People who are never content in life often display these 7 subtle behaviors (without realizing it)

Do you ever feel like no matter how many goals you achieve in life, you never quite… reach your destination?

With every step forward, you’re moving toward the elusive thing we call happiness, and yet it always seems to slip out of your reach the moment you try to grab it.

Yeah. We’ve all been there.

Buckle in, because I’m about to tell you a harsh truth: you’ll never get there. Not in the sense you imagine, anyway.

Happiness, joy, contentedness, peace… those are things that only ever exist in the here and now. No matter your circumstances, being content is something you’ve got to continually practice.

It’s not a destination beyond the horizon. It’s within you.

Unfortunately, not everyone has come to accept that fact, and as a result, they are essentially never happy.

Are you one of such people? Let’s see.

People who are never content in life often display these 7 subtle behaviors (without even realizing it).

1) They’re always reaching out for more

Do you have goals? Great.

Do you take active steps toward making your dreams come true? Even better.

Do you expect that you will only ever be happy if you pass another milestone? Yikes.

See, this is the crux of the problem. Having aspirations in life is amazing – as long as you don’t expect them to fix all your issues.

I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re on a hedonic treadmill. According to Psychology Today, this is an idea that “an individual’s level of happiness, after rising or falling in response to positive or negative life events, ultimately tends to move back toward where it was prior to these experiences.”

The good news?

We’re all in this together. No matter how many goals humans achieve, our happiness levels eventually return to our “happiness baseline” as it were, which basically means that the high you get from making one of your dreams come true is only temporary.

A true state of being content is based on what you do in the intervals between the milestones. In cliché terms, it’s all about the journey.

Look around you. Think of all that you’ve already accomplished. You should be proud of yourself. Take a moment to appreciate all that you already have.

It’s wonderful to work hard for a better tomorrow, but don’t forget that what truly matters is today.

2) They constantly compare themselves to others

“Comparison is the death of joy.” Mark Twain said this over a century ago, and yet his words still ring true.

People who are never content in life tend to be so outwardly oriented – they’re always thinking about John’s success or Mary’s wits or Catherine’s bod – that they completely forget to direct their focus back to themselves.

Social media has made this issue all the worse because it gives us 24/7 access to glamorized bits and pieces of people’s lives from all over the globe.

Do you know when I stopped comparing myself to others?

When I realized that there would always be someone better than me. Unless you’ve won the Guinness World Record or an Olympic medal, there’s a high chance you’re not the absolute best at anything.

And you know what? That’s okay.

You’re not on this planet to win a competition or to feel good about yourself because you’ve got a better car than your neighbors. You’re here to experience life in all its beauty.

Your own journey is all that matters.

And if you do come across someone who has something you want – be it money, a muscular body, or an amazing spouse – take it as proof that your goals are achievable.

If they’ve done it, you can do it, too.

3) They refuse to take charge of their lives

When you’re in a car, you have no control over the state of the road or the fact that it’s raining on your windshield.

What you can, do, however, is grab the steering wheel, press your foot down on the gas pedal, and move forward.

This is essentially how life works. While there are a great deal of things you can’t influence, you’re always in charge of how you respond to those circumstances.

Unfortunately, people who are never content in life didn’t get the memo. They refuse to grab hold of the steering wheel and then they complain about how miserable they feel.

The fact that you got your heart broken or that you didn’t get the job you wanted isn’t your fault. Your reaction to these events, however, is 100% on you.

When you embrace that idea, you’ll realize that a victim mindset isn’t going to get you anywhere.

It’s time to put your foot on the pedal.

4) They almost always assume things will go wrong

spiritual awakening People who are never content in life often display these 7 subtle behaviors (without realizing it)

Psst. Lean in closer. I’ve got something to tell you.

What if – hear me out – your life will turn out exactly the way you want?

What if you still have new best friends to meet, new experiences to look fondly back on, and new nights filled with belly laughter?

It’s not easy to be an optimist, especially if you’ve suffered hardship in life and have been kicked in the butt more times than you can count.

But the way I see it, you and I both have two options:

  • Option A: We will assume that almost everything will go wrong to avoid disappointment, not realizing that the negativity we’re drowning in is already making us miserable and motivating us to stay stuck in a loop of worrying and anxiety
  • Option B: We will hope that maybe the world isn’t out to get us. We’ll keep working on ourselves and looking forward to everything the future has to hold, and this will motivate us to live happier, more fulfilled lives

Which option increases your chances of happiness?

I’ll wait.

5) They’re always busy because they can’t sit still

You’ve probably heard it already, but it bears repeating – your thoughts are the very basis of your life.

A thought is where it all starts. A thought gives way to emotion, which leads to a reaction, which creates a real-life event.

Therefore, learning how to stay in control of your thoughts – rather than letting them have power over you – is of the utmost importance.

Am I saying you should be able to control every thought that comes to mind? Not at all.

Many thoughts are involuntary and fleeting. They rise to the surface and disappear a few seconds later.

But your power lies in recognizing thoughts for what they are. Fleeting clouds that don’t have any impact on reality as long as you don’t let them have any.

This idea is at the core of meditation and mindfulness, both of which lead to improved well-being.

But in order to learn this skill, you’ve got to be able to sit still first. And that’s what people who are never content struggle with.

Instead of viewing their thoughts as passing clouds they can observe and let go, they are drowning in them, and the only way to turn the chaos off is to keep themselves busy.

All. The. Damn. Time.

But busyness isn’t going to save you. It’s a distraction, not a remedy.

6) They’re too harsh on themselves

It’s time to take a deep breath, sit down, and face your demons.

Of course, you might soon find out that this process is extremely uncomfortable. There might be a lot of negative self-talk going on in your head.

And that’s because a state of being content is ultimately tied to self-compassion and kindness to self. If you can’t be your best friend, you will always find a way to sabotage your happiness without realizing it.

Those of us who struggle to be truly happy tend to be extremely harsh on themselves. They are their worst critics; the strictest of parents; the worst of bullies.

Just think of how you speak to yourself.

Would you ever say those things to one of your loved ones?

No. So why are you so cruel to your own self? You deserve the same amount of love and care you give to others.

7) They’re tired a lot

If you’re unhappy in life, there’s a high chance you also don’t feel very motivated to get out there and seize the day.

And that lack of motivation may lead to procrastination or apathy, which might in turn trigger a cycle of passivity and fatigue. Fatigue is also tied to depression and burnout.

From personal experience, I know that it is often a passion project that gets me out of a rut.

If I’m stuck in a boring routine that doesn’t fulfill me, my motivation levels drop, and I just want to watch TV all day.

This is why people who struggle to be content also tend to feel quite lost in life. They aren’t quite sure what their purpose is, they haven’t yet found something that fulfills them on a fundamental level, and so they just… coast by, tired as hell.

If that sounds familiar, know that there is something out there for you. You do have a purpose. And eventually… you’ll find it.

Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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