People who are self-conscious about their body usually display these 9 behaviors (without realizing it)

When I think back to my school days, some people seemed so nice and pleasant. But around certain people, they really weren’t.

They’d act differently and they’d even be a little cruel sometimes.

Years later when I started work, I started noticing these same things in my colleagues, too. It was only when I put two and two together that I realized what was going on.

These people felt insecure in themselves and their own bodies. It’s why they acted the way they did – although they didn’t even realize they were doing it!

When someone is self-conscious of their own body, these are the 9 behaviors you might notice in them.

Up first:

1) They comment on people’s figures

I remember vacationing with a friend once. During our whole trip, she commented on other women’s bodies. She’d call this woman a “normal” weight, that woman “too thin”, this woman “just like her” – the list went on.

I used to witness the same thing at work, too. People would comment on how “skinny” other people were or say things like, “That top doesn’t suit her figure”.

Why? Unfortunately, the answer is insecurity. My friend admitted how unhappy she was with her appearance during that trip – and her obsession with judging others stemmed from how much she was judging herself.

This is common with people who are self-conscious about their bodies. They’re obsessed with their own appearance, so they obsess about everyone else’s, too.

2) They criticize your eating habits

When someone doesn’t like the way they look, they get jealous about how others look.

Their jealousy is a little more noticeable than people think – and it comes through in the comments they make about what you eat.

Like if you order a salad, they’ll exclaim, “You’re getting a salad??”, like it’s the worst thing in the world.

Or if you order the burger with extra large chips, they’ll say, “Are you sure you want to eat that? It’s a lot of calories…”.

Yet someone secure in themselves doesn’t concern themselves with what you eat. They eat what they want, and they expect you to do the same – without a judgmental comment or a scoff in sight!

3) They avoid conversations about health and fitness

Someone self-conscious about their own body won’t like talking about how “healthy” yours is.

When my friend was going through a period of insecurity with her body, she couldn’t stand it when I talked about going to the gym. I even caught her rolling her eyes once or twice when I mentioned it!

She wouldn’t even ask me questions about my marathon training or how the actual event went. If I ever brought it up, she’d quickly find a way to change the subject.

Why? It was because conversations about fitness made her uncomfortable. When they were mentioned, it felt like an attack on her lack of fitness, rather than just a casual conversation.

So she avoided these conversations like the plague – and she’d even get mad sometimes when you brought them up!

4) They laugh at people who enjoy sporty things

Some people like sports. They enjoy going for evening runs, working out at the gym, playing netball on the weekends, or going for a swim.

Others would much rather stay at home, watching TV, reading a book, or learning something new.

Everyone has different hobbies and things they enjoy. Most people don’t have a problem with yours being different from theirs.

Yet people with body insecurities do! They make fun of others when they see them street running. They call you a sports nerd for joining the school hockey team.

Basically, they ridicule anyone who’s into anything sporty as a hobby.

5) They make you feel embarrassed for being fit

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Some friends of friends once invited me to run a 10k race with them. As an avid runner, I couldn’t sign up quickly enough! I thought it’d be fun to run with new people and train together.

But I was wrong. The others in the group were not runners. Which wasn’t a problem for me at all. I was happy to match pace and stop whenever they wanted to, chatting away during our downtimes.

It was THEM who had the problem with ME.

When I showed up in my running gear, they mocked me for what I was wearing. When I wasn’t out of breath and they were, they ridiculed me for it. It was a super uncomfortable situation.

I later realized it was just their insecurities at play. I didn’t care about their fitness levels because I was happy with myself. But they cared about mine because it made them feel threatened and “inferior”.

6) They only ever shop alone

Food shopping or clothes shopping – someone who’s self-conscious about their body will only ever like to do these things alone!

Why? Because shopping with others only highlights their own insecurities.

They feel judged for buying junk food at the store. Or for picking up a larger-sized jacket than the person they’re with. If they saw their friend pick up nice clothes that they didn’t think they could pull off, they’d get upset.

So they prefer to go it alone. By themselves, they can buy what they want and not feel like someone else is judging them for it!

7) They make self-deprecating comments

“I’m so fat”, “I’m so ugly”, “I can’t do anything”, “I’m a lost cause”.

In case you haven’t noticed, these are horrible things to say about yourself.

Some people think negative thoughts in their heads and don’t say them out loud. They try to ignore them and think of something more positive instead.

But some people let these thoughts escape their lips and rule their opinion of themselves! Experts refer to this behavior as self-deprecation.

It’s an easy trap to fall into and it’s very hard to get out of it. When you feel low, you self-deprecate. When you self-deprecate, you feel even lower.

It’s a bit of a vicious cycle. Which is how so many people end up stuck in a loop of feeling bad and insecure in their own skin.

8) They struggle to self-motivate

Speaking of vicious cycles, this is another one that can keep you stuck! When I was unhappy with my health, I wanted to start exercising.

But when I thought about exercising, I thought about how hard it would be. I knew I’d struggle to run for long and I’d get all hot and sweaty.

The same applied when I thought about going to the gym or starting a new sport. I knew I’d be bad at it and I’d get tired easily because I didn’t have much practice.

I knew I had to go to get better, but knowing it wasn’t going to go well made it hard to motivate myself. It was easier to stay as I was.

When someone is self-conscious of their body, they’ll feel this way, too. It’s why they might struggle with motivation, even though they genuinely want to do it.

They lie to make themselves sound better

People tell white lies all the time. “I’m fine”, “I like your shirt”, “Your new hair looks great”. We aren’t bad people for telling white lies. In fact, it actually makes us better people!

But people who feel self-conscious in their own skin don’t just tell white lies. They tell big, bad lies all the time.

Why? Because it makes them sound better than they think they are.

Remember when I said that insecure people are obsessed with other people’s appearance? Well, it’s because they’re obsessed with their own appearance first.

They’re judgmental of others because they’re so critical of themselves – and they think everyone is just like they are. So to avoid the criticism of others, they lie.

They say they go to the gym or that they eat healthily every night. They say the washing machine shrunk their clothes or that they lost a certain blazer.

They might even lie about what other people have said or done in the past to win your sympathy…

Final thoughts

People who behave in this way aren’t bad people. Feeling insecure in your own skin is one of the worst feelings in the world.

It isn’t easy to just turn off those thoughts, either. Working through your inner criticisms and changing your behavior takes time.

It has to be said though that these behaviors in a friend, partner, or family member can really hurt. Like those “friends” I went running with – their mocking comments cut deep and it wasn’t kind of them.

Your best bet when someone is acting this way? Either talk it out with them or keep your distance. Try to understand where their comments are coming from so you can detach yourself from the hurt you feel.

And finally, work on yourself and your own body positivity. So long as you look after yourself and keep doing so, it’s easier to look past the negativity and focus on the positives!

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Amy Reed

Amy Reed is a content writer from London working with international brands. As an empath, she loves sharing her life insights to help others. When she’s not writing, she enjoys a simple life of reading, gardening, and making a fuss over her two cats.

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