If your partner doesn’t respect you, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

“Enough is enough,” we say. But what is “enough”? 

It’s a tough line to draw, especially in relationships where it is easy to become blind to what would normally be acceptable and what would not.  

Today, we draw that line by diving into eight behaviors you need to ditch if your partner doesn’t respect you. 

It’s time to reclaim your dignity.

Let’s get to it. 

1) Accepting (or creating) excuses for their poor behavior

It’s easy to fall into the trap of rationalizing or justifying our partner’s disrespectful actions. We tell ourselves, “They’re just stressed,” or “They didn’t really mean it. ” 

But here’s the thing: consistent disrespect, regardless of the reason, is not acceptable. 

Each time you accept an excuse, you’re sending a message that their behavior is okay, which only leads to a cycle of disrespect

Everyone has bad days, but repeated disrespect is a pattern, not an exception. And it’s one none of us should have to tolerate. 

Start holding your partner accountable for their actions and set clear boundaries. 

Remember, you teach people how to treat you, and it starts with not accepting excuses for behavior that diminishes your worth.

2) Overlooking your own needs 

Here’s a hard truth: always putting your partner’s needs first is a one-way ticket to Resentment City. 

If you’re constantly sidelining your own needs to keep the peace or because you’re hoping things will magically get better, it’s a problem.  

Spoiler alert: things won’t get better. 

I learned this one the hard way. Men, especially, are taught to be the strong, silent type, but in relationships. I once subscribed to this point of view. 

But by not considering my own needs, I was undervaluing myself. It took a while, but I learned that it is not a sign of strength. We need to take care of ourselves to have a healthy, balanced relationship. 

Speak up about what you need and how you feel. 

A partner worth their salt will hear you out and step up. If they don’t, it’s a pretty clear sign they’re not in it for the right reasons. 

3) Justifying their disrespectful comments

We might tell ourselves, “They’re just joking,” but if your partner’s comments regularly make you feel undervalued or insulted, it’s a serious issue.

Respectful partners don’t routinely make hurtful comments, even when joking.  Unaddressed, such comments gradually chip away at our self-esteem, sometimes without us even realizing it. 

If you relate to this, let your partner know how their words affect you and that it’s not acceptable. It’s possible they don’t know the comments they make are hurtful. 

Remember, you deserve to be spoken to with kindness and respect, always.

4) Accepting the “I’m too busy,” excuse 

If your partner’s go-to excuse for not supporting you is “I’m too busy,” it’s time to call B.S. 

Sure, life gets hectic, but constantly playing the busy card? 

It’s a big red flag. It says, “Hey, I don’t respect you enough to make time for you.” 

In a legit relationship, you’re supposed to have each other’s backs. It’s not just about being there when it’s convenient; it’s about being there, period. 

Feeling like you’re navigating life’s ups and downs solo?

If so, it’s time you stop making excuses for them and start asking for the support you deserve. 

If they care, they’ll step up. If they don’t, well, you’ve got some thinking to do. 

5) Tolerating always being last on their priority list

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We all know good relationships are not about being joined at the hip or ditching hobbies and friends. But if you’re constantly losing out to their phone, video games, or a night out with friends, that’s messed up. 

So, what do you do? 

Make your voice heard, even if it’s difficult. 

Let them know that being perpetually at the bottom of their to-do list feels lousy. It’s about striking a chord where both of you get to play lead. 

A partner with a shred of respect will listen. If they don’t, it’s maybe time to consider going solo for a while. 

6) Allowing your boundaries to be crossed 

We all have lines that shouldn’t be crossed. If your partner keeps hopping over these, it’s time for a wake-up call. 

I’d liken it to setting rules for a game; if everyone knows and respects the rules, the game is enjoyable. But if someone keeps breaking them, it’s not fun anymore. 

Personally, I’ve had times when I let my boundaries slide, thinking it would make the relationship smoother. 

It didn’t. It just led to more frustration and a feeling of being undervalued. 

Being clear about our limits and expecting them to be respected is not just important for our well-being, but it’s also a test for the relationship. 

So go ahead and make your boundaries crystal clear.

A partner who genuinely cares will understand and respect these boundaries. 

If they don’t, well, that tells you all you need to know. In the end, a relationship without respect isn’t a partnership you would want to be in, right?

7) Accepting their reluctance to compromise

Let’s get real about compromise. 

It’s like a dance. Sure, bending a bit for your partner is part of the deal, but if you’re bent over backward while they’re just standing there, that’s not compromise. It’s you being taken for a ride.

So, what’s the move? 

When a decision comes up, it’s time to say, ‘Hey, I’m here too. Let’s figure this out together.’ It’s not about keeping score; it’s about making sure everyone’s needs get airtime. 

If they’re really in this with you, they’ll get that. In a healthy relationship, both of you should feel like you’re on the same team, not on opposite sides of the court.

8) Overlooking their unwillingness to communicate 

Here’s a reminder of something we all know: great relationships are built on communication

In the past, I was the ‘villain’ on this one. I was guilty of avoiding communication in my relationships. 

It felt easier to keep things to myself than to open up and risk conflict or vulnerability. I thought that by not speaking up, I was keeping the peace. 

But the truth is, this silence was slowly eroding my relationships. 

The turning point came when a partner confronted me about it. She didn’t do it in a harsh or accusatory way, but her honesty was a wake-up call. She pointed out how my reluctance to communicate and share my thoughts was not just affecting our relationship negatively but also a sign of my own immaturity. 

This was a tough pill to swallow, but it was necessary. It made me realize that being mature in a relationship isn’t just about age or experience; it’s about being open, honest, and willing to tackle issues head-on.

If your partner is giving you the silent treatment, dodging deep conversations, or just nodding along without really listening, it’s a problem. 

Break the cycle. Have that hard conversation and make your feelings known in a calm manner. It’s about getting to the heart of things and understanding each other. 

You might just be doing them a favor. 

If they can’t handle a real conversation on this, however,  you’ve again got some thinking to do. 

The bottom line 

In the grand scheme of things, a relationship should be a two-way street filled with mutual respect, support, and open communication. 

If you find yourself constantly making excuses for your partner’s lack of these, it’s time to pause and reflect. Are you in a partnership or a one-sided affair? 

Remember, you deserve someone who’s as invested in you as you are in them. So, don’t be afraid to demand the respect, support, and communication you need. 

If they’re right for you, they’ll step up. If not, it might be time to step out and find someone who truly values what you bring to the table.

There are plenty of fish. 

Until next time. 

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Mal James

Originally from Ireland, Mal is a content writer, entrepreneur, and teacher with a passion for self-development, productivity, relationships, and business. As an avid reader, Mal delves into a diverse range of genres, expanding his knowledge and honing his writing skills to empower readers to embark on their own transformative journeys. In his downtime, Mal can be found on the golf course or exploring the beautiful landscapes and diverse culture of Vietnam, where he is now based.

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