I think we can all agree that emotional suffering is one of the toughest struggles to deal with in life. Whether it’s stress or anxiety, or a general feeling that life is meaningless, these negative emotions can take a dramatic toll on our mental health.
It can be even more difficult to figure out how to actually deal with them. Is it better to avoid these emotions the best way we can? Or should we look inside ourselves and confront our darkest demons?
This is where advice from Nikola Tesla comes in. In a brilliant quote from the famous scientist, he says that emotional suffering is caused by not looking inside ourselves.
Check it out here. After that, we’ll go over 26 questions you can ask yourself to get to know yourself better.
“From childhood I was compelled to concentrate attention upon myself. This caused me much suffering, but to my present view, it was a blessing in disguise for it has taught me to appreciate the inestimable value of introspection in the preservation of life, as well as a means of achievement. The pressure of occupation and the incessant stream of impressions pouring into our consciousness through all the gateways of knowledge make modern existence hazardous in many ways. Most persons are so absorbed in the contemplation of the outside world that they are wholly oblivious to what is passing on within themselves. The premature death of millions is primarily traceable to this cause. Even among those who exercise care, it is a common mistake to avoid imaginary, and ignore the real dangers. And what is true of an individual also applies, more or less, to a people as a whole.” – Nikola Tesla
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26 Questions to Get to Know Yourself Better
Getting to know who you truly are is one of the powerful things you can do for yourself. Not only will make your goals in life in clear, but you’ll also know what you don’t want to do in life.
Below, I’ve found 29 questions from PsychCentral that allow you to be honest with yourself.
Find a place that’s quiet, take a few deep relaxing breaths, clear your mind of noise and clutter and dive in. Know that there are no right or wrong answers. There is only you uncovering the process of building a closer relationship with the person within.
1) What are my strengths?
2) What are my short-term goals? Long-term goals?
3) Who matters most to me? Who are my support people?
4) What am I ashamed of?
5) What do I like to do for fun?
6) What new activities am I interested in or willing to try?
7) What am I worried about?
8) What are my values? What do I believe in? (consider politics, religion, social issues)
9) If I could have one wish, it would be ___________
10) Where do I feel safest?
11) What or who gives me comfort?
12) If I wasn’t afraid, I would ___________
13) What is my proudest accomplishment?
14) What is my biggest failure?
15) Am I a night owl or an early bird? How can I arrange my life to better suit this part of my nature?
16) What do I like about my job? What do I dislike?
17) What does my inner critic tell me?
18) What do I do to show myself self-compassion and self-care?
19) Am I an introvert or an extrovert? Am I energized being around others or being by myself?
20) What am I passionate about?
21) What is my happiest memory?
22) What do my dreams tell me?
23) What is my favorite book? Movie? Band? Food? Color? Animal?
24) What am I grateful for?
25) When I’m feeling down I like to ___________________
16) I know I’m stressed when I ______________________