People who are struggling with parenting but won’t admit usually display these 6 behaviors

Parenting is tough. I get it.

You’ve probably had those moments where you’re up to your neck in dirty diapers, sleep deprivation, and toddler tantrums. And yet, what do you get in return?

You guessed it…judgmental looks and unsolicited advice.

At times, it might seem like you’re floundering in a sea of parenting struggles, feeling like no one understands or appreciates your efforts.

If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone.

It’s common for many of us to feel like we’re struggling with parenting, even though we might not openly admit it.

The truth is, maybe you’re doing better than you think. The signs aren’t always obvious.

Today, let’s explore six behaviors that parents who are secretly struggling but won’t admit often display.

Some of these may seem a little harsh.

So as you read this, remember that I’m not here to judge or criticize. If you identify with these behaviors, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means you’re human.

I’m simply here to shed some light on the less-talked-about side of parenting.

Perhaps you’re familiar with some of these behaviors…

…let’s find out.

1. You’re always feeling overwhelmed

I remember when my daughter was born. There were countless nights I would sit in the rocking chair, soothing her to sleep, only to realize that there were a mountain of chores waiting for me. I was constantly overwhelmed, feeling like I was drowning in responsibility. Sound familiar?

This is a common behavior among parents who are struggling but refuse to admit it. They often feel like they’re juggling too many balls at once, from managing household tasks to keeping up with their child’s needs. But remember, it’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t make you any less of a parent.

2. You lose your temper quickly

I’ll admit it, there were times when I lost my temper more quickly than I’d like to admit. Whether it was my son not eating his dinner or my daughter throwing a tantrum over a toy, my patience would wear thin.

If you find yourself snapping at your kids over the smallest things or getting frustrated more easily, you might be secretly struggling with parenting. We all have our moments, and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to take a step back and breathe. The fact that you’re aware of this behavior shows that you’re trying, and that’s what really counts.

3. You compare your parenting to others

In this age of social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others. You see your friend’s post of their child’s perfect report card or another parent sharing their kid’s artistic masterpiece, and you start wondering why your child isn’t achieving the same.

Did you know that according to a study by the University of Michigan, mothers who frequently compared themselves to others on social media felt more depressed, less competent and less positive about their co-parenting relationships?

It’s important to remember that what’s portrayed on social media isn’t always reality. Every child is different, with their own strengths and weaknesses. Instead of comparing, focus on celebrating your child’s individual achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

4. You often feel guilty

Guilt is a common emotion among parents, especially those who are struggling silently. You might feel guilty for working late, for not being able to afford that expensive toy, or for losing your temper. Guilt can be a heavy burden to bear, making you question your abilities as a parent.

But here’s the thing: guilt is a sign that you care deeply about your child’s well-being. It shows that you want to do what’s best for them, even if you sometimes fall short. And isn’t that what parenting is all about? Doing our best, learning from our mistakes, and loving our children unconditionally, no matter what. Remember, it’s not about being perfect; it’s about being present.

5. You struggle to find time for yourself

I often found myself putting everyone else’s needs before my own. Between work, chauffeuring kids to activities, cooking meals, and keeping the house clean, there just didn’t seem to be enough hours in the day.

One day, I found myself feeling exhausted and irritable, and I realized I hadn’t done anything for myself in weeks. Sound familiar? If you’re constantly putting everyone else first and neglecting your own needs, you might be in the same boat.

Remember that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. You can’t pour from an empty cup. So whether it’s reading a book, going for a run, or simply sitting quietly with a cup of coffee, find some time each day to do something that makes you happy. Your kids will thank you for it.

6. You neglect your relationships

When my children were young, my husband and I found ourselves more like ships passing in the night. Between work schedules, school drop-offs and pick-ups, preparing meals, and bedtime routines, we barely had time for each other. This isn’t uncommon; many parents find their relationships taking a backseat to their parenting duties.

Marital satisfaction usually declines after the birth of a child, especially for women. If you’re finding it hard to maintain your relationships—be it with your partner, friends, or family—it could be a sign of parenting struggle.

Remember that maintaining healthy relationships is crucial for your well-being, and happy parents are more likely to raise happy children. So don’t be afraid to schedule a date night or catch up with an old friend. It might not seem like much, but it can make a world of difference.

There you have it: six behaviors that could indicate you’re struggling with parenting more than you’re willing to admit. If you recognize any of these behaviors in yourself, take heart: being aware is the first step toward making positive changes. And remember, every parent struggles at times—you’re not alone in this journey.

Clifton Kopp

Clifton Kopp

Welcome to my writings on Ideapod! I'm a bit of a "polymath" in that I like writing about many different things. Often I'm learning from the process of writing. I hope you enjoy, and please leave a comment on one of my articles.

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