And that’s all before you even book anything or go anywhere. 

But not if you’re single. Instead, you’re free to drop everything and travel to an undisclosed exotic location on a whim. 

What’s more, you’re more likely to scoop up that last-minute plane ticket or travel package for one – and at an amazing price point. 

All because you’re flexible

But that’s not all…

Research shows that uncommitted men are more likely to engage in risk-taking (or adventurous) behavior. In contrast, men in relationships are less likely to make risky decisions or try new things. 

According to science, it’s their way of “showing off” to the opposite sex. If only for the short term

However, while men are typically more risk-prone, the number of females embracing solo travel is on the rise, with up to 72% of American women choosing to travel alone.

Apparently, it made them “feel more invigorated.”

6) They are resilient free-thinkers 

To be single is to go against the grain. 

Just take the movies, for example. They often market the dream of two people finding “the one,” falling madly in love, and living happily ever after together. As if that’s all there is to life. 

But it’s not just Hollywood. 

Friends, family, coworkers, religious institutions, and even the education system all lead us to believe being in a relationship is the be-all and end-all. 

You know, the thing that will make us eternally happy and fulfilled. But it’s all a stereotype.

And it’s this biased mindset (and stigma) that single people have to push against every day.

As a result, they are often more open-minded, free-spirited, and most of all, resilient when compared to their paired-up counterparts. 

7) They are actually very social

People often assume that singlehood and loneliness are one and the same. But it couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Instead, singletons are typically more fulfilled and content overall. 

What’s more, they often have more friends and a bigger social circle than (most) married couples. 

It’s quite simple really.

At the end of the day, being unattached gives them more time to make and maintain friendships with others (neighbors, coworkers, siblings, etc), rather than just focusing all their energy on one person (their partner).

So, as you can see, singledom isn’t inherently a bad thing. In fact, it can be incredibly rewarding and happiness-inducing.

Just take another look at these seven traits of people who are truly happy being single if you’re having doubts. 

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Leila El-Dean

Leila is a passionate writer with a background in photography and art. She has over ten years of experience in branding, marketing, and building websites. She loves travelling and has lived in several countries, including Thailand, Malaysia, Spain, and Malta. When she’s not writing (or ogling cats), Leila loves trying new food and drinking copious amounts of Earl Grey tea.

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