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Osho reveals the one obvious truth about why you shouldn’t care what people think of you

It’s natural to worry about what people think of you. It’s something I’ve struggled with for most of my life.

The problem is acute when your sense of wellbeing is tied up in the opinions of others. You’re effectively giving up your own power and letting others dictate your life.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who has struggled with this. That’s why I love sharing profound advice from spiritual masters that help people to realize that it doesn’t matter what others think of them.

Nothing excites me more than seeing people let go of the need to seek approval from others. It’s one of the key signs of emotional maturity.

In this quote from the Zen spiritual teacher Osho, he helps us to understand that we know the truth about ourselves better than anyone else. No-one knows what’s best for you but yourself.

“Nobody can say anything about you. Whatsoever poeple say is about themselves. But you become very shaky, because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center depends on others, so you are always looking to what people are saying about you. And you are always following other people, you are always trying to satisfy them. You are always trying to be respectable, you are always trying to decorate your ego. This is suicidal. Rather than being distributed by what others say, you should start looking inside yourself…

“Whenever you are self-conscious you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. You don’t know who you are. If you had known, then there would have been no problem — then you are not seeking opinions. Then you are not worried about what others say about you — it is irrelevant!

“Your very self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home yet.”

We often talk about “enlightenment” on Ideapod’s blog, and it’s one of the key discussion items around why we share ideas at ideapod.com.

Enlightenment is hard to define, but I think Osho makes a valuable point at the end of this quote.


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Your self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home yet. A state of enlightenment seems to be about coming home to yourself.

For a long time I understood coming home to myself as about achieving some kind of mastery of my psyche.

Now, I feel that I’ve let go of this desire. I’m not as attached to seeking enlightenment or trying to help others do the same.

Instead, it feels easier to just “be”. I don’t really know what that means, but I’m more relaxed and happier this way.

I think a key development for me has been gradually letting go of my desire to please people around me. That’s a fool’s errand. It’s not possible to achieve.

Rather, I’ve embraced the idea that the only opinion that matters is my own. Osho has been one of the spiritual teachers that has helped me to see this.

I hope you get the same inspiration from these teachers as I have.

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  1. It is impossible for anyone to know enough about you to judge you fairly; hell it is impossible for you to know enough about yourself to judge yourself fairly. So, do not judge others and recognize that those who are trying to judge you are unaware of who you really are; so everything they say is really about themselves. LoL

  2. He also said this (thank you Mr. Wiki.):

    1. Never obey anyone’s command unless it is coming from within you also.
    2. There is no God other than life itself.
    3. Truth is within you, do not search for it elsewhere.
    4. Love is prayer.
    5. To become a nothingness is the door to truth. Nothingness itself is the means, the goal and attainment.
    6. Life is now and here.
    7. Live wakefully.
    8. Do not swim—float.
    9. Die each moment so that you can be new each moment.
    10. Do not search. That which is, is. Stop and see.

    I really do not see how this addresses the list of “problems” documented here on Ideapod. If I made a list of them on the right part of a page and the above on the left and attempted to draw a line between left and right columns, match solution to problem, I just do not see many connections. Perhaps there is a translation available for the above list so just people can understand what they mean?

  3. Thanks for sharing this list, @BillAmes. I find each of these points quite profound and a really good set of principles to live life by.

    I think to seek to relate this list to specific problems is far too restrictive. I would like to call your attention to the conversation you recently had with @ACD with regards to defining an idea:

    During this discussion @ACD shared this definition of an idea:

    https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/idea

    I find all of the uses of “idea” listed in this very useful and relevant to Ideapod. Ideapod is indeed a place for people to come together in sharing their beliefs and opinions, and exploring the “truth” together.

    Therefore I think constantly trying to relate “ideas” shared on Ideapod to specific “problems” isn’t aligned with the Ideapod platform and the direction we’re heading. Rather, Ideapod is a publishing platform for ideas shaping the world we live in - specifically the opinions, thoughts and beliefs that shape how we see and interact with the world and with each other. We provide spaces where people come together to explore these ideas together. That’s what Ideapod Discussions is about.

    Sharing the 10 points by Osho is very useful and relevant, and advances the discussion. Relating the ideas always to specific problems can be useful and informative in a discussion. But I find that you are relentless in doing this to the point of criticizing the Ideapod team and community members if they don’t share this same drive as you.

  4. It is because of my discussions here i am understanding what your web experience is trying to accomplish. What was holding me back was my use of the language. Knowing what an idea is (by a strict dictionary definition) I kept looking for the. If someone had started a website titles “recipepod” I would look for posts of how to prepare different foods. So for ideapod I was looking for ideas. Now I realize you are doing something different. People like me who base our expectations on what a word generally means may be confused when encountering Ideapod. If I were to pick a different word for use in my mind, not idea, perhaps “help” is better for me to use, people will find help here. The dictionary definition of help is a much better match for what you do. I had to discover this myself, no one here explained that to me. Help can come in many ways, if people practice “thinking” they will often discover they have the “help” within their own thoughts. How people should use ideapod is very subjective, there is no manual, so it is not likely people will tell others what is here, that is very hard to define. Websites like Dropbox or Grammarly have very specific tasks associated with what they do, what is the task for Ideapod? Perhaps it is a catalyst for thinking, a place to record their thoughts for others to learn from? For Ideapod to be successful it needs people using it, to achieve that it needs to be properly marketed. It can not take years for a person to discover the true meaning of Ideapod, as it did for me, you need to have a sales pitch that tells it all in 30 seconds. I took your new about words and came up with, “Ideapod is a website where you can have a conversation with a community that shares your interests. You will take part in discussions on many topics including science, humanities personal development and ideas to help the world in which you live.”

  5. Ideapod already has an audience with a few million monthly readers and 100,000 email subscribers. The vast majority of people read our articles without choosing to comment. We’re not basing our success on how many people choose to participate in the Ideapod Discussions area. Having said this, we’ll be working further on this discussions area in the coming months to make some improvements.

    Looks like a pretty good pitch of the Ideapod Discussions area, thanks for sharing it :slight_smile:

  6. ACD says:

    Back to Osho. It is important to be able to hear criticism from others (up to a point) and equally important for one to be able to express criticism to others (up to a point). Good ideas are forged in the fire of constructive criticism. Living in community, whether it be two or more, requires the mutual adherence (up to a point) to good ideas. That is part of what we may try to do here: forge good ideas for living together.

    Case in point:

    Climate change is nothing if not an idea relating to living in community. Yet people must be able hear each other if we are to forge a good idea relating to climate change.

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Written by Justin Brown

I'm the CEO and co-founder of Ideapod, a platform for people to connect around ideas. I'm passionate about people thinking for themselves, especially in an age of information overload.

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